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How to Ask a Guy Out | 5 Sure Fire Ways to Get a Yes!

Asking a Guy Out Can Be Fun with These 5 Tips!

For as long as I have been interested in women, I dreamed that just one would walk up and ask me out, “Gregg, you handsome devil, wanna go out with me?”

56 years later – I’m still waiting!

OK maybe a few did but I sure as heck can’t remember when and, if a woman did, she probably was a hunch back with a tail.

Men are rooting for you to ask them out.

My point being, is to ask a man out! We want you to. Men will root for you. We are more afraid than you are – that I can guarantee.

Add the #Metoo movement and now we think you will have us arrested if we even flirt with you.

It takes some degree of confidence in yourself to ask a guy out. I get that. That’s why my website for women has a slogan across the header that says, Build Yourself and He Will Come!

If you see yourself cringing at these five ways on how to ask a guy out then you need to hit the confidence page and get some.

So what are the best ways to ask a guy out? The key is to put yourself in the position to ask a guy out so you can ask the question more comfortably.

The actual question is often the easy part. It takes confidence, but it’s easy.

How to ask a guy out:

#1: Pick something on your bucket list and go for it!

Let’s make asking a guy out easy by setting the stage.

Brainstorm 50 ideas (hobbies/passions/new adventures) narrow to 10. Pick 1 or 2, sign up and go! The goal here is to get exposure and join with guys that you have things in common with. This takes the pressure off from meeting a man while you are having fun!

Don’t join yoga unless you are asking women out.

After a couple of white water trips, for example, it’s a hell of a lot easier to look at the guy who paddled you down the river and say, “Jim, you saved my life from those class 5 rapids, let me take you out for a cocktail Saturday!”

Notice you are telling him and not really asking. This shows confidence!

If he says yes, then you are golden, if he says no, then pat yourself on your shoulder and paddle away.

#2: Use a corny pickup line

Guess what? Pick up lines suck if you’re a guy using them on a woman.

But, they work the bomb directed to guys from women! Why? Because we are a bunch of barely grown up third graders and crappy pickup lines were a part of our heritage. I still laugh at them with my friends.

So when you use them towards a man you are tickling his funny bone and that’s a good thing!

Here are a few:

Do you have a sunburn, or are you always this hot?

I seem to have lost my phone number. Can I have yours?

Are you Australian? Because you meet all of my koala-fications.

I’m not drunk, I’m just intoxicated by YOU!

OK I cheated and stole these here – https://www.pickuplinesgalore.com/cheesy.html

Your goal is to get him laughing. You don’t even need to be smooth. If you mess up the punch line that’s even better!

How to Ask a Guy Out Tip #3: Study comedy and use it towards strangers

Getting him to laugh makes it easy to ask him out!

The best way to get to know someone is to make them laugh. I was gifted with funniness, (is that a word?) so I was lucky, but some women have nothing.

Change this by going to comedy shows and listening to comedians. Steal a few lines. Watch their deliveries. Practice on your friends. It works.

I have ten or so lines that I still use today and they are the perfect way break the ice so you can ask a guy out.

For example, when I go to my place in Delray Beach, I always eat at the same sushi bar. There are a lot of other people sitting next to me. I poke my raw tuna with my chopsticks and say in a loud voice, “A skilled veterinarian could bring this tuna back to life”

Is it stupid? Yes. Is it funny? Hell yeah! Everyone laughs. A steak restaurant works too.

The sillier the better when it comes to lines. I was with a group of women in LA and one wanted to meet this guy. I told her to grab the guys little drink umbrella and put it in her hair, smile, say her friends challenged her to do it, and offer to buy him another drink.

He laughed his ass off and bought her a drink. It works.

I swear the more you act like a little kid, the more a man is drawn to you. If he’s not, then you never wanted to meet him in the first place!

How to Ask a Guy Out Tip #4: Walk up, hand him your phone number and leave

Really? Yep. How much easier does it get? It even meets my act like a little kid requirement.

This tactic comes with many variations which is nice too:

You could strut back to your friends and see if he approaches
Tease him and say, “This is your lucky day my friend – I never come on the market” and leave.
You could say this line, grab his little umbrella and stick it in your hair and then walk back over to your friends!

The skies the limit.

#5: Have your friend approach him

I do this with my guy friends and it works great! Especially with John, my shy buddy. Have your friend walk over to a guy you like, grab his hand, and say, “my friend wants to meet you, she’s a bit shy so I am taking you to her.”

Perfect! Start talking, get to know each other and then ask him out like this:

Jim, we are all going to the wine tasting next Friday at the Seaport area in Boston. Are you busy? Grab some of your friends or come as my date and let’s savor some grapes! Here’s my number – bye!”

Then make a smooth exit. Now go somewhere else – rinse and repeat.

Like anything, it’s a numbers game. The more exposure you get the more potential dates you will get and the less you will care about any one of them.

Also, the more guys you talk to the more relaxed you will be asking guys out. This is called desensitization and its one of your tools in my confidence course book, Comfortable in Your Own Shoes.

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How to get a guy to ask you out | 5 Sneaky Ways

So we covered how to ask a guy out but what if you are too shy? Are there ways to get the guy to ask you out instead?

There sure are!

Tip #1: Put your friend to work

Arrange for your potential suitor to join you and your friends (and his) for a get together. No pressure just request to get everyone together for the wine tasting on Friday night.

Then, when you are sipping wine together, have your extroverted friend walk up and say, “you two would make a great couple – Jim, ask her out will you?”

This might create an embarrassing moment but who cares! You didn’t create it. And he just might ask you out on the spot or at least think about it in the future.

How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out Tip #2: Ask him for a favor

Ask him for a ride and get one on one time!

Guys love to fix things and help women. It makes us feel good to get our egos stroked. Look for a situation where you can use this to your advantage. If he has a truck you could ask him to move some furniture for you.

Ask him to give you a ride somewhere that you know he is headed. This puts you in a one on one situation that could make him see you as a potential couple. Then, you can thank him by inviting him to join you for lunch or a cup of coffee.

Tip #3: Flirt using body language

Few women know how to effectively use body language. In my book Night Moves, I cover this in detail. You can get a guy to ask you out by giving him a huge dose of attention. Smile. Lock eyes with him for longer than you would normally.

Compliment him in front of his friends and yours. This will naturally draw him to you. Touch him too, by putting your hand on his shoulder.

One key tip: Vary your attention towards him based on his responses. Don’t be too aggressive or he will be turned off. Go “in and out” with your compliments, touching and smiles. This will pique his curiosity! He won’t know if you like him or you don’t and that’s what you want!

Now, he will only concentrate on you and not other women. Clever as a fox!

Tip #4: Find his passion and get him to talk about it

Find his passion and talk to him about it!

If he loves surfing then ask him about it. Even better, learn about it and try it! When you share a guy’s passion, he starts to equate you with his love for his passion – in other words, you increase the chances of him wanting you in his life!

Now, when he mentions going surfing, you say “bring me, bring me!” as only a woman can say in her wonderful je ne sais quoi way.

Brilliant!

If you start asking me about writing books for women – you can damn well bet that I will give you my undivided attention.

How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out Tip #5: Ask him what he is doing this weekend – then tell a white lie!

This works well. Ask the guy what his plans are for the holiday weekend. When he tells you, tell him that you and your friend are going there too!

OK, you’re not but now you are. Then tell your friend that she is going whether she likes it or not and then buy her lunch.

When he sees you, this puts you in a great situation for him to ask you out in the future. It’s almost like you are having a first date without ever asking him out.

How to Ask Guy Out Conclusion | Do not fear failure!

Never fear failure!

Do you know who fails more than anyone?

Yours truly!

I fail because I take risks to find out what works. I live outside my comfort zone. You see, you can’t succeed if you don’t fail. Do you think Thomas Edison got the light-bulb right on the first try? Nope. It took him over 1000 tries!

Look at failure as the road to success, not as a judgement on you.

The real failures are the ones that complain how terrible their lives are and do nothing about it.

You are not that person! You are now the women who is proactive asking guys out!

So there you have it, my 5 sure-fire ways on How to Ask a Guy Out and my 5 ways on How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out.

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100 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to Your Man

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Today, you’re looking for creative ways to say I love you without saying the three most overused words in the English dictionary – I Love You. While men will say those three words, they do so because you’ll be angry if they don’t!

Men show our love through actions. They cut the lawn, stay home when you’re sick, fix things and protect you from the evils of the outside world.

Granted, repairing your car isn’t as romantic as saying I love you, but it’s the way men do it.

So it makes sense for you to show your love with actions too, right? Yes, men enjoy hearing I love you, but you can do it better and I have one hundred ideas to help you!

Many are actions and do not even involve the moving of lips – well, most don’t!

Go ahead and print out 100 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to Your Man and use it for a reference when you want to mix things up and show him new ways to tell him how much you truly love him.

100+ Creative Ways to Say I Love You

Here are a few creative ways to say I love you:

Start his car on a cold morning
Mirror his behavior
Get up in the morning, even if you don’t need to be up yet
Give him his own space in the house; he needs his own man cave!
Do that “freaky thing” he asked you for
Make a big deal out of his birthday
Don’t fear the mixed CD – give him songs that mean something to him
Give him a massage; then give him sex!
Wear some sexy lingerie
And 91 more!

Pick from the list once a day or once a week and watch him reciprocate as your relationship flourishes!

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2 Different Kinds of Guys and How to Date Them!

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How Do You Date Different Types of Men?

Wouldn’t it be great to have the ability to identify different types of men and know which is best for you? It’s no secret that men are difficult to classify. Each man is a mixture of traits which create his unique personality. That’s challenging for any woman!

What’s more challenging is that men can change and move into and out of categories for brief periods of time.

The shy guy can find a little alcohol and become outgoing, until he sobers up. The short, overcompensating guy can decide to lay off the gym for a while and move back into being a mamma’s boy. Don’t worry, he’ll hit the gym again eventually.

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to identify which type of guy you’ve found so you can know if he’s best for you? Well, good news! I’ve got two categories to share with you today. There are more than two, but these two should help you as they’re two of the most popular types.

I know categorizing men seems shallow in some way, but the truth is when you can see the pros and cons of different personality types, you can better understand if he’s datable and how you can leverage his traits when dating him.

Different Types of Men | The Over-Compensator

This type of man fakes high self-esteem better than most. The over-compensator tends to be short and probably drives a big truck or a fast car.

He probably has larger than life, barbed wire tattoos around his arms. His vehicle has a loud exhaust system, on purpose, so he can announce his perceived high, but truly low self-worth.

This guy will never cry and he works out every day. He walks with great posture and looks as if he has beehives under his arm pits.

Muscle shirts? Oh yeah, even in the winter. This guy smells good, albeit, a little too good. He wears lifts in his shoes but, if you ask him, he’ll say they’re orthotics.

The over-compensator eats extremely well, if you like protein. No chips or cookies for this guy – no way. Just a steroid shot in the ass and a power shake for good measure!

The Pros Of Dating The Over-Compensator

With Proper Care, This Type of Man Can Improve!

All kidding aside, the over-compensator can be a good guy. Many people have low self-esteem, but this man is doing something about it, unlike most of his counterparts.

He should get credit for that. This type of man works hard, not only at the gym, but at his job and in his relationships. He usually has a good job. When his ego is stroked a little, he will stop showing off and get down to business.

He Is A Protector

The over-compensator will keep you safe. Leave the pit-bull at the animal shelter! You’re dating one…no dog food needed, but don’t forget the protein shake! His protective instincts are a little more heightened than some other types of men.

For that reason, he’ll open doors for you to make sure you get inside the car or building safely. He’ll walk on the street side of the sidewalk and put his arm around you in a protective way.

The Cons of this Type of Man

He Can Have A Bad Attitude

The over-compensator can have an attitude when his ego doesn’t get stroked. He will be quick to pick a fight with any man who insults or challenges him. This makes him a look immature, compared to other guys.

He Gets Jealous

The over-compensator tends to be jealous. This type of man has difficulty coping with competition and will always have some shortcomings in this department. You can mitigate this by trying not to show interest in other men when you’re together. Yes, even something more than a glance at another guy can stir his insecurity.

Over time, as he becomes more secure in your relationship, this may lessen, but if it doesn’t, he’s not the guy for you. You should be able to look in the direction of another guy without stirring jealousy.

He Has Poor Spending Habits

This guy is a spender! He spends a lot on material items as part of his attempt to prove to the masses that he is just as good as the next guy. He does much better controlling this impulse when he is with a loving woman.

Make sure he knows you care for him because of who he is, not because of what he has, and he may eventually be able to rein in his spending. If he doesn’t, it may be time to cut ties.

Is He Datable? How?

The over-compensator can be datable. The key is not to make fun of him or his truck until you really know him, and even then, be very careful. This is especially true in the bedroom.

One mention of his small penis and he’s doing more chin-ups and putting even bigger tires on his ’75 Bronco. He has limited funds, so know your birthday gift will be reduced to a Planet Fitness 5% off membership coupon.

To stroke the his ego, let him make the plans. He’s very good at it and willing to take the lead. When in public, don’t even think of looking at other guys, especially tall guys. If you do, get ready for the street fight.

Are you dating a loser?

It’s important to know why this type of man is overcompensating. It may be based on harmless insecurities like his height, or it could be his limited bank account. It could also be more harmful insecurities like really low self-esteem or a drug or alcohol addiction. These can cause anger issues.

If you are okay with his reasons for overcompensating, you can begin to build his confidence by showing him that his shortcomings are no big deal to you.

The over-compensator can be a good man. He is a sensitive type of man, he just has a few hot button issues that you need to understand and massage.

Top Pointers for Dating the Over-Compensator

Never wear heels – he won’t even walk next to you
Don’t ask him about the weights in his living room, bedroom, foyer, closet, dining room or bathroom
Take advantage of his many mirrors; kneel down and feel free to fix your hair
Don’t put your feet up on the dash, even if it IS a 75 Bronco, he will get angry
Ask him daily how many chin-ups he did
Understand why he is overcompensating and counter this with support

Different Personality Types of Men |The Mamma’s Boy

This type of man is smart, and he will be all in with you, but he’ll forget to mention that he lives in his mother’s basement. He has money because, well, he lives in the basement of his mother’s house!

Even if he moves in with you, mom comes with him in some way. If you live in, or move to another state, mom will move close by.

When you’re considering big life decisions, know he will check with mom.

Do you want kids? He’s on board but only mom can babysit. When you have a big argument, mom and her boy will side against you.

The interesting thing is that he is a good man. This attachment is his baggage, but it also can be his strength.

The Pros

He Is Chivalrous

The mamma’s boy is taught from a young age to treat a woman with respect. He was taught early on never to disrespect his mom. It also means that he won’t disrespect you or any other woman. You are very safe with this man. He will open doors for you and protect you from harm.

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Emotional Sharing

The mamma’s boy is comfortable sharing his emotions and understands women better than other types of men. You can talk more freely about your needs than you can with other men. If you’re upset, he’ll want to hear why. Did you get into a fender bender? He’ll be there to comfort you.

The Cons

Your Relationship Will Lack Privacy

There will be times when you will have very little privacy. Mom stops by unannounced and has little regard for what you’re doing and whether you’re in the middle of something. Mom knows and takes advantage of the fact that she is number one with Junior.

Dinners and love making will be interrupted by text messages and phone calls and, if you get upset, watch out!

You should also be aware that private and he’s most likely sharing personal facts about you and your relationship with mom.

You’re Being Measured And Expected To Meet Her Standards

Meeting mom’s high standards for her boy takes a woman with very high self-esteem.

She is a master at beating down a woman with low self-esteem. She will be skeptical on almost every level until she feels you are worthy of dating her son. If you can win her over, you’re all set. To do so, don’t complain about her intervention to your guy. Complaining to your girlfriends is okay as long as it doesn’t get back to Junior or Mom.

Is He Datable? How?

The mamma’s boy can be datable. You need to be prepared to date two people though, mom and Junior. When you ask him for a decision, understand that he’ll only make it after he talks to mom.

Stay on mom’s good side. If you do, you will win over her heart and his too! As a bonus, all her money comes your way in the form of down payments for a house, luxury cars and anything the kids want.

On the down side, if you piss off mom, you are in trouble! A pre-nup is a given! She will always have a better lawyer than you and if she tells Junior to dump you – he will have to comply.

The mamma’s boy needs love and is accustomed to getting plenty from mom. Trying to shift this responsibility over to you could be difficult.

His attachment to his mom can be a huge point of contention between the two of you.

Love this guy, lavish him with attention daily, honor and recognize his bond with his mother and you could win him over for life.

A mamma’s boy needs nurturing. He will ultimately date and marry a woman who reminds him of his mom. These men generally date motherly, nurturing women.

He is an emotional man, which means he is very sensitive and sympathetic to others. He might even cry when you cry.

Top Pointers For Dating The Momma’s Boy

Suck up to mom and stay on her good side
Include mom at the beginning of any decision; you might even ask her first; try something like this, “What do you think your son would like, a Ferrari or a Porsche?”
Pick the most expensive house you can afford and then add 25%…Junior is worth it and mom will make up the difference – just avoid a duplex
Give this man love daily
Spend time alone with his mom; this will pay off big time

The best way to date a man is to understand which personality type suits him best. Then, all you need to do is learn how to date that type of guy. Manimals provides you with descriptions of ten different types of men, as well as several types of women. Then, it helps you learn which type of man is best for each type of woman.

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Why Do Guys Ignore Me? 5 Guys Chime in with Your Answer

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Why Do Guys Ignore Me? 5 Guys Chime in with Your Answer

Sally emailed me and asked this: “Gregg, lately I have noticed that the last two guys I dated, one I liked and one I really didn’t, seemed to ignore me. I’m not a chaser and I didn’t do anything creepy to scare them off. Why do guys ignore me? -any thoughts?”

I decided to ask my personal male friends about this one and get their perspective.

Why Do Guys Ignore Me? Reason #1: He Is Trying To Play things Cool

We all agreed on this one. A guy will be hesitant to show his feelings for you, even though he likes you. Men are insecure too. A guy just hopes you will show him signs so he can reciprocate. What happens? You both think the other isn’t into you, so you each take this as rejection.

Another reason he may be trying to play it cool is because he may be experiencing emotions he’s uncomfortable with. He’s not really ignoring you – he’s processing these new emotions.

To move past this awkward stage, one of you needs to show clear interest. In the early stages of meeting a guy, I say go overboard so he gets it. Be that clingy girlfriend for a moment or two. Then, you can back off and let him pursue.

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Why is He Ignoring Me? Reason #2: His Ego Got Hurt

One negative statement can send a man off to his man cave! If you say something negative that pertains to his skills in the bedroom, physical features, lack of a good job, or motivation, it could send him reeling.

Why Do Men Hide Their Feelings?

Scold him and he will withdraw!

The funny thing is that you probably have no idea how easily a man’s feelings can be hurt. You don’t understand how fragile the male ego can be in these areas. You see men as being strong – they don’t get hurt like women do.

This is wrong. Men do get hurt and when they do, it takes them longer to recover because they aren’t comfortable processing those emotions. They don’t share these emotions with their male friends most of the time like you do.

Why Do Guys Ignore Me? Reason #3: I Thought She was Taken

My single friend, Glen came up with the answer to this question and we all agreed. When a man sees a woman with one man or a group of men, he assumes she is dating one of them.

You might think your flirting with him will tell him otherwise but the truth is that if you’re with another man, all other men in the room will think you’re trying to make the other guy jealous. He will ignore you and move on.

If you’re a woman who has a lot of male friends, forget meeting Mr. Right when you’re all out together. The best solution is to go out with your girlfriends and leave your guys friends on their own.

Body Language That Says He Likes You

Why Do Guys Ignore Me? Reason #4: I’m To Afraid I’ll Get Shot Down In Front Of My Friends

Guys fear rejection so they will ignore women

While we all laughed at this answer, it’s true! A guy will ignore you because of his insecurities around his friends. The last thing a man wants to do is approach a woman he finds attractive and get rejected – especially around his friends.

A man wants a sure bet. He needs to know that when he approaches you, you will not ignore him. To do this, make it obvious you like him by smiling, walking by him and leaving space near you so he can approach.

Men are not mind readers! What you think is obvious he thinks is directed to the guy next to him! Make it clear that you like him.

Men And Rejection

Why is He Ignoring Me? Reason #5: He Just Doesn’t Care About Your Shoes!

My friend Kevin was brutally honest – apologies to his wife if she’s reading! A man’s patience for listening to you talk about topics he doesn’t understand or care about is very limited.

I had an ex who went on and on about the shoes she bought and how the outfit matched the shoes and how the price was so great she just had to buy the whole deal. I couldn’t have cared less.

All I wanted her to do was wear the outfit and stop talking about it. I didn’t care that it all matched or that it was a great bargain.

A man cares that you look great but he doesn’t care how you got there. He wants to show off his great-looking girlfriend to his buddies, but he is clueless about matchy-matchy outfits.

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Why Do Guys Ignore Me? Reason #6: He Got Jealous

When asked why he ignores his girlfriend, my friend Chris said it’s because he’s competitive. He doesn’t like to see other men flirting with his girlfriend. This is true of all men. While he wants other men to be jealous of him because he has the best girl in the room, he does not want to feel that jealousy himself!

What a man wants is for you to say, “Sorry but I already have a boyfriend” to the man who is flirting with her. An added bonus would be a kick in the groin, but he knows that you’re not going to do that.

At the same time, his jealousy tells you something important. Here are 15 Tell-Tale Signals To Tell You A Guy Likes You.

So Sally, I hope I have helped answer your question and you now have a better understanding of why guys ignore the women they like.

Ask Relationship Advice Anonymously – Specific Advice From a Pro!

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It takes courage to ask relationship advice. It’s like admitting you have no answers, but there’s nothing wrong with seeking advice, especially about your relationship!

The tricky part is knowing where to find excellent relationship advice.

There are people you should and shouldn’t ask, and we’ll explore that momentarily. First, I want you to remove the stigma. You can ask for anonymous relationship advice if it makes you feel more comfortable.

Who to Avoid When You Ask Relationship Advice

Single Friends

Your gut tells you to go to your friends to ask relationship advice, but they may not be your best resource, especially if it’s your perpetually single friend.

People stay single for two main reasons. The first is that they want to remain single. If life is working for you, why make a change? Sometimes being single fits like a glove. There’s nobody to answer to, and you can paint the bedroom pink with nobody to consult first.

This person isn’t a good resource to ask dating advice because she’s happy where she is and is more likely to encourage you out of your relationship rather than in.

The other type of single friend is probably one you should avoid altogether. This single friend has an I hate the world attitude. This is, of course, why she’s single. Men can smell that from a mile away and steer clear. Even the players don’t want that action.

This friend isn’t likely to give you great advice because she’s currently in hate mode.

Your Friends Who Date a Lot

The friend who dates a different guy every week isn’t your best resource to ask relationship advice either. Her excuse for moving from man to man is probably there are other fish in the sea. While this is true, that attitude isn’t helpful if you’re battling something difficult in your relationship.

You’re asking for advice so you can work through your problems, not dump them and your boyfriend and run.

Your Family

You had to know this was coming. Your family will always look out for your best interest. Of that, I have no doubt. The problem is that they’ll be the first ones to vilify your boyfriend the minute he even sneezes in the wrong direction and you complain about it.

Family loves you, and they never want to see you in pain. To that end, they will always choose your side.

Because of that, their advice carries a heavy bias.

Your Ex

Your ex might still have feelings for you, and now that he can smell trouble in your current relationship, he may swoop in for the kill. He might look like he’s in it for your best interest, but he’s not.

And if he denies those feelings, he may still look out for your interests over the relationship as a whole. He won’t do so intentionally, but some part of him loved you once, and he’ll have your back regardless.

Who to Ask Relationship Advice Of

So if you can’t ask your friends and family, who can you ask?

Ask Relationship Advice of Someone Without a Player Involved

We’ve ruled out your family and friends, but not his. I know you’re closer to his sister than he is, and his mother loves you, but they’re going to do the same thing as your family. Stick with their family member.

His friends are the same. Oh, you might find one who sees things from your side, but in the end, his friends are going to do for him what your friends will do for you.

Instead, it would help if you found someone unbiased, without a dog in the hunt, as they say.

Of course, the ultimate question is, who is that person? Where can you find such an unbiased advisor?

Where to Find Advice

If you’re a religious person, you may find your church’s pastor helpful, especially if he knows both of you, but if either of you has a friendship or personal relationship with him, he won’t be a good resource.

Of course, in-person relationship counseling is always great, but it can get pricy quickly, and your boyfriend will also need to attend at some point. He may or may not be willing to do so.

A third option is to do what you’re doing – search the internet, but that comes with its own problems.

If you’re going to use the internet to search, look for credible sites or people. Do some homework and look for reviews or read things they’ve written and determine how they think.

Some sites like BetterHelp.com and others provide professional care, but there are also dating and life coaches, like me, who can help you as well.

Ask Relationship Advice Here

I provide a service that allows you to ask anonymous relationship advice, well, sort of anonymous. You can do it all through email. Short of free advice, it’s probably one of the best deals you’ll get!

Ask Relationship Advice here.

It’s easy, private, and quick. Once you submit your question, you receive a reply within twenty-four hours, usually much faster. After you receive your answer, you can ask a follow-up question.

It’s that easy!

Is Anonymous Relationship Advice Right for You?

Only you can answer that question, but I guess you’re here because there’s a question burning inside, and you don’t know who to ask. So, my short answer is yes, anonymous relationship advice, or at least finding a resource from which to ask for relationship advice, is a great idea!

How to Tell if a Guy Likes You – 15 Tell-Tale Signals

Date Great Men, Understand Men

Gregg help! You want to know how to tell if a guy likes you, right? You want to see signs he likes you, and you spend sleepless nights asking, “Does he like me?”

I love receiving emails from you! It brightens my day, even though they’re usually coming from women in distress, like this one:

“Gregg, Help! I like this guy. We’ve been on two dates, and we get along well, but I still don’t know how to tell if he likes me.”

You’re about to gain insight into how the male mind works, which is much different than how your mind works.

Naturally, since you’re a woman, your mind works like a female mind, but the male mind works differently. Men are less verbal and more action-oriented, while women are more verbal and expect their men to be equally verbal.

More than one conflict has occurred because of this fundamental difference. When you ask a guy, “What are you thinking?” and he says, “Nothing,” you assume he’s lying, but the truth is he’s probably thinking about nothing. He’s zoned out, relaxing or listening to the television.

Because of these discrepancies, trying to see signs he likes you can be frustrating. You’re even more annoyed when you ask your friends, “Does he like me?” and they shrug their shoulders.

To alleviate your anxiety today, I’ve prepared fifteen different ways to tell if a guy likes you.

Men Love in Different Ways

Don’t Fall Into the Milestone Trap

One of the biggest mistakes women make is looking for and tallying milestones. Let me say this as clearly as I can: Men do not know about or understand milestones.

What is a milestone?

He held my hand! Milestone.

He kissed me! Milestone.

He invited me to meet his parents—a big milestone.

We slept together. Milestone.

He wants to take a vacation together. Milestone.

You consider each one of those actions a step closer to the alter or at least a step closer to a long-term relationship.

The truth is that these actions don’t mean a thing to a man. He held your hand because the urge struck him, not because he felt one step closer to wanting to marry you.

He kissed you because he was overcome by the desire to do so and he invited you to meet his parents because his mom keeps saying, “Why don’t you ever bring any of the women you’re dating around?”

Men date to have fun. They enjoy getting to know you and uncovering the many layers of who you are. A man would rather go white water rafting than sit in a stuffy restaurant for a date. He would rather take a walk through a park than be forced to make conversation where a dozen other people can hear.

Instead of searching for milestones to know how to tell if a guy likes you, look for these fifteen tell-tale signs.

How to Tell if a Guy Likes You | He’s a Nervous Wreck

When a man approaches you and delivers a smooth line, you’re immediately enamored, but the truth