HELPING WOMEN FIND LOVE EVERY DAY

Savanna emailed me after listening to the audio version of To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man.

She is in her late 50’s and she’s fresh into the dating scene after many years away. Savanna represents many of my readers, and maybe you can relate.

She wrote, “I just listened to your book, To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man. Wow, what a game-changer for me!

“I am 58 years old and recently re-entered the online dating arena. I never knew this stuff. If only they had books like this when I was in my early years! I may have avoided two failed marriages.”

Savanna is reading, studying and working on re-entering the dating scene informed, confident and ready to go after the man she wants!

You can do the same! Regardless of your age, it’s never too late to learn, never too late to change and grow.

I have coached women from age eighteen to seventy-five, helping them navigate the dating scene and find the man they’re searching for.

I can help you too!

Your end goal is to meet and maybe even marry a great guy. This is true whether you’re 18 or 68.

You found me today because you are tired of finding yourself at the bottom of a pint of Ben & Jerry’s after yet another miserable breakup.

I’ve met you before, whether it was in an email, at the grocery store or in a bar somewhere. I’ve seen the dejected way you walk, the morning after you’ve had your heart broken.

I’ve seen you hiding behind your hair, a little bit afraid to expose your vulnerabilities to yet another heart-breaker.

I’ve spoken to you. Yes you – sitting there with your friends, wondering why they seem to be having fun while you just want to go home and crawl into a hot bath to cry.

Maybe I haven’t met you personally, but I have met women who are just like you. They’re sick and tired of meeting and then being tossed aside by loser after loser, player after player.

I am exhausted by the number of men out there who treat you badly. If I could, I’d crawl into your life, if only for a moment, and make them see what a wonderful woman lies beneath – deep inside you.

Instead, I strive to show you the wonderful woman who lives deep inside you. I know she’s there. I’ve seen her emerge from thousands of women who once felt the same way you do now.

I believe in you. I know that you don’t need to have your shirt unbuttoned to your navel or your skirt hiked up to your butt just to attract a guy. If any one of the guys around you saw what I see when I meet you and talk to you, they would jump in an instant.

I want to help you recognize the wonderful woman who lurks inside. She’s in there, and she’s probably screaming to get out.

I want to help you bring her to the surface, squash your fears and anxieties and walk with confidence, your head held high.

I am not your knight in shining armor, but I know how to point him in your direction! 

Do you want to attract the man of your dreams?

Do you want to make positive changes in your life?

Are you open to new ideas?

Are you willing to face your fears and take a few risks?

Are you sick of playing games, only to end up losing?

Are you beyond tired of men walking up to you, seeming to be awesome, upstanding men, only to find out later that they’re cheating on you, lying to you and wanting to take advantage of whatever you’ve got that they don’t?

Yes to any of those means you’re in the right place.

It’s a cliche quote, but it works here:

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. – Albert Einstein

The truth is that if you want different results in your dating life, you must make some changes.

It’s difficult to identify exactly what those changes are, but let me take a guess at what might be going on:

• You’ve dated numerous men who, when they break up with you, tell you it was all your fault
• You’ve spent your dating life believing that you needed to use sex appeal to attract a man, only to suffer one breakup after another
• You’ve seen men you are interested in, but you’re too afraid to approach, so you don’t
• Much of your childhood was spent hearing how worthless you are, how unworthy of good things you are or how nobody will ever want to be with you for some frivolous reason or another
• You’ve been bullied, either at home, work or school, and all that negativity has sunk in to the point you believe it

None of this is your fault, but it is yours to fix, nonetheless. Other people have saddled you with negative beliefs about yourself, but only you can take the steps to turn those negatives into positives.

This is where I come in!

The men who are drawn to low-confidence you are losers, players and users. They will get what they want out of you and spit you out without a second thought.

These are the men you attract with revealing clothing, too much makeup and your body language, which screams low confidence.

They either want your money or they want sex from you, and they’re willing to use you for that, until someone better suited comes along.

Don’t worry, that woman also has low confidence, so don’t be jealous.

The men who will be drawn to the new and confident you are the Mr. Right’s of the world. Good, quality men are drawn to confident women.

They’re drawn to women who value themselves and show that by dressing in a way that teases but doesn’t reveal. They’re drawn to a woman who walks tall, makes eye contact and piques their interest.

They’re drawn to the women who carry a positive attitude, something they draw from your body language.

They will be drawn to you!

This site is very much about educating women. Sometimes, you’re learning more about men and sometimes, you’re learning more about yourself.

Those two pieces are essential in your dating success.

All of the work I do, all the books I write, focuses on both sides of the coin – understanding men and understanding yourself.

Here, you will learn to love yourself. Not in a selfish, egotistical way, but in a way that allows you to recognize:

• Your true beauty lies within
• You can control your thoughts, emotions and destiny
• You are worthy of finding a great man
• In order to be happy and have great relationships in life, you need boundaries
• You must take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of anyone else
• Mr. Right is out there, patiently waiting for you to complete this journey

When it comes to men, you’ll learn:

• Not all the great guys are already taken
• Not all men are jerks
• Great men are not looking for sex first and they will respect your boundaries
• You overthink us…a lot
• Men love differently than women
• Men communicate everything, including love differently than women

Once you have a great guy, you’ll begin to understand:

• The value of dating him for the rest of your life, week by week
• The power of being grateful for one another, appreciating one another and supporting one another
• How to tame his inner boy by using a tactic (not a game) I call Man Mode
• The effectiveness of great communication skills

These bullet points are just a snippet of what you’ll learn. It would take miles of text for me to articulate everything. Instead, I encourage you to check out my articles, books & journals, games and courses.

It is a pleasure to have you visiting this site, which was built just for you.

Every day, I look for new ways to help women understand men. It has been my mission since I wrote my first book, Who Holds the Cards Now and twenty-some books later, I’m even more passionate than I was then.

Who am I?

I am many people, just like you. I’m a son, a brother, a boss, a life coach, an author and a friend. I am the youngest child with older sisters, divorced parents and a lover of all animals, but cats are a real passion of mine.

I’m what some who visit this site might call an old guy, while others will think I’m still a youngin’, but in my 50’s, I feel like I’m just the right age.

I grew up, like many, the child of a broken home, but fortunate enough to realize that not all relationships must end this way. Even after a few of my own failed relationships, I had hope.

So, I started a quest to understand what made the great relationships work. I went out and found couples, young and old, and talked to them about what made it work for them. I wanted to know how to do it.

Then, I began giving advice to my friends who finally said, “Hey man, you need to write this stuff down and sell it.“

So, I did. First, I wrote for men, but I soon recognized that women needed my help more, and you’re more willing to listen.

Now, I go out on Saturday nights to a bar somewhere in Downtown Boston or a nearby city and I find a group of women to hang out with. I dance because I love to dance, and I talk to these women. I text their boyfriends for them to show ’em how it’s done.

I point out the guys in the room who are intersted in them and I help them approach. I also point out the losers so they can begin to detect them for themselves.

This is how I learn. This is why I continue to do what I do. I want to help you understand the male mind – to simplify it. You give us way too much credit for thinking sometimes. I’m not saying men don’t think, but they don’t think as much as you imagine they do, nor do they think to the levels you envision.

We’re visual first. We see a confident woman and we know we want to get to her before some other guy does. We want to be the first to tell her how great she looks, to buy her that drink and to enjoy the evening with her.

It is this passion to help women and my love for women that drives me every day. When you read my reviews, you will see that many women mention that they email me through my books and I email them back. This is a very important piece of what I do and I love helping!

I have sold over 250,000 books. See what DatingNews.com said about me!

I can’t wait to help you too!