How to Show a Man You Appreciate Him
Today I talk about the 8th DNA ingredient that men share – Appreciation and how to show a man you appreciate him and why it is so important to us guys. Also, why it’s important for you to know.
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to know these so you can understand men once and for all and get what you desire from us.
Did you know that men are very sensitive? Did you know we cry all the time? OK, maybe we don’t show you actual tears but we do cry inside.
We cry out for appreciation and compliments! Under that rough and tough exterior, a man might be feeling fat, ugly, weak, or boring. A woman can change these feelings inside him, and when she does, she has his full attention.
This is the perfect time to ask him out or get him to do something around the house. Heck, maybe even hit the opera with you!
OK, maybe not the opera.
Show him that his opinion matters. Give him respect. Use simple words like “Thank you”, “You’re so smart” or “You always come through for me.”
If you want anything from a man, anything like:
- Mowing the lawn
- Painting the bedroom
- Spending more time with you and less with your friends
- Being proactive with sex
- Getting him to go out with you
Use appreciation as your tool. This strokes a guy’s ego and you already know how big our egos are!
How to Show a Man you Appreciate Him? Say things like:
- Honey, you did such a great job with the front lawn, can I get you to mow the back?
- Hitting that winery last week was such a blast, thank you. Can we go to the Topsfield Fair on Tuesday?
- You turned me on so much last Saturday, how about a hot tub rendezvous this Friday?
- Thank you for standing up for me at work. Can I buy you lunch?
Showing your appreciation, even if it’s minor, triggers his happiness gene.
He looks at you warmly and if you follow it up with something you want there is a good chance you’ll get it.
Appreciation and compliments grab his attention, whereas complaining and negativity make him want to run away.
Show a Man Respect and Appreciation
An article from the Harvard Business Review addresses what they call a praise-to-criticism ratio. Praise 6 times to every 1 criticism and you will get the best results from people.
This rarely happens. In fact, many failing relationships hit each other with an average of 10 negative comments to 1 positive.
Interesting huh? So it would behoove you to start complimenting your guy. Sure, he screws up a lot, but compliment on some small wins and he will get better!
Want to turn it up another notch? When you are in public together, say something like, “Dave was amazing last night, he struck out the last 3 batters!”
Try it. Show your man your appreciation and you will win him over. If you are single, don’t just make small talk that goes nowhere. Instead, compliment a guy you just met and want to get to know better. This can be the catalyst for him to like you.
Now, like everything I say in this series, you need to gauge his reactions and never over-use my suggestions. Your appreciation or compliment needs to be genuine and in context with the situation.
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I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve your problems that you have with men and now you can too!!
Next week, I will discuss the touchy DNA Imprint #9 – We were taught to sleep with as many women as we can.
Some of what we’re talking about today relates to how men and women love differently. While I really didn’t talk much about this above, men and women are very different in how they express their love. A man will do it through his actions – like painting the bedroom or mowing the lawn.
This makes that appreciation we’ve been talking about even more important! When you appreciate his loving action, he feels your love in return. To better understand this, make sure to read Chapter 2, We Love in Different Ways, in my #1 Best Seller, To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man.