Why Do Guys Fear Rejection?
I have been answering all your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s point of view seems to be what resonates the most. Even my podcasts with pros like Lorna Poole, Suzanne Oshima and Dr. Allen Darbonne, are about my strategies to understand and get what a woman desires from a man.
Everyone, even the pros, want to hear more about my game changing strategies.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them?
Today I want to talk about the 3rd ingredient – Why Do Guys Fear Rejection?
Let’s face it, we all dislike rejection. I remember the first time I asked a girl to the prom.
I got shot down, OUCH!
Rejection comes in all forms and when it hits a man early in life it has a lingering effect. Those who get through their childhoods relatively unscathed are the ones who turn into confident men.
But many do not.
Many men have been rejected so many times by women, employers, and their own friends, that they decide it’s easier not to engage.
Why risk being rejected when you can just follow the pack and not rock the boat?
When you understand the effect rejection has on guys, you can use it to your advantage when attracting men. For example, when a man approaches you, give him a chance. Give him a full 60 seconds before you consider rejecting him.
Why Do Guys Fear Rejection?
Growing up, a kids confidence was directly related to how he compared to his peers. Did he date the pretty girls? Did he get picked first for the kickball team? Did he get picked at all? Was he popular?
I was lucky growing up but many were not. I never realized how much the rejection hurt the others. It bothers me today how I (and my popular friends) treated the ‘kids that didn’t rank’ as if they were second rate. Now I see why rejection must be included on my list of ingredients that women need to know about.
A man struggles in the first 30 seconds and needs your help! Root for him, help him out. If he struggles this is a good sign, this means that he is not a player. Players have smooth lines because they are careerists. Good guys are not.
What normally happens? Women reject the guy that says something awkward or “wrong” and waits for the comedian with the blue eyes and chiseled chin to walk over.
Two weeks later, they (the player and the woman) are at the same bar repeating the process with different people.
If you are in a relationship, understanding men and how they relate to rejection can help you too. Make sure you communicate in a winning way. Your boyfriend or husband is going to screw up and how you react makes all the difference.
If he tries to fix your car, or he tries to paint the room and does a crappy job, save him the lecture. Instead, give him an A for effort so he will take the steps to get it right the next time.
Again, many women will go for the jugular and say things like, “You have no mechanic skills!” or “Really, that’s the best painting job you can do?”
OUCH…just like my prom date!
We are simple creatures, we don’t need much, but we do need a few things to keep us happy and thriving in life and with you – handling rejection is one of them.
I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve the problems you have with men and now you can too!!
Next week, we will talk about DNA Imprint #4 – We men hide their feelings!
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Once you understand these secrets, changing his bad behaviors is easy, and you can do it without yelling, crying, slamming doors or pouting. He won’t know you’ve done a thing!