Dating Problems for Young Women
I’m down in Delray Beach Florida for 2 weeks and I am meeting up with spring breakers and women in their mid-twenties. I wanted to learn more about young women and their dating problems. I am hearing a constant theme as they discuss their dating issues.
Young men have very little motivation for anything!
Of course they must be generalizing, or at least I hope they are! As I joined them through the night, “Uncle Gregg as they named me”, I started to believe them more and more. Young guys were being rude, showing little respect and looking solely to hook-up. They would lie about almost anything to get what they wanted.
Young women have serious dating problems!
I know this is spring break, but many women were in their mid-twenties, pursuing their careers and facing the same dating problems. The few men who were respectful and “datable” were quite a bit older, in their late twenties and early thirties.
I was aware of this decline of dateable younger men but I had no idea how bad it had gotten. I believe it has a lot to do with technology and the ease of GPS to spot a woman with a nice ass a mile away – it’s crazy!
I asked the women, who wanted more than a hookup, where they were meeting guys. They said, “At bars where else?”
I then went into my rant about how trying to find a man who wants a relationship at spring-break is akin to lying in the Florida sun all day without lotion – you’re gonna get burned!!
Young Women and Their Dating Problems
I have a better plan to find a great guy:
1) Start early and develop your story in life.
What’s it going to be? How will you be defined? What will you be exceptional at? Create your vision by brainstorming 50-100 pursuits that you always wanted to do – a bucket list in your twenties. Then, pick 5 and do them! If you are thirty or forty do the same thing! Heck, if you are fifty or sixty, start now!
While attending these venues, you will meet quality men or at least have a much better chance. The wonderful bonus is that you might find your future career choice! At the very least you will have fun and meet some new friends.
2) Date a few years older.
I found if women meet and date guys a few years older, say 5 years, they will find a better pool of datable men. Guys seem to hang on to their college years much longer than women. But to do this, women must hang out at places where they can find older men, which brings me back to my point above.
3) Go ahead and have fun but leave your heart at home!
Hey, I was that stupid guy with the muscles on spring-break hooking up with women so I get it. Have fun and hookup just leave your heart out of it – use him like he is using you and never look back! Most of the girls I talked to said they were doing this but I called a few out.
A few were faking ‘just having fun’ and I could tell that they were really hoping the stud they hooked up with last night night might text again. In other words, their confidence was taking a hit even though they said it wasn’t.
That’s a big deal. The women that could explore and grow from the hookup were few and far between. I told them they needed to think with their heads and leave their hearts out of it, under these circumstances, or it would bite them in the ass later in life.
Young Women and Their Dating Problems – Wrapping Up
Women agreed with my advice, but out of thirty, only a few were meeting men outside of bars, dating older and hooking up without damage to their confidence.
I realize 21 year olds are just having fun – I get that. Heck, I love bars too. But in the next year or two, these women will graduate and face real life. I wonder how many will heed my advice, slow down the partying and set a more positive and fulfilling course in life.
Regardless, I’m headed back out on “The Ave”, as they call it in Delray Beach, to see if I this old man can fix the dating problems of some more young lives – wish me luck!!