Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 4: Rejection!
I’m Gregg, #1 best-selling author and a dating and life coach for women.
I have been answering all your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s point of view seems to be what resonates the most. Even my podcasts with pros like Lorna Poole, Suzanne Oshima and, coming in May, Dr. Allen Darbonne, are about my strategies to understand and get what a woman desires from men.
Everyone, even the pros, want to hear more about my game changing strategies!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them? Please read that blog now 🙂
Today I want to talk about the 3rd ingredient – Rejection.
Let’s face it, we all dislike rejection. I remember the first time I asked a girl to the prom. I got shot down, OUCH!
Rejection comes in all forms and when it hits a man in early in life it has a lingering effect. Those who get through their childhoods relatively unscathed are the ones who turn into confident men. But many do not. Many men got rejected so many times by women, employers and their own friends that they decided it was easier not to engage, to not take chances.
I mean why risk being rejected when you can just follow the pack and not rock the boat?
Knowing the effect rejection has on our gender, you can use this to your advantage when attracting men. For example, when a man approaches you give him a chance. Give him a full 60 seconds before you consider rejecting him. A man struggles in the first 30 seconds and needs your help! Root for him, help him out. If he struggles this is a good sign, this means that he is not a player and does not have the smooth lines.
What normally happens? Women reject the guy that says something awkward or “wrong” and waits for the comedian with the blue eyes and chiseled chin to walk over.
Two weeks later, they (the player and the woman) are at the same bar repeating the process with different people.
If you are in a relationship, understanding men and how they relate to rejection can help you too. Make sure you communicate in a winning way. Your boyfriend or husband is going to screw up! But if he tries to fix your car, or he tries to paint the room and does a crappy job, save him the lecture. Instead, give him an A for effort so he will take the steps to get it right the next time.
Again, many women will go for the jugular and say things like, “You have no mechanic skills!” or “Really, that’s the best painting job you can do?”
OUCH…just like my prom date!
We are simple creatures, we don’t need much but we do need a few things to keep us happy and thriving in life and with you – handling rejection is one of them.
I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve your problems that you have with men and now you can start to also!!
Next week, we will talk about DNA Imprint #4 – We hold in our emotions!
My new book 10 Secrets You Need to Know About Men | Dating Coach Tells All is coming soon!
Listening to your needs,
Gregg began his journey into understanding the mistakes we make in dating and how to fix them by interviewing thousands of people – happy couples, unhappy couples, singles looking for ‘the one’ and everyone in between. He reviewed his own dating experiences and combined all of this information into his series of dating advice books for men and women.
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