I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to know these so you can understand men once and for all.
Today I want to talk about the 10th ingredient – A Man’s Need to Provide.
We might try to fight it, hide it, and in some cases believe we don’t need it but the resistance is futile – men must provide if they are to complete their mission in life, or as I call it, their conveyor belt to manhood.
Yes, in the real world, women don’t really need a man in their life to survive anymore. They can go it alone and succeed. But that wasn’t the case for thousands of years and our DNA doesn’t change that quickly.
We haven’t needed our little toe for generations and yet, last time I checked, it’s still there!
Women make their own money today, are just as successful as men, and are not just raised to be mothers and wives. This was not the case just a few decades ago.
This is a problem. Men still need this ‘feeling’ that they can provide for their family and their future children. They need to feel needed in this area.
So what can women do?
Strike a balance between your awesome independence and your potential suitors who want to woo you by providing. Tone down your independence on occasion and let a guy creep in under the radar. Let him pay, let him open doors, and protect you from the cruel outside world. OK, humor him a little bit!
Be a damsel in distress once in awhile and let him come to your aid.
The advantage? You attract the good guys. You attract the good men and you weed out the moochers who want your money and use of your 3 bedroom home. This is especially true of the older crowd of ladies who have been jaded by their ex’s in the past and have gone on to be independent.
Try doing this:
- Allow him to do the “manly chores” around the house
- Compliment him when he does well – even if he screws up a little
- Seek his advice for a problem you may have
- Never compare salaries if you know he makes less than you
- Tell him how you much you enjoy his company
These small things are huge to a quality guy! And you really don’t need to go out of your way to accomplish your goal of fulfilling his need to provide.
I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve your problems that you have with men and now you can too!!
Next week, I will discuss DNA Imprint #11 – Guys take longer to fall in love.
Gregg began his journey into understanding the mistakes we make in dating and how to fix them by interviewing thousands of people – happy couples, unhappy couples, singles looking for ‘the one’ and everyone in between. He reviewed his own dating experiences and combined all of this information into his series of dating advice books for men and women.