Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 8: Men Love Challenge!
Men and women in relationships are easy to figure out when you have an ace in the hole. Hello, I am Gregg, a #1 multiple best-selling author and a dating and life coach. I am your ace!
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular. Let’s get to it!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to. Please read that blog now 🙂
Today I want to talk about the 7th ingredient – Men love Challenge and why it is so important to guys and why it’s important for you to know.
I’m currently coaching an incredible girl, Hana. She is married and the sex has fallen off. Everything else is fine. Her guy, Jack, is a decent man but was spending more time with friends and less time with Hana. She contacted me and asked what she can do to get Jack to want her more both sexually and in general.
Hana told me, “I miss him chasing me.”
The very first tool I pull out of my kit is challenge! Hana described her and her husband’s routine in my questionnaire. I knew exactly what was going on. They were home all the time, in fact, Hana worked from home.
I explained that Jack is bored and we can fix the situation.
I got Hana to resurrect her local friends from the dead! She did. She also signed up for two, local, networking/social events through meetup.com. Now she had a fresh and growing social life outside of Jack’s to run too…and she did!
Hana changed her look too. She cut her hair and went blond from brunette. She even shocked me! This was not necessary but she had always wanted to do it, so she went for it. This just added more shock value and doubled down on on our whole strategy.
What happened? Jack started wondering and asking Hana why she was acting strange. She stated that she was bored, and decided to take on some new hobbies that she has always been interested in. She also told Jack that she missed her friends.
Like a bear to honey, Jack took the bait because challenge is inbred inside him.
Internally, Jack’s adrenaline started kicking in. His wife was acting funny and he believed that SHE was getting bored with HIM. He thought that he might lose her. He realized that he had to do something about it (fix the problem, another DNA trait) so he stepped up his game and started chasing his wife all over again.
Hana joined Jack and they started doing new things and racking up more memories. The sex returned!
She kept her vibrant social life going to have fun and keep Jack on his toes so he would not “fade on her” again. I taught her to gauge Jack’s responses going forward so she could implicate this powerful tool when necessary.
Jack got trained and he didn’t even know it…sit boy, sit!!
Do you see what happened?
Hana, did not get upset and start bitching at Jack’ poor attitude like most women would do. Heck, she had every right too. Instead, she picked from the DNA tree, matched it up to her situation, realized what she had to do, and executed!!
Sure, she had no clue until I explained everything but so what – she knew enough to seek help!!
Hana did to Jack exactly what he was doing to her and it worked. Man Mode strikes again! She picked from the DNA tree, found that challenge was the cure and changed her routine. Jack accepted this challenge and started trying harder. Jack’s change of behavior was fixed in days – not weeks or months!
Men and women in relationships are easy to figure out with the proper tools!
I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve your problems that you have with men and now you can too!!
Next week, I will discuss DNA Imprint #8 – Men Need to Feel Appreciated!
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Gregg began his journey into understanding the mistakes we make in dating and how to fix them by interviewing thousands of people – happy couples, unhappy couples, singles looking for ‘the one’ and everyone in between. He reviewed his own dating experiences and combined all of this information into his series of dating advice books for men and women.
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