Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 3: Competition!

Male Competition for Females

Since the stone age, male competition for females remains vibrant. We stopped clubbing women over the head, thank God, and now we use blunt weapons like smartphones to compete.

Let’s dig into the 2nd DNA ingredient that makes a man tick so you can understand his desire for competition and how you can use it to your advantage.

On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them?

Today I want to talk about the 2nd ingredient – Competition. Ultimately there is the male competition for females but that comes later in our lives. When we are kids, there are no women, it’s just the competition part.

Little boys are brought up to compete. My Dad bought me a motorcycle when I was around 10 years old, he taught me how to ride and said, “Now go race your older cousin’s ass through those woods!”

I slammed into a tree, bruised my leg, and cried all the way home.

Thanks Dad!

I was taught to compete and to win! Everything started to become a competition in my life. I wanted to date the hottest girls, beat my peers in hockey, and even win the spelling B!

When I won, I felt good. When I lost I was angry and upset. Men are this way because they are raised to be competitive. We compete with our mouths first and then through our actions.

So it makes sense that you want to date a guy who feels he is successfully competing in life right? If he is, he is happy, and if he is happy, he is in a better state to love because he has fulfilled his quest to manhood – at least one the 12.

I call this quest, The Conveyor Belt to Manhood.

Male Competition for Females started early in our lives

A man who can’t compete is dragged down like a ship sailing with its anchor out. His confidence and self-esteem are low. This hurts his ability to love. If he doesn’t love himself, he cannot love a woman. The sad part is he will still engage in male competition for females and sometimes he will get the girl.

That’s bad news for the girl. Don’t pick this type of guy!

If you understand a man’s need to compete, you accept my second principle, and you have a huge clue into what makes us tick and how you can make it work for you.

Your guy likes to compete so set things up so he can. This is his opus operatum!

My girlfriend is a pro at this. We go grocery shopping and she challenges me to get my half of the food and beat her around the store. We start off with 2 carts and tear the joint up.

Is it fun? Hell YES! Suddenly, a mundane chore like grocery shopping becomes a memorable and fun moment with my girl (and I’m the one who taught her this stuff)!!!

Did you see what she did? I have NO interest in grocery shopping, I hate it. BUT, she isn’t taking me grocery shopping, she is challenging me to a competition around the store! So now I go and if means shopping for food – so be it!

Why did it work? She got what she wanted out of me by “framing” the act of grocery shopping in a way I can understand and I crave. She turned my need to compete into something she needed…FOOD!

Can you imagine the possibilities?? Think of one or two right now.

Male Competition for Females

I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve your problems with men, and now you can start to also!!

Next week, we will talk about DNA Imprint #3 – Why Do Guys Fear Rejection!

You can find more information like this in my best-selling book, 10 Secrets You Need to Know About Men. Women are buying this book in droves! Don’t be left behind! To buy your copy, click the cover to the left.

Gregg Michaelsen

Gregg Michaelsen

Gregg feels that coaching has chosen him. He grew up just as many others – in a dysfunctional, but loving family. After going through twelve years of his own failed relationships, he decided to try and decode dating for men and women. That elusive older couple sitting in the park holding hands gave him hope!

Gregg began his journey into understanding the mistakes we make in dating and how to fix them by interviewing thousands of people – happy couples, unhappy couples, singles looking for ‘the one’ and everyone in between. He reviewed his own dating experiences and combined all of this information into his series of dating advice books for men and women.

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