Why Do Men Stare at Women?
So you’re on the train and a cute guy keeps staring at you. Why do men stare at women? What is he thinking?
1) He wants to steal your money, phone and your jewelry
2) He likes you
Let’s go with option #2 – it’s more fun!
I wish I could say that when you catch a guy staring at you, he is analyzing the odds of compatibility by using an algorithm more complex than what Google uses.
But he is not.
He is thinking in short, unimpressive thoughts:
- I really would like to f*** her
- I wonder if she wants to f*** me? (I’m not always proud of my gender)
- Those shoes can’t be comfortable
- I really like her
- Where am I headed in life?
- Did I leave the coffee machine on? I need to get a machine that automatically shuts off so I don’t have to ask myself this every day
- I should say something but it’s too late – she knows I’m staring at her and she’s getting creeped out
- Wish I had my favorite shirt on – If I did I bet she would check me out
Guys just love staring at women. We can’t help ourselves. We like guessing what they are like in person and where they are from by watching their mannerisms. Most men stare more than a woman is comfortable with if they knew.
That’s why men look away when their eyes meet and then they go back to staring.
Men will stare more at a women who stand out. Maybe she is wearing a bright, yellow scarf or maybe she walks differently. It’s just fun to watch.
Men are always looking at female butts. I like legs so long-legged women attract me. Many of my friends are attracted to cleavage. Married men, it seems, like to stare at everything!
Hair attracts men. Long hair or beautiful, shiny hair. Purple hair too. Big red lips attract men according to scientific studies.
Most stares are harmless even if you are in a relationship. Let him stare a little. If it’s blatantly obvious, OK he might be a jerk, but if he sneaks a peek here and there don’t sweat it.
In fact, do the same. This will keep him on his game – men love the competition and fighting for you! Then, you can both laugh at the fact that it’s healthy and OK to stare at attractive people and couples.
When you catch a guy staring at you what should you do?
Well, if he seems cool, is attractive, and you are in a public area then glance back. Play a little game with him. When he stares, you stare then look away and give a little smile. Your smile should be his clue to come over and say something.
But he probably won’t. Guys need to be clubbed over the head to understand that a woman is trying to flirt so be more aggressive.
Walk by and brush up against him by ‘accident.’
Say something! It’s OK to be the aggressor – it shows confidence around men. “You gonna’ finish that fruity drink or do I need to help you?” Then laugh at your bravado! He will love it.
Just make sure the guy isn’t just staring at your body. This means he just wants to have sex with you. You can usually tell – it’s more of a creepy stare.
If he is staring at your face and your body, then he is most likely into you. That’s what men do who are interested – we move up and down with our eyes over the female body.
Shy guys will act nervous if you catch them staring. They wish they could get up the nerve, but they can’t. My friend John is like this – great guy but you would need to approach him after you caught him staring at you.
Why do men stare at women?
Bottom line, men stare at women all the time. It’s natural and harmless for the most part. We are not thinking deep thoughts – just checking you out and thinking, ‘what if?’
It’s up to you to start the flirting process if you are interested in him or just want to have some fun flirting!Share