Men. They Always Come Back. Why?
You and your boyfriend breakup, and he doesn’t care about you until months later, after you stopped caring about him. Curious isn’t it? Men come back like a flock of sheep to grass. There are several reasons for this and I’ve got seven of them for you today!
First, let’s look at why he probably left, then follow up with the seven reasons why men come back months later.
Why He Left: The Challenge Evaporates
Nothing worth having comes without a fight. You’ve heard this phrase before, and oh does it apply to men! The challenge was lost the day you moved in and went exclusive. The key is to keep the challenge going while you are together.
Stay crazy. Break your routine. Stay true to your friends. Keep your hobbies, join in his, but never make him your hobby. This is the stuff that keeps a man on his toes.
Quite often I interview 65-80-year-old couples. I ask them what their secret is. The man almost always says, “I felt like I never caught her – I still haven’t!” The woman just smiles as she sits next to him…she knows the secret!
The 7 Reasons: The Grass Wasn’t Greener after All
While you were apart, he partied like a rock star and he got bored. Big surprise. Then, he realized other women didn’t except his flaws like you did. Staying apart from you means he needs to lose the weight, make more of his own money and start treating people with more respect.
He thinks this seems like a lot of work. He realizes there is an easier way, and that is to get back with you.
Why Men Come Back Months Later | He’s Testing the Waters
Your ex wants to be single, but he doesn’t want you to be single. If things don’t work out in his singles life, you are his fall back choice. Never allow this to happen! If he comes waltzing back, he needs a real plan accompanied by real action before you take him back, and that’s assuming you are still single.
He wants to get Laid
You made him feel like he was the greatest guy out there, so he thought every other woman would think the same. He was dead wrong. And now, he’s having a hard time just getting sex. He figures you will still want to have sex with him, if he just makes a little effort, so sure enough, months later, he’s texting you again.
Memories are tough, that’s why I tell women to build as many powerful, fun memories as possible with the man they are with. I call them pennies in the jar. Men come back months later when they experience something that reminds them of you – even if they are with a new person.
I talk to older couples and they say, time after time, they stayed together because they had so many wonderful memories together that no other person could replace. With your next boyfriend, I recommend you do the same.
The Pressure from Friends and Family
Beta men listen to the important people in their lives because they trust them. When their friends and family start piling on the reasons why they should have never left their ex, it begins to sink in.
They listen and start thinking about the other reasons: the memories, the sex, and the unconditional love they used to receive. Soon, they want to come home.
Why Men Come Back Months Later | He is Ready
A few guys genuinely need a break to think about things. This is not a bad thing. Many have issues they need to fix. I know because I was one of those guys. I couldn’t love because I saw my parents fall apart in front of me; I was bitter and confused. I got help.
A healthy male comes back when he realizes that he would prefer being with you than being single and hanging out with his friends. That, my friend, can happen in a New York minute if you have done the work and become a confident woman.
You are a Challenge Again!
I saved the best for last because this is Mt Everest of reasons why men come back months later. When I coach women, I suggest they lose the weight, build a vibrant social life, and have fun. What does this do? It builds confidence and makes a woman interesting and attractive because she is happy and has stories to tell and she looks great!
Do you take him back? Hell no! You laugh in his face and flaunt your new guy in his presence. Am I being vindictive? Yeah, maybe.
There you have it – Why Men Come Back Months Later!
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