Texting is the way most of us communicate today. I hear from you every day about how you’re just getting back into the dating scene and texting a man intimidates you! Below are a few of the pros and cons of texting men.
Pros of Texting in a Relationship
- Texting does not require you to be fast on your feet with responses – wittiness can come because you have time to respond, whereas face-to-face, you are left with a dry conversation if the wit doesn’t come
- Nervousness doesn’t come through in a text, so sweaty palms, shaky hands, a quivering voice can go unnoticed when you type out a message
- When you practice ‘texting similarity’ with a guy, he perceives you as being in sync and your relationship is more harmonious
- You can be flirtatious in between dates, keeping things a little hot
- A quick “I love you” or “Just thinking about you” text during the day can remind someone you care about them
- Texting can be a quick response if you cannot talk to someone at that moment but want them to know you’re aware they’re trying to contact you
- When you’re separated by distance, texting can be an inexpensive and quick way to stay in touch
- Women use texting to apologize, work out problems or bring up issues to be dealt with later
Cons of Texting in Relationships
- You might find yourself in relationship texting maintenance mode – the more texts sent, the more that are expected
- You cannot decipher the mood of the text, misunderstandings occur easily
- Texting can replace face-to-face contact if it is more comfortable, leading to a lack of true time spent together
- Heavy texting is associated with both men and women feeling dissatisfied with their relationship
- You can find chemistry in texting that then does not exist in person
- It is easy to over analyze both the texts you send and those you receive – putting more than necessary weight on the placement or use of exclamation points, capital letters, etc.
- You don’t have the advantage of the use of body language to accentuate your message
- Your own texting behavior can place labels on you – you’re too needy, you’re too quick or slow to respond, you can’t spell, your language skills are lacking, etc.
- You can get caught up in an endless cycle wondering when it will end and who will finally end it
- You can stay at a level of casualness in a relationship where it neither declines or advances but just remains status quo
- Relationships which rely heavily on texting can be easier to end quickly because there is a lack of intimacy you would only gain spending time together in person
- Overuse of technology is leading people to be unable to express emotions in person – they don’t know how because they spend all of their time in emotionless texts and emails versus one-on-one communications where you can see the outcome of what you say or do to someone
- Men use texting to distance themselves in a relationship or disengage from deeper intimacy
- Texting is a written form of communication which can be recalled later, including in legal battles
- Texting is not a good way to deepen a relationship – that requires face-to-face time where intimacy can be built
- Too much texting can make you look needy or clingy – stalkerish even
- Texts can be edited and therefore can be modified from the original thought – whereas a phone call is out there – you can’t take your words back – so texts can be ‘false’ messages, not true from the heart
- You don’t get to know the ‘real’ person, but the version of themselves that they want to send via text – i.e. they can be funnier, seem more relaxed than they are in person
At the core of every amazing relationship, and every great text, is a conversation built out of challenging the other person. In your case, the guy you like.
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