2 Different Kinds of Guys and How to Date Them!

2 Different Kinds of Guys and How to Date Them!

Date Great Men, Understand Men

How Do You Date Different Types of Men?

Wouldn’t it be great to have the ability to identify different types of men and know which is best for you? It’s no secret that men are difficult to classify. Each man is a mixture of traits which create his unique personality. That’s challenging for any woman!

What’s more challenging is that men can change and move into and out of categories for brief periods of time.

The shy guy can find a little alcohol and become outgoing, until he sobers up. The short, overcompensating guy can decide to lay off the gym for a while and move back into being a mamma’s boy. Don’t worry, he’ll hit the gym again eventually.

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to identify which type of guy you’ve found so you can know if he’s best for you? Well, good news! I’ve got two categories to share with you today. There are more than two, but these two should help you as they’re two of the most popular types.

I know categorizing men seems shallow in some way, but the truth is when you can see the pros and cons of different personality types, you can better understand if he’s datable and how you can leverage his traits when dating him.

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Different Types of Men | The Over-Compensator

This type of man fakes high self-esteem better than most. The over-compensator tends to be short and probably drives a big truck or a fast car.

He probably has larger than life, barbed wire tattoos around his arms. His vehicle has a loud exhaust system, on purpose, so he can announce his perceived high, but truly low self-worth.

This guy will never cry and he works out every day. He walks with great posture and looks as if he has beehives under his arm pits.

Muscle shirts? Oh yeah, even in the winter. This guy smells good, albeit, a little too good. He wears lifts in his shoes but, if you ask him, he’ll say they’re orthotics.

The over-compensator eats extremely well, if you like protein. No chips or cookies for this guy – no way. Just a steroid shot in the ass and a power shake for good measure!

The Pros Of Dating The Over-Compensator

With Proper Care, This Type of Man Can Improve!

All kidding aside, the over-compensator can be a good guy. Many people have low self-esteem, but this man is doing something about it, unlike most of his counterparts.

He should get credit for that. This type of man works hard, not only at the gym, but at his job and in his relationships. He usually has a good job. When his ego is stroked a little, he will stop showing off and get down to business.

He Is A Protector

The over-compensator will keep you safe. Leave the pit-bull at the animal shelter! You’re dating one…no dog food needed, but don’t forget the protein shake! His protective instincts are a little more heightened than some other types of men.

For that reason, he’ll open doors for you to make sure you get inside the car or building safely. He’ll walk on the street side of the sidewalk and put his arm around you in a protective way.

The Cons of this Type of Man

He Can Have A Bad Attitude

The over-compensator can have an attitude when his ego doesn’t get stroked. He will be quick to pick a fight with any man who insults or challenges him. This makes him a look immature, compared to other guys.

He Gets Jealous

The over-compensator tends to be jealous. This type of man has difficulty coping with competition and will always have some shortcomings in this department. You can mitigate this by trying not to show interest in other men when you’re together. Yes, even something more than a glance at another guy can stir his insecurity.

Over time, as he becomes more secure in your relationship, this may lessen, but if it doesn’t, he’s not the guy for you. You should be able to look in the direction of another guy without stirring jealousy.

He Has Poor Spending Habits

This guy is a spender! He spends a lot on material items as part of his attempt to prove to the masses that he is just as good as the next guy. He does much better controlling this impulse when he is with a loving woman.

Make sure he knows you care for him because of who he is, not because of what he has, and he may eventually be able to rein in his spending. If he doesn’t, it may be time to cut ties.

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Is He Datable? How?

The over-compensator can be datable. The key is not to make fun of him or his truck until you really know him, and even then, be very careful. This is especially true in the bedroom.

One mention of his small penis and he’s doing more chin-ups and putting even bigger tires on his ’75 Bronco. He has limited funds, so know your birthday gift will be reduced to a Planet Fitness 5% off membership coupon.

To stroke the his ego, let him make the plans. He’s very good at it and willing to take the lead. When in public, don’t even think of looking at other guys, especially tall guys. If you do, get ready for the street fight.

Are you dating a loser?

It’s important to know why this type of man is overcompensating. It may be based on harmless insecurities like his height, or it could be his limited bank account. It could also be more harmful insecurities like really low self-esteem or a drug or alcohol addiction. These can cause anger issues.

If you are okay with his reasons for overcompensating, you can begin to build his confidence by showing him that his shortcomings are no big deal to you.

The over-compensator can be a good man. He is a sensitive type of man, he just has a few hot button issues that you need to understand and massage.

Top Pointers for Dating the Over-Compensator

  • Never wear heels – he won’t even walk next to you
  • Don’t ask him about the weights in his living room, bedroom, foyer, closet, dining room or bathroom
  • Take advantage of his many mirrors; kneel down and feel free to fix your hair
  • Don’t put your feet up on the dash, even if it IS a 75 Bronco, he will get angry
  • Ask him daily how many chin-ups he did
  • Understand why he is overcompensating and counter this with support

Different Personality Types of Men |The Mamma’s Boy

This type of man is smart, and he will be all in with you, but he’ll forget to mention that he lives in his mother’s basement. He has money because, well, he lives in the basement of his mother’s house!

Even if he moves in with you, mom comes with him in some way. If you live in, or move to another state, mom will move close by.

When you’re considering big life decisions, know he will check with mom.

Do you want kids? He’s on board but only mom can babysit. When you have a big argument, mom and her boy will side against you.

The interesting thing is that he is a good man. This attachment is his baggage, but it also can be his strength.

The Pros

He Is Chivalrous

The mamma’s boy is taught from a young age to treat a woman with respect. He was taught early on never to disrespect his mom. It also means that he won’t disrespect you or any other woman. You are very safe with this man. He will open doors for you and protect you from harm.

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Emotional Sharing

The mamma’s boy is comfortable sharing his emotions and understands women better than other types of men. You can talk more freely about your needs than you can with other men. If you’re upset, he’ll want to hear why. Did you get into a fender bender? He’ll be there to comfort you.

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The Cons

Your Relationship Will Lack Privacy

There will be times when you will have very little privacy. Mom stops by unannounced and has little regard for what you’re doing and whether you’re in the middle of something. Mom knows and takes advantage of the fact that she is number one with Junior.

Dinners and love making will be interrupted by text messages and phone calls and, if you get upset, watch out!

You should also be aware that private and he’s most likely sharing personal facts about you and your relationship with mom.

You’re Being Measured And Expected To Meet Her Standards

Meeting mom’s high standards for her boy takes a woman with very high self-esteem.

She is a master at beating down a woman with low self-esteem. She will be skeptical on almost every level until she feels you are worthy of dating her son. If you can win her over, you’re all set. To do so, don’t complain about her intervention to your guy. Complaining to your girlfriends is okay as long as it doesn’t get back to Junior or Mom.

Is He Datable? How?

The mamma’s boy can be datable. You need to be prepared to date two people though, mom and Junior. When you ask him for a decision, understand that he’ll only make it after he talks to mom.

Stay on mom’s good side. If you do, you will win over her heart and his too! As a bonus, all her money comes your way in the form of down payments for a house, luxury cars and anything the kids want.

On the down side, if you piss off mom, you are in trouble! A pre-nup is a given! She will always have a better lawyer than you and if she tells Junior to dump you – he will have to comply.

The mamma’s boy needs love and is accustomed to getting plenty from mom. Trying to shift this responsibility over to you could be difficult.

His attachment to his mom can be a huge point of contention between the two of you.

Love this guy, lavish him with attention daily, honor and recognize his bond with his mother and you could win him over for life.

A mamma’s boy needs nurturing. He will ultimately date and marry a woman who reminds him of his mom. These men generally date motherly, nurturing women.

He is an emotional man, which means he is very sensitive and sympathetic to others. He might even cry when you cry.

Top Pointers For Dating The Momma’s Boy

  • Suck up to mom and stay on her good side
  • Include mom at the beginning of any decision; you might even ask her first; try something like this, “What do you think your son would like, a Ferrari or a Porsche?”
  • Pick the most expensive house you can afford and then add 25%…Junior is worth it and mom will make up the difference – just avoid a duplex
  • Give this man love daily
  • Spend time alone with his mom; this will pay off big time

    The best way to date a man is to understand which personality type suits him best. Then, all you need to do is learn how to date that type of guy. Manimals provides you with descriptions of ten different types of men, as well as several types of women. Then, it helps you learn which type of man is best for each type of woman. 

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    How to Tell if a Guy Likes You – 15 Tell-Tale Signals

    How to Tell if a Guy Likes You – 15 Tell-Tale Signals

    Date Great Men, Understand Men

    Gregg help! You want to know how to tell if a guy likes you, right? You want to see signs he likes you, and you spend sleepless nights asking, “Does he like me?”

    I love receiving emails from you! It brightens my day, even though they’re usually coming from women in distress, like this one:

    “Gregg, Help! I like this guy. We’ve been on two dates, and we get along well, but I still don’t know how to tell if he likes me.”

    You’re about to gain insight into how the male mind works, which is much different than how your mind works.

    Naturally, since you’re a woman, your mind works like a female mind, but the male mind works differently. Men are less verbal and more action-oriented, while women are more verbal and expect their men to be equally verbal.

    More than one conflict has occurred because of this fundamental difference. When you ask a guy, “What are you thinking?” and he says, “Nothing,” you assume he’s lying, but the truth is he’s probably thinking about nothing. He’s zoned out, relaxing or listening to the television.

    Because of these discrepancies, trying to see signs he likes you can be frustrating. You’re even more annoyed when you ask your friends, “Does he like me?” and they shrug their shoulders.

    To alleviate your anxiety today, I’ve prepared fifteen different ways to tell if a guy likes you.

    Men Love in Different Ways

    Don’t Fall Into the Milestone Trap

    One of the biggest mistakes women make is looking for and tallying milestones. Let me say this as clearly as I can: Men do not know about or understand milestones.

    What is a milestone?

    He held my hand! Milestone.

    He kissed me! Milestone.

    He invited me to meet his parents—a big milestone.

    We slept together. Milestone.

    He wants to take a vacation together. Milestone.

    You consider each one of those actions a step closer to the alter or at least a step closer to a long-term relationship.

    The truth is that these actions don’t mean a thing to a man. He held your hand because the urge struck him, not because he felt one step closer to wanting to marry you.

    He kissed you because he was overcome by the desire to do so and he invited you to meet his parents because his mom keeps saying, “Why don’t you ever bring any of the women you’re dating around?”

    Men date to have fun. They enjoy getting to know you and uncovering the many layers of who you are. A man would rather go white water rafting than sit in a stuffy restaurant for a date. He would rather take a walk through a park than be forced to make conversation where a dozen other people can hear.

    Instead of searching for milestones to know how to tell if a guy likes you, look for these fifteen tell-tale signs.

    How to Tell if a Guy Likes You | He’s a Nervous Wreck

    When a man approaches you and delivers a smooth line, you’re immediately enamored, but the truth is this guy is probably a player who has practiced that line hundreds of times. He has his approach and lines down to a science.

    The quality guy who will stick around is not polished or smooth. He doesn’t have a set of canned lines and is less likely to approach with such confidence.

    Instead, he’s probably a nervous wreck for a few reasons. First, he doesn’t want to get shot down by a woman in front of his friends. Therefore, he may approach you while one or more of them have stepped away to play pool or get another drink.

    Secondly, he’s afraid you will ignore or send him away without much consideration. Men fear rejection too!

    Next, he may be shy and anxious about approaching. He may sit there for an hour or more perfecting his approach in his head, yet when he starts moving in your direction, all his preparation flies away.

    There are other reasons, which you can find here: Guys Tell us What Keeps Them From Asking You Out.

    Watch for the guy who fumbles his lines and seems to be sweating like crazy. Root for him and be patient with him. If he’s summoned the courage to approach, he’s interested! He’s set aside his fears of rejection in front of his friends to talk to you.

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    Does He Like Me? | He Prepares for Your Dates

    When a man likes a woman, he prepares for your dates. His grooming is spot-on; his car is clean, and he’s wearing a clean, unwrinkled shirt and pants.

    He knows where you’re going for dinner, and if it’s new to him, he has a route mapped out on his phone, so he doesn’t get lost.

    When I was younger, I’d practice pronouncing the names of different wines before a special date. I didn’t know a thing about wine, but I knew it was important for some women I dated.

    What Are His Pre-Date Primping Habits?

    As a word of caution, a player will prepare too, so as one of the signs he likes you, this one doesn’t stand alone. Combine it with others to be sure.

    How to Tell if a Guy Likes You | His Body Language Tells You

    Understanding male body language is essential, so please download this guide, 80 Ways to Read a Man!

    Look for these body language signs. Does he:

    • Lean toward you during your conversations
    • Smile at you a lot
    • Gaze into your eyes
    • Touch you, appropriately
    • Synchronize movements with yours
    • Sit close to you
    • Act as if you are the only woman in the room
    • Behave in a chivalrous way toward you or other women

    Nearly ninety percent of communication occurs without words, so download the guide above to be prepared.

    I like to think of body language as a traffic light:

    • Five or more signs he likes you, green light, go forward
    • One or two signs, amber light, proceed with caution
    • No signs, red light, stop before it’s too late

    The Signs He Likes You Are in His Texts

    Men and women communicate differently. Little boys playing together grunt at one another, using few words. They crash their trucks and try to one-up the other boy.

    Girls play to build relationships, using conversation to shore up relationships from an early age.

    These communication differences don’t change as we age. If you’ve ever been annoyed by a man’s one- or two-word text, you understand.

    Communication issues are one of the biggest causes of breakups, and it’s no wonder since the two sexes communicate so differently.

    He doesn’t understand your need to talk, and you get frustrated by his lack of desire to do so.

    These communication problems extend to texting, and that’s why you can use his texting to determine his level of interest.

    A guy who texts you more than you text him is into you. Other texting signs include:

    • Double and triple texting
    • Texting “Hi” or something similar early in the morning
    • Replying faster to your texts

    BUT here’s the thing. You can’t do the same back. Your inclination to send a barrage of texts only causes him to roll his eyes and ignore you. If you back off, you’re communicating with him as his friends do.

    He can work with this. It’s familiar.

    Send shorter texts. Take as long to reply to him as he does to reply to you unless something is time-sensitive. If he takes two hours to respond, wait two hours to reply. It’ll kill you to wait but trust me.

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    Does He Like Me? He Does if He Socially Announces You

    Socially announcing someone occurs when you introduce someone to your friends and family, both on social media and in person.

    If you’ve been dating for a while, you should be appearing on his social media pages at least once in a while. If he’s into you, he’ll post photos of the two of you.

    This is an ego thing for a guy. If he’s dating you and likes you, he wants to show you off like you’re the furry prize on the top shelf.

    The exception to this rule is a man who doesn’t use social media much. In that instance, he will be excited to show your relationship off to his friends in person.

    If he reaches out to connect with you on social media, he wants to learn more about you. It’s a sure bet he’s checking out your photos and friends. If you find this is true, don’t hesitate!

    Signs He Likes You | He Gets Jealous

    There are two kinds of jealousy – healthy and unhealthy. A little jealousy in a relationship is okay. Men are competitive creatures who fight for what they want.

    Therefore, when a guy sees another approaching his girl to strike up a conversation, he automatically assumes the new guy is trying to pick her up. If he’s into you, he’ll respond accordingly by making it clear you’re together. With that task complete, he’ll change his mood and focus more on you.

    You can test your guy around other men but be careful! You could be stirring a hornet’s nest if he gets too upset and bothered.

    He probably likes you, but you need to ensure this isn’t a repeated reaction.

    What Is Normal Jealousy Versus Obsessive Jealousy?

    Does He Like Me? | He Does if He Asks Questions

    A man who’s into you wants to get to know you better, and one way to accomplish this is to ask questions. He’s trying to determine if the two of you are a good fit.

    This is a positive sign because many men just want to talk about themselves, so if he asks about you, his interest is genuine. A guy who asks questions is looking into the future to see if you share similar beliefs, goals, and values.

    This is when your confidence and story begin to help your relationship along. A great man will be attracted to you if you’re a confident woman, but he will also be intrigued by your story.

    Your story is the collection of events in your life that have made you the woman you are today. This doesn’t mean you give him every moment of your life, but you share tidbits from time to time that helps him learn more about you.

    Your job is not to divulge too much at once. If he seems to be endlessly peppering you with questions, switch gears and ask him some questions. The more you spread out sharing your story, the longer he’ll be intrigued by you!

    If you’re worried about your story, get out and do things. Have adventures. Face fears—Chase after a hobby or two. Get passionate about something. Work out and improve yourself by taking classes.

    He’ll love it all!

    How to Tell if a Guy Likes You | He Treats You Well Around His Friends

    You can learn a lot about a man by hanging out with him and his friends. There are two bits of information you can get.

    The first is how he treats you around his friends. If he’s into you, he’ll treat you with respect and accept nothing less from them.

    If there’s a disagreement, he’ll side with you. He won’t leave you standing alone but will include you in his conversations or introduce you to people you may like so you can get to know them.

    How His Friends Treat You When They Know You’re The One

    The other piece of knowledge you can gain from hanging out with his friends is how they treat him. When his friends pretty much ignore him, something is off. If these guys like him, they’ll be joking around, slapping one another on the back, and behaving as guys do.

    Signs He Likes You | His Mom Shares All – And I Mean ALL!

    If he and his mom have a good relationship, his mother will share every embarrassing detail about him with you.

    One of the most significant signs he likes you is when his mother leaks all his top-secret information to you. Every embarrassing moment from his childhood is laid open for your amusement.

    She’ll put him in awkward situations when she decides you’re the right woman for her son. She doesn’t do this to test him; she does it to test you!

    Hopefully, you have the confidence to handle mom!

    How A Man Treats His Mother Tells You Everything You Need to Know

    When you hang out with his family, note how they treat him and vice versa. For most men, how they treat their mothers is an excellent indicator of how they’ll treat you.

    If he’s a slacker in disguise, his family may attempt to warn you. Don’t dismiss this. It means they like you but know his track record.

    How to Tell if a Guy Likes You | He Remembers Important Information About You

    It’s not just fodder for comedians; men are presumed to forget the important details like important dates and other information.

    When a guy remembers your mom’s name, Fido’s favorite treats, and what you did on your first date, it’s because he’s into you.

    I remember coming home from a date with a woman I really liked and writing down as many things I could remember on an index card. When I saw her next, I wanted to impress her with these tidbits of information.

    How To Tell If A Guy Cares About You

    Does He Like Me? He Does if He Changes his Behavior

    If a guy is into you, he’ll change bad behaviors to impress you. He’ll straighten his apartment before you come over if he’s ordinarily messy. If he swears a lot, he’ll stop or at least cut back significantly.

    Some of these changes will be obvious, while others will show up in his body language. One way this will show is in synchronization. It’s a subconscious change but a change nonetheless.

    Synchronization involves mirroring body movements. If you cross your legs, he will too.

    Pay attention to couples who’ve been together for a long time. They often inadvertently dress alike, wearing grey sweatshirts and jeans for a walk or the same color shirt when they go out.

    Insane Ways Guys Change Their Behavior Around Women, According to Science

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    Signs He Likes You | He Teases You in a Nice Way

    If your guy teases you with witty jabs, he’s sending signs that he likes you. This is an extension of how he treated girls when he was young. It’s a form of flirting.

    Guys are action-oriented from birth, so as little boys, they tease girls they like. While they’ll unintentionally make a girl cry sometimes, they mean no harm. They’re simply treating girls they like as they treat their buddies.

    You can probably look back on your school days to when you came home crying about a boy teasing you, and what did your mother say? I bet she said, “Jenny, that boy likes you,” and you said something like, “MOM! No way!”

    Yes, way!

    I made a girl cry once by punching her in the shoulder. I thought she’d laugh at me and hit me back like a boy, but to my surprise, she cried. It was crippling.

    As an adult, I set myself up to get teased back by saying something like, “Have you ever met a more handsome guy than me?” Then I wait for her to explode on me! It’s fun.

    He Helps You When There is Zero Chance of Having Sex

    When I write about this, I always think of the movie Fever Pitch with Drew Barrymore and Jimmy Fallon. He’s completely smitten with her, and they have a date planned, but when he arrives, she’s violently ill.

    Rather than leave, he hunkers down, helping her into and out of the bathroom, cleaning up after her, and taking care of her. There was no chance of him having sex, but he was there anyway.

    Of course, she feels better a couple of days later and is horrified that he stayed and helped out.

    A player wants only one thing from you, and that’s sex, or sometimes money. But, a guy who’s into you will be there when things are tough, not just when they benefit him.

    Four Test Dates To Uncover The Signs He Likes You

    Remember, a guy who likes you will do things to show his love.

    Does He Like Me? | He Does if He Makes Plans with You

    When a guy is into you, he’ll plan your next date while you’re together. He’ll ask what you like to do and where you like to go. He won’t leave getting another date with you to chance because he wants to make sure he’s on your calendar!

    He might buy tickets for a concert or sporting event while you’re together to prove he likes you. He’ll include you in his social events when he knows you don’t know anyone because he gets that chance to introduce you socially.

    Additionally, he’ll protect you from the evils of the outside world if you trigger his hero instinct. He’ll rock that us against the world thing.

    How to Tell if a Guy Likes You | Your Dog Likes Him

    Animals are great judges of character, and dogs are very protective of their owners. Even if a guy isn’t an animal person, your dog will take to him if he’s a good guy and he likes you.

    I truly believe dogs and cats provide insight on whether a guy likes you, especially if he’s not an animal person to begin with. Of course, why would you ever date such a person?

    Conversely, if a guy likes you, he won’t have a problem walking your dog and picking up the poo. No man will do that for a woman he doesn’t like!

    Now, if your dog is cowering in the corner, this guy doesn’t give a crap about you or your best friend, and he needs to go!

    My cat, Gizmo, hated my ex. I should have known!

    Bonus Signal | Signs He Likes You: These Signs Continue After You’ve Had Sex!

    It’s one thing for a guy to be on his best behavior early in your relationship, but once he’s had sex with you, the behaviors will fall off if he isn’t into you. In that instance, you need to dump him.

    If a guy continues treating you well after sex, he’s a keeper.

    This is one big reason to hold off having sex with a guy until he’s proven his worth. You can’t determine what type of man he is if you have sex on the first date. You lose the ability to test him to determine his intentions.

    Date With Your Head, Not With Your Heart.

    Wrapping Up

    Don’t expect to see these signs immediately. They take time to evolve, but they will with a great guy. Don’t have sex with him until you’ve seen him do at least three of the abovementioned things.

    As you see him start doing these things, keep him around.

    Remember what you read about the milestones above, so you don’t get glassy-eyed over the wrong things.

    For a man, the early stages of dating are like a dance. He wants to keep you guessing while wooing you and making you fall in love with him.

    It seems like a cruel trick, but that’s how his mind works and how you react is crucial. How do you respond to his teasing? Do you tease back or become offended?

    When he fixes your leaky sink, do you show appreciation with a batch of his favorite cookies, or do you complain about the mess?

    The volume of emails I receive from women who miss these signals is staggering. You don’t understand how to tell if a guy likes you and dump men who are showing significant signs of attraction.

    I encourage men to be direct, but I can’t change the world!

    How to be More Confident Around Guys You Like: 8 Confident Woman Traits

    How to be More Confident Around Guys You Like: 8 Confident Woman Traits

    Date Great Men

    Are you wondering how to be more confident around guys you like? Do you want to know what Mr. Right is looking for? These eight traits will draw the man of your dreams to you!

    I know how frustrated you get when you meet the man you believe is your Mr. Right and then in a few short dates, he ghosts you. You thought everything was going along great but he has disappeared into thin air.

    Now, you’re emailing me and wondering what happened. Why did he suddenly vanish? The painful truth is he didn’t find you to be the confident woman he desired, he got bored, or he got spooked.

    Women always ask what Mr. Right is looking for and my answer is always the same. They’re looking for a confident woman. Many times when I deliver this answer, they’re perplexed. How does a man define a confident woman? How does he know if you’re a confident woman?

    The answer isn’t as scary or complex as you imagine. After all, men are pretty simple beings. You draw in people who are most like you. This goes for your friendships and your romantic relationships.

    If you’re drawing in guys who are a mess, you need to spend some time cleaning house. Get a great start by reading these eight confident woman traits outlined below.

    Confident Woman Trait #1: You’re Busy

    No confident man wants a beck-and-call girl. This woman never has anything going on and therefore she’s available for a last minute date. She sits at home all night watching reruns of Grey’s Anatomy. Do you want to know how to ask a guy out and get a YES?

    I get pushback when I tell women they need to tell a guy they can’t go on a date at the last minute. You think you’re sending him a signal that you’re not interested in him, but this isn’t true if you handle the invitation properly.

    When your schedule is naturally busy, you can reply to his last-minute date request with, “I’m sorry, Jon, but I have Yoga tonight. Can we reschedule for Thursday?” Fill your schedule with activities. This will help with the next seven steps!

    How to be More Confident Around Guys You Like Trait #2: Be Interesting

    An interesting woman draws a confident man because he loves the mystery and challenge of getting to know her. The more interesting and busy your life is, the more intrigued he is and the more he wants to keep dating you.

    If you want to know how to be more confident around guys you like, get involved in your community. Volunteer for causes you believe in. Exercise and develop a solid base of trusted female friends. Take classes to learn new things and find hobbies to keep you busy on snowy winter days.

    When you tell a man you spend your Saturday mornings walking dogs at the local shelter and your afternoons learning how to scuba dive for your upcoming trip to Australia, he’ll beg to learn more about you!

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    Confident Woman Trait #3: Challenge Him With Your Own Opinions

    That beck-and-call girl, or rest stop, isn’t challenging to Mr. Right. He might date her for a while, but he never considers her marriage material. He bides his time with a woman like this.

    Men admire you when you have your own opinions about things. Rest stops don’t have opinions. A guy says, “I’m really psyched about the big race next weekend. I think Kyle Bush will take it home!” The rest stop says “Yeah. Me too”. The confident woman, or keeper, says, “Hmm, you’re wrong, Jimmie Johnson can whip his ass any day!”

    That’s how to be more confident around guys you like.

    Now, you’re off to the races. Even if you don’t give a hoot about NASCAR, you just offered up some friendly banter. Of course, you’ll need to back your opinion but a confident woman has already done this.

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    Confident Woman Trait #4: You Have Boundaries

    If you want to learn how to be more confident around guys you like, learn to set boundaries. Women often think they shouldn’t stand up for their boundaries, especially in a new relationship. You don’t want to scare the guy off with rules. The truth is there are many reasons Why Rules and Boundaries Matter In Romantic Relationships.

    To appear more confident around guys you like, set and maintain boundaries. This doesn’t just apply to sex, although that is a big boundary!

    If a man is late all the time, doesn’t call when he should, or attempts to sleep with you, there are consequences. You can’t waver on this because if you do, any respect he had for you will be gone.

    Many men will test these boundaries and receive no resistance. The next morning, it’s, “Bye! Bye!” You, as a confident woman will show this man the door.

    Confident Woman Trait #5: You Are Financially Secure

    Money is a big deal to men. It’s how we provide for our family. Learning how to be more confident around men means becoming financially secure.

    You don’t need to be rich but you do need to be able to pay for your own half of the date or treat a man to a cup of coffee.

    I get a lot of pushback on this, but it’s true. Yes, a man wants to take care of his family and you may be his family some day, but for now, he doesn’t want to date a gold-digger.

    When you’re out on a date, especially a first or second date, offer to pay your share. If he pays, offer to pick up the next one.

    The bonus to having your financials in place is that when he looks into your closet and sees 100 pairs of shoes, you can say, “I know right? I still need a pair of Christian Louboutin Mirabella Strappy 100 mm Red Sole Pumps!”

    BOOM ?!! That’s how to be more confident around guys you like!!

    Confident Woman Trait #6: You Rarely Get Jealous

    A confident woman doesn’t compare herself to other women. Jealousy is a sign of low self-esteem, immaturity and insecurity.

    A confident woman knows her uniqueness and inner beauty are enough for any worthy man. Be aware of your strengths and know how to use them to your advantage.

    I know you wouldn’t be caught out on a date with a man who checks out other women constantly. Well, you wouldn’t date him more than once. A guy who does this all the time needs to be shown the door! He is not worthy of you!

    Being a confident woman means having self-worth and knowing your value. Great men want to explore your unique gifts and abilities! Jealousy Will Destroy Your Relationship.

    Confident Woman Trait #7: You Allow A Man To Take Control

    As a confident woman, you recognize a man’s desire to provide for you by paying at times, opening the car door for you and helping out in general.

    You know allowing a man to feel in control pays off in dividends later in the relationship. You can set aside your ego in lieu of his.

    I understand you’re a strong, confident woman who may be in control at work. Many of the women who email me fit this mold to a “T”. If you take control in the relationship too, your guy may feel emasculated. Ultimately, he will leave, unless you’re dating a beta man.

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    Instead, let him plan some dates or choose what you do on a Friday night sometimes. Allow him to choose which shirt he wears when you go out.

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    Confident Woman Trait #8: You Have Options

    Women often go on a first date with a guy and they’re all in. A confident woman takes a step back, waiting to see if he is worthy of her first!

    When you are confident around a man you like, you’re busy and interesting. You don’t fall for the first breathing mammal you meet. You date a couple of men at a time until one surfaces as the winner!

    For women who have just started dating after a lengthy relationship, this is an easy trap to fall into! You’re accustomed to having a man in your life and you want to fill that void.

    Instead, date many men before you settle on one. Date a type of guy you never thought you’d be interested in. Check out what your options are before you settle.

    Wrapping Up: How To Be More Confident Around Guys You Like

    These eight confident woman traits are all great ways to draw in the guy you like. Don’t be concerned if you feel like you don’t have them all! Not many women do!

    Many of the women I talk to tell me they are very confident at work but feel very low confidence when it comes to their dating life. You are not alone!

    When you hit all eight of these, Mr. Right, or possibly multiple Mr. Right’s will knock down your door. Confident women draw great men. They can sniff out low confidence as well as they can sniff out pizza and beer.

    Knowing how to not date a jerk includes embracing your single life and taking the time to become a confident, independent woman. Riding Solo, a book written specifically for women who want to do just that, walks you through overcoming the stigma of being single on to becoming that independent, confident woman. This places you in the best possible position to find and date wonderful, great men who are not jerks.

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    Ming Asked, Is He Right For Me?

    Gregg, I have a great 2 ½ year relationship going but I am worried, and I am hoping you can guide me and help me decide if he is right for me.  I am 33 years old and he the same. My guy is awesome in many ways – he treats me well, he showers me with love and he has the same family goals and timing as I do. The sex is great and my family loves him too.

    So what’s wrong, you ask?

    I just don’t feel that he is my soulmate. We don’t “click” quite as well as I think we should. I have dated crappy men that were more compatible with me it seems. Our highs were higher, if you will, then they are with my current guy. Of course, our lows were terrible.

    Am I making any sense? Is he right for me? Am I just getting cold feet? Is there a way that I can get him to work on this and “get me” more?

    Your avid follower,
    Ming

    Hi Ming, thanks for your question. It’s a dandy!

    As a dating coach who concentrates on women and their dealings with men, I have come to learn one thing: A woman needs to trust her intuition!

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    If he takes care of you when you are sick – he is the right guy!

    If you are asking me this question, then something is wrong. Granted you told me very little in those 150 words but they screamed that this is the wrong guy to spend the rest of your life with. If you are worried now, then how will you feel after 2 more years?

    Probably not the answer you wanted to hear but I must be honest. Compatibility is super important. Chemistry arrives on day one, and a woman should know that her guy is the right man to spend the rest of her life with soon thereafter.

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    I find many women just don’t want to let a guy go because they feel their man is such a great catch and they might not be able to find a better man. They don’t want some other woman to have him.

    That’s not good enough.

    That leads to a divorce and misery in, say, three years. Chemistry comes naturally and can’t be “fixed.” Sure, he could grow on you, but don’t you think he should have by now?

    I would prefer that the sex be just fair – that is something that can be improved upon, compatibility less so.

    Dig deep Ming. Really think things through and ask yourself, “Is he right for me?” before you walk down the aisle. There is no rush. I would highly recommend that you take some time out from this relationship and seek clarity from the outside looking in. If you do, I bet your situation will become clearer.

    Is He Right for Me? Ask Yourself these 4 Questions:

    Do You Share Core Beliefs?

    Opposites do attract – but not too opposite. A guy is right for you if the important stuff aligns. If you believe that giving back to society is important and you spend hours per week doing it, then volunteering is something you strongly believe in.

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    I highly doubt you would consider dating a man who thinks your volunteer time is money, that could be spent on the two of you purchasing material items.

    Are You a Team?

    A team is synchronized. For example, you say something, and he finishes your statement. Or you may say the same things or do similar actions at the exact same time.

    My girlfriend and I camp a lot. We both love it and you can see it from the moment we start to pack. She handles the food and all the sleeping stuff. I handle the gear and loading the truck. We are a fine-tuned machine.

    We are a team.

    No communication is necessary while we get ready. Yes, we laugh and have fun while packing but there is never any arguing over what needs to be done.

    Are Disagreements Handled with Respect?