I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular. Let’s get to it!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12?
Today I want to talk about the 7th ingredient – Men love Challenge and why it is so important to guys and why it’s important for you to know.
I’m currently coaching an incredible girl, Hana. She is married but the sex has fallen off. Everything else is fine. Her guy, Jack, is a decent man but was spending more time with friends and less time with Hana. She contacted me and asked what she can do to get Jack to want her more both sexually and in general.
Hana told me, “I miss him chasing me.”
The very first tool I pull out of my kit is challenge! Hana described their routine in my questionnaire. I knew exactly what was going on. They were home all the time, in fact, Hana worked from home.
I explained that Jack is bored, but we can fix it.
I coached Hana to resurrect her friendships. She also signed up for two local networking/social events through Meetup.com. Now, she has a fresh and growing social life outside of Jack’s to run too…and she does!
Hana changed her look too. She cut her hair and went blonde from brunette. She even shocked me! This wasn’t necessary but she had always wanted to do it, so she went for it. This just added more shock value and doubled down on the whole strategy.
What happened? Jack’s interest was piqued. He began asking Hana why she was acting strange. She told him she was bored, and decided to take on some new hobbies – things she has always been interested in. She also told Jack she missed her friends.
Like a bear to honey, Jack took the bait because challenge is a strong pull for all men.
Internally, Jack’s adrenaline started kicking in. His wife was acting funny and he believed that she was getting bored with him. He thought he might lose her. He realized he had to do something about it (fix the problem, another DNA trait) so he stepped up his game and started chasing his wife all over again.
Hana and Jack started doing new things together and racking up more memories. The sex returned!
She kept her vibrant social life going to have fun and keep Jack on his toes so he would not “fade on her” again. I taught her to gauge Jack’s responses going forward so she could implicate this powerful tool when necessary.
Jack got trained and he didn’t even know it…sit boy, sit!!
Do you see what happened?
Hana, did not get upset and start bitching at Jack’s poor attitude like most women would do. Heck, she had every right to. Instead, she picked from the DNA tree, matched it up to her situation, realized what she had to do, and executed!!
Hana did to Jack exactly what he was doing to her and it worked. Man Mode strikes again! Jack accepted this challenge and started trying harder. Jack’s change of behavior was fixed in days – not weeks or months!
Men and women in relationships are easy to figure out with the proper tools!
I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve the problems you have with men, and now you can too!!
Next week, I will discuss DNA Imprint #8 – Men Need to Feel Appreciated!
To execute tactics like the ones above, you need confidence. One great place to get it is in my book, Live Like You’re Dying. To buy your copy, click the title text or the cover to the left.
Gregg began his journey into understanding the mistakes we make in dating and how to fix them by interviewing thousands of people – happy couples, unhappy couples, singles looking for ‘the one’ and everyone in between. He reviewed his own dating experiences and combined all of this information into his series of dating advice books for men and women.