7 Things Guys Will Tolerate – For a Little While

7 Things Guys Will Tolerate – For a Little While

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If a guy likes you, he’ll put up with a lot. He’ll say he doesn’t mind things that he really can’t stand. Why? Because he’s with you, that’s why! That said, once a relationship begins to settle down, you may begin to notice he isn’t as interested in, or tolerant of, certain things as he once was. That’s because he really wasn’t interested all along! Here are 7 things guys will tolerate – or do – only because they really, really like you.

Chit chat about everything that happened that day

You may have heard men are simple creatures, even dunces, but we’re cunning masters when it comes to making you believe we’re listening to you. In the beginning, we’ll hang on your every word, seriously! But as time goes on, even the most kind-hearted fella will start to zone out. Tricks to avoid this one: don’t go into heavy subjects while he’s reading, watching TV or relaxing. Don’t start with “I had a miserable day” every day and expect us to tune in to find out what happened this time.

Crying once a week…or MORE

Are you addicted to crying? Do you just love getting your guy in a corner and unleashing your sorrow on him? Is he the ear you can always count on? Well I’ve got news for you – he’ll be very intent on helping you through for a while, but if you keep it up, he’s going to start wondering what the heck is going on. Eventually he’ll take you for an emotional wreck and leave you. Tricks to avoid: cry to a friend over the phone. Get it all out and THEN talk to him about it.

Shopping at the mall

Of course you knew this already…but women will drag a guy into clothing stores anyway! In the early days and weeks of a relationship he’ll be more than happy to do this. But, unless he’s as serious about shopping as you are, his interest in it is going to fade away—fast. My suggestion: go with friends, not him. He’ll wonder what you’re doing and why you’re not hanging out with him, putting you in a position of power, which is right where you want to be.

Wierd dieting methods

We’ll profess to find your new diet fascinating, and even decide we want to do it, too! But if you’re bouncing around from Paleo to South Beach to Atkins we’re going to lose our minds. Guys you’ve been living with for a while will show extreme resistance unless their doctor tells them they’re going to die if they keep eating the way they are. In any case, find one diet, stick to it, and you may be able to keep a guy from going nuts.

A spiritual awakening

He’ll accept your decision to search the spiritual world for who you are and what the meaning of life is. He’ll even push you to make those life changes you want so much. But if you’re in a long-term relationship and you suddenly start going to incense-drenched yoga classes three days a week, don’t expect us to be too excited to join you.

Dinners out with your family

He’ll be happy to hang out with your parents and family if it means scoring points with you. But once he realizes it’s an obligation and not a point-scoring mission, he’ll be much less interested in joining you for the affair. My tip: be super nice to him, tell him how awesome he is for going, and give him great sex afterward. He’ll get so used to the attention you give him on those nights he’ll be more than happy to keep going.

Your taste in music

He’s going to tell you he loves One Direction and can’t get enough of Taylor Swift, but as soon as the relationship transitions into cruise control, he’d much rather be listening to Tool or Stone Temple Pilots. Tip: iPods and a pair of headphones is all you need!

Final Thoughts

I want to say this is partly our fault as men. We’re so happy to hang out with a girl we like initially and we’ll do just about anything to make her happy. It’s not lying so much as it is sidelining our annoyances until things settle down and we realize you’re not going anywhere! If you want to make sure this doesn’t happen, keep him on his toes in the relationship, keep him guessing about whether or not you’re sticking around for good, and reward him when he does something you want. Simple!

5 Causes for a Stale Relationship and Tips to Spice it Up

5 Causes for a Stale Relationship and Tips to Spice it Up

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How to Get Out of a Relationship Rut

Is your relationship moving forward, or does it just feel stale? Are you in a relationship rut? Do you know how to make a boring relationship fun again? While routines can be useful for getting things done, they can also seriously undermine the passion of a relationship.

This relationship advice will help you identify the reasons behind a stalled relationship—and show you how to Spice it up!

It’s as much about your own routine as it is about his

In other words, if your relationship is suffering from a lack of attention, sit down with your guy and try to figure out if it’s work schedules that are causing the problem.

Many times, a relationship can get out of the rut and come back to life when two people make a conscious decision to cut back on their work hours and spend more time together.

Of course, this doesn’t always work. Sometimes a couple is only surviving because they spend so much time away from one another. If you’re worried about this, you need to start with some of the other ideas listed below, and then come back to this one.

You know everything there is to know about each other

how to make a boring relationship fun again

How to make a boring relationship fun again

In my dating books, I tell my readers to keep some secrecy about themselves. Ideally, you wouldn’t know everything about them either. It’s the little stories and cool details about you that make someone interested in who you are.

If you feel like you know everything there is to know about your partner, and he knows everything there is to know about you, the relationship will lose its spunk…fast.

A speedy solution to get out of the rut is to get a life outside of your relationship, one without your man. This could be dancing lessons, a night out once a week with your girlfriends, or volunteer work. Heck, try surfing!

Anything to make him wonder where you are and what he is missing.

Do this and guess what? You have more tell him because you had a new adventure! You just became more interesting and mysterious. And how hard was it?

Pretty friggin’ easy – you just signed up for something you always wanted to do and did it.

The same, of course, goes for him.

How to get out of a relationship rut | Spontaneity is lacking and needs some work

Surprise him with something new. Tell him you’re taking him somewhere next week and he needs to leave next weekend completely free. With this suggestion, you may be able to spark his interest in doing spontaneous things in return.

Suggesting in passing that “the relationship could use some spontaneity honey, so, you need to be more spontaneous”, will make him turtle up and feel threatened.

Please don’t do this.

Patience, and a bit of motivation to save your relationship, is necessary here.

You and your partner haven’t been appreciative of one another for a long time

When was the last time you got a little note from him, or he got one from you? How about a card or flowers out of the blue?

When was the last time you thanked him for doing something simple, like taking out the trash or washing the car?

I don’t mean once, either. Try giving him a constant sense that he is appreciated. Without this sense of appreciation, a relationship is going to turn bland fast. This is a great, simple, way to get out of a relationship rut.

How to get out of a relationship rut | You’ve both stopped listening to each other

This is especially true for couples that live together. You see one another every day and if you need to vent about something crappy that happened, it’s going to be directed at your partner every time.

The problem is this kind of continuous negativity really wears out a person’s ability to pay attention. That, and talking about work problems, is going to run your relationship into the ground.

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Try talking to girlfriends first. Vent to them and get all your bad energy out. When you get home you’ll be ready to talk about something else more exciting like surfing!

Get a journal to keep at work and use that for venting before you leave (just make sure it’s not in a place where coworkers can find it!)

Final thoughts on how to get out of a relationship rut

You can learn how to make a boring relationship fun again by following my steps above. If the relationship is too far gone, you may have zero motivation to save it.

In that instance, I suggest getting out as soon as possible. Life is about growth, and you can’t do that while sitting in the waiting room that is your dying relationship.

One final suggestion. Try a couples journal together. This is a diary kept by both of you where you can share fun stuff about your day, ask questions, say what your grateful for, and plan the weekend to name a few things. Yes, guys will do this! I do this with my significant other.

5 Little Hints to Help Him Take Valentine’s Day Seriously

5 Little Hints to Help Him Take Valentine’s Day Seriously

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Subtly coaxing him to do what you want on this special day is ALWAYS preferable to nagging.

I know, I know, you wish your guy would just take Valentine’s Day seriously WITHOUT you having to remind him. And God help him if he forgets about it entirely…oh man, he’s in for it!

What if you could get him to take Valentine’s Day seriously without saying a word? Well, if you follow the advice in this blog, it’s definitely possible! These little tips will have him thinking about Valentine’s Day without you saying a word.

Tip #1: Ask your friends what they’re doing for Valentine’s Day over the phone and within hearing distance of your man

For even greater effect, pick up the phone, walk away into the bedroom as if you’re having a private conversation and then start a long conversation about what your friend and her boyfriend are doing. “Oh, he’s taking you out to the Ritz Carlton! All weekend? Holy cow you’re going to have a lot of fun!”

Trust me, he’ll hear this conversation, get really annoyed that you’re jealous of your friend and get to work planning something for you guys too. Unless, of course, he’s extremely lazy, in which case proceed to Tip #2.

Tip #2: “Accidentally” leave some Valentine’s Day-inspired lingerie for him to find

Tell him you’re going out shopping with friends, making sure you come home with a handful of bags from different stores. Set it all on the bed and subtly let your Victoria’s Secret bag fall to its side and inconspicuously show some of that red and white lace.

Set it up as if you just threw the bags down on the bed and one of the bags just happened to “oops” spill its contents. Let it sit there until you know he’s gone in and out of the room. Unless he is a complete idiot, he’ll make the connection to Valentine’s Day and get to work on a plan.

Tip #3: Tell him you have a surprise for him, but do not mention Valentine’s Day

The words Valentine’s Day should not come out of your mouth. Nothing about the date or anything related to it! Just say you have a surprise for him and you’re excited about it. This will either be you in your Valentine’s Day lingerie which he already saw or another gift you have in mind.

Remember, not a word about the day. If he asks you when, be coy about it and tell him soon. If he asks what the occasion is, say “no occasion” and let it slide. If he calls you out on it and mention’s Valentine’s Day, just smile and say “maybe.”

Tip #4: Play the jealousy card

No, I don’t mean go out with other guys for real. Instead, you’ll want to say you’re going out to dinner with a good friend and her friends. Don’t even specify what “her friends” means. If it’s a single friend your guy knows, even better. The goal is to get him thinking about you going out with other people. This will, in turn, get his mind churning over ways to win you over again. He’ll quickly target Valentine’s Day as the perfect time to surprise you with something awesome.

Tip #5: Keep some Valentine’s Day gift ideas up on a minimized internet window on your computer

Ideally this is a computer or tablet that he uses too. You want him to log on, open up the internet browser, and see something like “gift ideas for guys on Valentine’s Day.” If he hasn’t gotten you anything yet, he’ll feel so guilty for not doing so that he’ll buy you something the next day.

Final thoughts

Trust me, men literally shut down when a woman brings up the dreaded V-Day. It makes us feel obligated to buy some flowers and chocolates—something that we think is boring and you won’t care about anyway. But if you’re subtle about it and avoid any mention of it, you can still manage to get his manly jealousy aroused and engaged in trying to woo you. He WILL make your Valentine’s Day a special occasion.

9 Ways to Make a Killer First Impression on the First Date

9 Ways to Make a Killer First Impression on the First Date

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These 9 Tips will Guarantee a Second Date!

The first date doesn’t have to be nerve-wracking. With these 9 first date tips for women, you’ll totally crush it!

As a dating coach, I get a ton of questions about how to make a great first impression on a first date. The trick, of course, is mastering the art of confidence, something that I teach in all of my books.

However, if you have the confidence, and just need a little push in the right direction, these 9 first date tips for women will help out your dating game dramatically.

First Date Tips for Women Tip #1: Look Em’ In the Eyes!

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Yes, it’s tough to maintain eye contact, especially when you’re the one talking. The more dates you go on, the easier this gets. My advice is to maintain almost 100% eye contact when he’s talking, no matter what.

You can look at his other facial features but come back to his eyes. Even if a waiter comes along, let him finish what he’s saying before shifting your focus and ordering.

I’m amazed at how many women won’t look at their date intently. If you’re looking at your phone or other people he can’t make the connection to you.

When you look at the facial features of a man while he talks, you are indirectly stroking his ego. That’s a good thing!

Tip #2: Keep the Skin to a Minimum

Wear a dress that shows off your body without showing a ton of skin. If you come to a date wearing a miniskirt that’s barely covering your butt, he’ll get distracted and probably think about sex the entire date.

Unless that’s what you want (meaning you don’t want the relationship to last very long) I’d stray away from showing off too much cleavage and leg.

Top Tip #1: Guys will be mentally undressing you throughout the date! This isn’t a creepy thing, it’s just how we are wired. We don’t need to see skin for this to happen – in fact it’s better without it.

Top Tip #2: On the second date, wear jeans if you wore a skirt or wear a skirt if you wore jeans on the first date. This will allow us to your wonderful curves in a new light.

First Date Tips For Women Tip #3: Make the First Date an Event, Not a Sit-Down Pow-Wow

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Go ahead and sit down for a few minutes to get acquainted. Then have a plan prepared in case he doesn’t. Grab some coffee and hit the park, visit a museum, do something that you share a common interest in.

Most first dates are sit-down affairs where you chat and wait for your food. You’re relying too much on guess-work conversation starters that may or may not keep the chat-momentum going.

By getting active, away from the sit down date, you start to see the more spontaneous side of each of you! I remember playing mini-golf with a date and we had a ball. There were no awkward moments because our attention was focused on the windmill.

We were both doing the worm on our backs and yelling “in your face!” when we won the hole. That was so much fun, she is my girlfriend today!

Tip #4: Avoid the Need to Show Off

We all want to show off our best side during a first date but there’s a fine line between looking interesting and trying too hard.

You may be a master snowboarder and you think that would score you some major points if you tell him, but don’t blurt it out unless you can either steer the conversation in that direction or he mentions something related to it.

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Instead, latch on to his passion! Ask him, “Jeff, I saw your surfing pics on FB, you any good?” Then, watch him light up with excitement because you noticed. Now he equates his love with surfing to you.

Need some topics for discussion? Here are 100 things to talk about with your future boyfriend!

First Date Tips For Women Tip #5: Never Tell All

When you tell your whole life story to someone on a first date, it takes away from the mystery of meeting a new person. Instead of focusing on generalities of your entire life, focus on the details of a few particular things.

If you’ve traveled the world and he asks you where you’ve been, don’t tick off a list of places, focus on one and describe it in detail.

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Be coy and tell him you’ve been to only a fraction of the places you want to go to, then ask him where he’s been.

Then, on later dates, you can surprise him every time you bring up a new place you’ve been to.

First Date Tip #6: Say Thank You

I know this one is obvious, but I’ve been on a lot of dates, and many women just don’t think to do this. If he opens the door for you, say thank you. If he picks you up, say thanks for picking me up.

At the end of the date, say thanks for dinner. It’s a simple thing that makes a huge difference!

There is another reason to say thank you. Men are very protective of their money in case you didn’t know. Therefore, we are always on the look out for the gold-digger. By saying thank you, you neutralize this concern dramatically by showing appreciation.

First Date Tips for Women Tip #7: No, Really, Turn Your Phone Off

Most advice columns tell you to avoid texting on the phone during a date, even if it’s a bad date. I’m saying go a step further and turn it off completely. No one needs you for an hour-and-a-half and you’ll be less tempted to sneak a peek at a text someone just shot you.

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Just do it. I guarantee that you will separate yourself from all other dates he might have had.

Tip #8: Keep Your Drama Far Away

He’s your first date, not your husband or your best friend. Keep negative comments and your own frustrations out of the conversation at all costs.

Stay positive. If you have to, air out your dirty laundry over the phone with a friend beforehand. You’ll be less likely to mention it in passing during the date.

If you start beating down your ex in front of me, I am turning on my phone – looking for my next date!

First Date Tip #9: Smile!

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In a study done by the University of Columbia, women who smile are much more attractive to men than women who don’t. There you go, scientifically proven to help get a man to fall in love with you! Smile on your date and the guy will love you for it.

Smiling leads to laughing and laughing together makes for a memorable date! My (future) girlfriend and I were laughing our butts off playing mini-golf!

Final Thoughts:

Follow all nine of these first date tips for women and I guarantee you’ll make a good first impression. Great first date impressions can be game changers.

You’ll need to connect with a guy to make one, and that requires similar personalities, similar interests, and similar levels of confidence. Do this and your date is gonna’ like you!

Don’t get too caught up if a date doesn’t work out. One door might close, but another one will open.

Remember,  I’ve got some of the best dating books for women that will help you on that first date and beyond!

5 Questions to Determine if Your Boyfriend is Marriage Material

5 Questions to Determine if Your Boyfriend is Marriage Material

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You’ve been dating this guy for a year or so now and you really like him. But are you ready for a life-long commitment with this particular guy? Is your boyfriend marriage material?

You’ve found a great guy. In fact, you think you’ve found the guy to spend the rest of your life with. It’s great but you still have a few lingering doubts. Something about him is causing you to question whether or not he’s really the one. Some call the guy you date while you’re waiting for Mr. Right your meantime guy.

It’s okay to feel this way. It means you’re not blindly entering a long-term commitment without making sure everything is okay. You may have put together a list, before the two of you started dating – your criteria for the perfect guy. You’ve measured every guy you’ve met against this list and none of them quite fit the bill.

Then it hit – you found this guy and while he didn’t quite fit all of your criteria, he is still great. He still managed to sweep you off your feet. The good news is that there are a few questions you can answer that will help you figure out whether he’s your soon-to-be fiancé or your meantime guy.

Before you consider each of these questions, I need you to set aside your emotions and pull out your logical-thinker hat. Are you ready?

Is Your Boyfriend Marriage Material Question #1: How Does He React When You Mention A Future Together?

A woman will often bring up the future before a man will so chances are, you’ve brought this topic up first. How did he react? Was he willing to discuss anything like having children or whether you’d have cats or dogs? Have you discussed buying a house or condo together or moving in together someplace new?

While he might be willing to discuss these topics with you, it’s his actions that really tell the true story of his intentions. If you start talking about buying a property together and he’s on his phone to his real estate buddy, he’s definitely thinking of your future together.

If, on the other hand, he says he’ll do something but he never does, he’s not ready.

Is Your Boyfriend Marriage Material Question #2: How Does He Treat Others?

You can tell a lot about someone by how he treats others. This goes for friends and family as well as strangers. You want a guy who says please and thank you, is polite and respectful to others and treats the wait staff at restaurants politely. If he has pets, or you do, how does he treat them?

This is a great way to gauge someone’s true personality without them knowing it. I was recently somewhere with my mom and a man neither of us knew got up to hold her chair while she was sitting down. That guy is a keeper for some lucky woman!

Conversely, a guy who flies off the handle at anyone who crosses him is not someone you want to commit to. The answer you don’t want to hear is similarly.

Is Your Boyfriend Marriage Material Question #3: What’s His Work Ethic?

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It might be difficult to answer this question but you’ll get hints if you’re paying attention. A guy who spends a lot of time texting or emailing you while he’s at work doesn’t have a good work ethic. If you see him bringing things from work home and not taking them back, his work ethic stinks.

What about his motivation where his career is concerned? Men of value want to have a great career so they can support their loved ones. They’re also competitive and like to show off their stuff to their buddies. Without a good job, you can’t buy a better boat than your best friend.

He should be driven to the next promotion or step in his career. At the same time, watch out for the workaholic. This guy should be avoided.

Is Your Boyfriend Marriage Material Question #4: Do You Balance Each Other Out When Things Get Stressful?

A relationship can survive when both partners are willing to support one another during difficult times. Men struggle with difficult times of their lives. We aren’t wired to manage emotions very well. Throughout our entire life, we’re told to man up or buck up or even suck it up and deal. This does nothing to help us manage things like death and disappointment.

You have to learn how to support one another. No, he can’t handle your highly emotional moments but he should at least want to fix things. He will want to bring medicine when you’re down with the flu or help you hobble to the car if you end up on crutches. If he knows you’re having a difficult time at work, he’ll at least order take-out if he doesn’t cook.

Is Your Boyfriend Marriage Material Question #5: How Are His Listening Skills?

Guys are notorious for zoning out during long talks. It happens and is especially true the longer the relationship goes on.

Test your guy by talking to him for a few minutes about your day, then switch topics, and then go back and ask him “What was I just saying?” It’s kind of sneaky but it works! Give him the benefit of the doubt if he screws up once, but if you see it happen multiple times, he’s not paying much attention to what you’re saying.

Of course, this applies to guys who are actually looking at you and nodding their heads. If he’s watching football and you’re chatting away, he’s probably not hearing a word you’re saying. Ask yourself if that’s what you want for the rest of your life. Chances are that’s a no.

5 Things Guys “Forget” to Mention in an Online Dating Profile

5 Things Guys “Forget” to Mention in an Online Dating Profile

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Whether you think these omissions are intentional or not, there are certain things guys forget to mention in an online profile. I recently stumbled across a Cornell University poll on online dating. One of the biggest numbers that jumped out at me was 80% – the number of online daters who say they have lied on at least one dating website. These lies vary from shaving off a few pounds to completely falsifying their age.

Let’s take a few moments to go over the most common fibs you’re likely to see. Some are mildly harmless, while others are definitely cause to forget the dude altogether.

Profile Lie #1: He weighs a few more pounds than he says he does…

A guy is as likely to lie about his weight as a woman is, but probably not in a way that would cause you to notice if you met him. He will put a flattering picture of himself on his profile that is a few years old – you know, before he packed on those additional pounds. My advice is if you meet him for lunch and he’s a serious 25-30+ pounds over what he claimed, then you may want to avoid that second date. That’s a whale of a fib and he’s probably got more up his sleeve.

Profile Lie #2: He’s traveled less than he says he has

Sorry, but airport layovers don’t count as travel destinations. All the same, it is not stopping your new friend across the table from saying he’s been to half the states in the continental U.S.

Profile Lie #3: He’s probably lying about his job

Guys always feel they have a lot to prove when it comes to their jobs and income. In fact, he’s as genuinely concerned about his job as he is about his appearance. Chances are he’ll add in an important-sounding title, something like “Co-Director of Marketing,” when in fact he’s working an entry level gig for 30 G’s a year. And unfortunately, unlike his weight, you can’t tell on a first date whether his profile is telling the truth or not.

Profile Lie #4: He may not be looking for a committed relationship

Alternatively, he may be more interested in a relationship than he claims. It’s very difficult to tell right away what a guy’s true intentions are, especially after just one date. Luckily, with the advent of a huge number of specialized dating websites, this isn’t as much of an issue as it used to be. If a guy wants a friend with benefits, he’ll hit up AshleyMadison.com. If he’s looking for long term, he’ll probably jump on eHarmony. My suggestion is that you trust what the guy says on his profile page unless he does something to convince you otherwise.

Profile Lie #5: He will claim he’s younger (or older) than he really is

This lie happens quite a bit, and again, it can vary from a couple of years to a decade. Some guys age well and you’d never notice the difference. Other times you’ll be expecting a 25-something and get an obvious 40-something. I wouldn’t hold it against you if you walked out right there in that case. But if you’re looking for something casual and he looks about the age that he claims he is, then you shouldn’t worry!

Final Thoughts

Back to that Cornell University poll I mentioned earlier. Chances are 8 out of every 10 profiles you visit will have lies on them. But that shouldn’t deter you from online dating. Men, just like women, want to put their best foot forward on their profile page. If magically “losing” 10 pounds and “gaining” an inch or two of height is what he thinks it takes to pick up a great girl, then, well, let’s just say it’s not as bad as lying about a murder conviction or his stint at the state penitentiary.

7 Things Your Boyfriend Won’t Tell You (and Will Deny if You Ask)

7 Things Your Boyfriend Won’t Tell You (and Will Deny if You Ask)

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Things Your Boyfriend Won’t Tell You

There are always things that both men and women are hesitant to share with their partners, things that they know will bite them in the butt if they share. There are definitely things your boyfriend won’t tell you, and while this isn’t a comprehensive list, it does hit the highlights.

Your job is not to do anything silly—like confront him on these on your next date night. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!

Things Your Boyfriend Won’t Tell You | Secret #1: He WILL lie about your cooking

You may think you’re an awesome cook, but that meatloaf of yours…yeah, he’d rather go to Burger King. I wouldn’t look too deep into this. If he says he likes it the first time, don’t ask him ten more times.

You’ll get the same answer and you’ll both be grumpy about it.  Give him a couple of options, and if you notice he never wants one of those options, chop it out of your dinner rotation. Problem solved.

Secret #2: He’s not going to stop watching porn (no matter how nicely you ask)

But you knew this…or at least I hope you did. Your guy loves having sex with you, but he also loves watching sex from time to time (too much, he may have a problem.)

The more you ridicule him into thinking it’s wrong, the more likely he’ll resent you. Besides, this isn’t about you. I’m sure you’re fantastic in bed. But no matter how crazy the sex, a guy is going to feel the need to get off without you from time to time.

Secret #3: He’ll never tell you that you look fat—EVER

You could be wearing a moo-moo and closing in on 400 pounds, he doesn’t dare say it, not ever. He knows that the minute he says something, you’ll go through your entire wardrobe before you two can leave the house.

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On top of that, you’ll force him to watch as you try on everything you own. If he really thinks you look better in something and says so, you probably won’t believe him – and he knows it.

Secret #4: He doesn’t feel like chit chat after sex

I think a lot of you read this and know about it, but it still doesn’t stop you from getting angry when your guy falls asleep in the middle of one of your monologues. Sorry, but our brains shut down.

We want to play a video game or turn on Netflix but the last thing we feel like doing is chatting. Don’t blame us. Blame biology.

Secret #5: Steamy sex dreams (that don’t involve you) aren’t leaving the confines of his head things your boyfriend won't tell you

He’ll never mention it…ever, especially if it has to do with an ex. Sex with other partners in a dream says nothing about his own desire for you so you shouldn’t feel threatened by it. He’s not going to call his ex up just because he had a dream about her.

Secret #6: He’ll hide the fact that he doesn’t feel like having sex with you (at the moment)

It’s easy for girls to tell their guys to bugger off if they don’t want sex. That’s pretty normal in a standard relationship. Society, however, doesn’t apply that same logic to men denying women sex.

Your guy is so nervous about saying something that he’ll probably just run with it anyway—regardless of whether he’s stressed out, tired, annoyed with you, or a whole slew of other things.

Secret #7: Yes, he’s looking at other women – and enjoying it

He’s sneaky about it, too. For every time you’ve caught him looking at another girl, he’s done it another 10 times without you noticing. When he’s hanging out with friends, it’s even worse.

Can we agree that there are other pretty women out there? He’s not going to have sex with them (if you are a catch – and you are) so don’t sweat it. And the more you get on his case about it, the more he’ll just feel nervous around you. Trust your man and understand that it’s nothing personal.

Things Your Boyfriend Won’t Tell You Final Thoughts

If you’re in a great relationship, none of these little secrets are important. He still loves you and wants to do what’s best for the relationship. I would strongly suggest you not bring these up, even if you have in the past. Give your dude some space. Trust me, he’ll appreciate it.

Christmas Gift Ideas for Your New Boyfriend – and They’re Guaranteed NOT to Creep Him Out

Christmas Gift Ideas for Your New Boyfriend – and They’re Guaranteed NOT to Creep Him Out

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Yes, you should get him something, and no, it doesn’t have to be weird. Here are a few gifts to get your new boyfriend –  and any guy would love to get them from his new GF.

You started dating this guy in what…October? November? And you like him so much that you’ve definitely got to get him something. But you walk a fine line, and if you get him something too nice, or way nicer than what he got you…well, that’s just awkward.

Lucky for you, you read this blog. And I’ve got some great ideas that your new boyfriend will love (without making you seem too head-over-heels crazy for him).

Make it a Gift You can Share Together

You’ve shared a month or two together and I’m assuming you’ve figured out you have a few common interests. So go with a gift you can both enjoy as a couple. Get a season 1 dvd of the show you’ve both been talking about. Or a gift card to a restaurant you’ve both been talking about going to. It’s okay to make it about you as a couple as long as it’s a simple, from-the-heart gift.

Bake It

This is one of my favorites because it’s simple, affordable, personal, and yes, cute. A guy will eat this stuff up (literally).  Get some heart-shaped cookie cutters, or any other pattern really, and get to work. You can spruce it up by buying a basket and putting the cookies in there along with a card. Trust me, this gift idea rocks.

A Unique Adult Beverage

I’m not talking about Jack Daniels or Johnnie Walker Red…or a 30 pack of Bud Light. You’ll want something that piques his interest without being too expensive. Nothing over the $60 range. If you’re not sure, buy something that sounds interesting, like Hebrew, the Chosen Beer.  Anything with “Reserve” on it should work for hard alcohol.

You could also get him a taster. Jameson, Glenfiddich, and Macallan have sets with small bottles featuring their whiskeys aged by a certain number of years.

Something for His Car

If he loves his car, he’ll probably love a gift for it. Those WeatherTech FloorLiners are probably on the edge in terms of how much you should spend on a new boyfriend, but there are cheaper ones around also. If he loses his keys a lot, get him a key finder. Does he have leather upholstery? He might like a leather care kit.

A New Case for His Phone

No, this doesn’t have to be a boring gift. There are some insanely cool cases that are guaranteed to be a huge hit with your new man. If you want to get some awesome case ideas, check out this Pinterest page.

Something YOU Wear

I don’t care if this is cliché, your guy will love it. When you’re exchanging gifts, just tell him that you’re wearing his. He’ll get the idea.

Final Thoughts

Just remember a few cardinal rules

  • Keep the price reasonable
  • Make it fun nothing generic like a tie
  • KISS (Keep it Simple, Stupid)

Follow these guidelines and I promise you’ll buy him something that he’ll love, without dragging any awkwardness into the holidays.

Things Women Do That Drive Men C-R-A-Z-Y!

Things Women Do That Drive Men C-R-A-Z-Y!

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We focus a lot on what men do that drive you crazy. Today we are focusing on things women do that drive men crazy!

I get it. We drive you nuts. But, I have to say that there are also things that we men wish you would understand about how we’re wired. I put together a little (okay not so little) list of things women do that drive men crazy. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments!

Things Women Do that Drive Men Crazy

You act coy

Women have this one nailed. You seem to want us to guess whether or not you like us and want to keep going out. Well, first of all, we graduated high school a while ago, so we’re not going to go ask Don to go talk to Linda to see if you told her that you liked us.

Just tell us, we can take it, and we’d rather know that you’re not interested up front or not so we can move on. If we like you, we show you.

You always want to know what we’re thinking

It’s like you have a crystal ball! And, I’ll admit, most of the time you are right.

Come on, you know you’ve asked your guy this “What are you thinking?” – Probably even after sex or some romantic movie or some equally high emotion moment. I’ll save you the mystery – we’re gonna say “nothing”, and we’re probably going to mean it.

Spend more time watching our actions – sometimes we just aren’t really thinking anything, but when we do something that pleases you, we are showing you that we care.

things women do that drive men crazy

Let us have “me” time

Before we met you, we had hobbies. We golfed, hunted, played soccer, or had a wood shop that we loved to retreat to, but once we started dating you, we had to stop doing those things that make us who we are.

Let us keep playing golf, go hunting with our buddies, or whatever other hobbies we have and we will be better able to give you the time and attention you want.

You have double standards

This goes along with the next one (You see us as projects). You know the drill – we’re going to go out on a date, we ask you what you want to do, and you say…..come on, you know what you say! “I don’t care, you pick.”

So, after some verbal wrangling, we finally pick the latest sci-fi movie. Later, you make it clear that you didn’t enjoy one moment of that movie and you didn’t want to see it. THEN TELL US BEFORE WE GO! If you ask us to pick, then you should be happy with the result.

If you really wanted to pick the movie all along, then say so. We can sit through another Brad Pitt movie if it makes you happy.

You see us as projects that need fixing – “if he could only…”

I know you don’t believe this, but we got along quite nicely before you came along. We’re not perfect, but we’ve settled into our imperfections and we get by. We probably even know what those imperfections are.

If we want to change, we will, and we might, if we see that there is a good reason. You forcing us to do so will create resentment, and we will probably slingshot right back into our old, comfortable habits anyway.

We aren’t men out of a hot steamy romance novel

We are not that hot hunk with an airbrushed six-pack set of abs on the cover of the latest romance novel. We don’t know just how to please you or when to say the right things and we will probably struggle to remember your birthday. Let us be real men with our own romantic gestures. We’ve got ‘em!

Stay focused more in the here and now

Men don’t like to focus too far into the future, but women are always looking at the next landmark – getting engaged, getting married, etc. Enjoy the here and now with us and the future will take care of itself.

Keep your emotions in check

We get derailed by tears – if we continue to try to push our side, we’re being a bully, if we cave in to the emotions, we are being weak. If we need to talk to you about something, we need you to stay with the conversation and not manipulate us with tears.

Be a little less critical

For some reason, women tend to be critical creatures, while men tend to want to watch sports and basically be left alone. If you want to criticize, call your girlfriends and have at it, but we’re just not interested.

We like to hear compliments too

things women do that drive men crazy

“Honey, that suit makes you look very professional” or “boy I love those jeans on you” goes a long way with us, just like it does with you. We like to hear compliments, and we aren’t always so sure of ourselves, just like you. Don’t forget to let us know you think we’re hot.

We are brutally honest when we care

We’re not going to blow smoke up your skirt unless we really don’t give a hoot. If we’re being painfully honest, we really do care about you and want to talk about it. You might not like our directness, but that’s how we’re wired. Please keep in mind to keep your emotions in check from above too!

We like you because you’re women

We like that you smell nice and like to look pretty. Don’t let the feminist movement take all of the female out of you. Sure, if we’re out on a hike or taking a bike ride, we don’t expect you to be all frilly and prim, but don’t be afraid to smell and look like a woman sometimes too!

Take charge in the bedroom

We really want to please you, but we’re not likely to ask how, so you have to tell us…we’re waiting for you to guide us. It doesn’t matter how old we are, each woman is different and what has worked before might drive you crazy, and we might be leaving out something that you really, really like. TELL US!

Give us credit when we deserve it

You women tend to hang onto every little mistake we make and forget to acknowledge the big things we do – after all, we fixed your washing machine last weekend, was not putting the lid on the toothpaste that big of a deal?

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