Texts to Get Your Ex Back
Before I give you three powerful texts to get your ex-boyfriend back, let’s set the stage.
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In my best-seller, How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, you learn about sending a powerful goodbye letter to your ex. This is followed up a week or two later with a slip-in/slip-out text.
These three powerful texts to get your ex-boyfriend back are written to fit right into what’s going on with him.
Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Text #1: The “I’m Moving On” Text
Send this text about four or five days after he receives the good-bye letter.
The goal is to get your ex-boyfriend back indirectly, through things like the goodbye letter and strategically breaking the no-contact rule, as you’re about to do!
Your friends and your gut are telling you to text him your angry emotions; make sure he knows every. single. thing. he’s done wrong, but it won’t work.
IF he reads a text like that, he’ll roll his eyes and go back to what he was doing. He’ll ignore your future communications.
This is not what you want him to do!
He Isn’t Expecting Your Message!
Instead of whining, begging and blaming, you say, “Okay buddy. You wanna break up? I’m good with that.” You send the good-bye letter then, you deliver a second gut punch with the text.
He’s confused and intrigued.
This breakup was his idea. He wanted his freedom or an ex or some other intangible he thought he would gain by setting you aside.
He’s sure you’re sitting there, crying into your big bowl of ice cream, waiting for him to grace you with his presence again.
Your letter and these texts tell him otherwise!
By the time you’re done with him, he won’t be thinking of you as his fall-back girl. He will be hoping like heck you’re still available and that you still want to date him!
The messages he receives from you don’t say, “I’m angry, bitter and binge-eating”.
They say, “I’m moving on, pal”.
He’ll question whether breaking up with you was such a good idea after all.
The Moving On Text
“Hey Jeff. I’m going surfing next month and I need my board. Please stick it on the porch so I can grab it. Thanks!” This text works because now he’s wondering who you’re going surfing with. Is it another guy?
He thinks, “But that was our thing!” and “Why isn’t she all torn and sad about me leaving her?” The language of the text is important.
You are telling him you are picking up your board. You aren’t asking if you can.
This is the behavior of a confident woman who knows what she wants!
The behavior of a low-confidence woman goes more like this:
“Please! I miss you!!! Maybe we can grab a drink soon??”
The text also doesn’t set a day or time. You’re not giving him the opportunity to ‘happen to be home’ when you stop by. You’re telling him you’ll come and get it on your time, not his and you don’t want to come across him when you do it.
To use this text, insert a favorite activity from your relationship into the text.
“Hi Joe! What was the name of that apple orchard we visited last year? I’m going in a couple weeks and I can’t remember”
“What was the name of that hotel in Aruba? I am getting ready to plan another trip there and I can’t seem to recall”
These texts all accomplish the same thing, a swift punch in the gut.
Texts to Get Him Back #2: The “Remember” Text
Use this text later in your breakup.
This text follows the good-bye letter and the slip-in/slip-out text above.
Allow two or three weeks to go by with no contact.
For this text, leverage something very powerful – positive memories. These are called pennies in the jar. If you loved one another and did things together, there are probably quite a few pennies in your jar!
Pennies come from vacations you took together or small outings, like trips to the orchard. You accumulate them at pumpkin farm or cutting down your Christmas tree.
They come from great date-nights or weekend getaways. They can even come from a trip to the home improvement store to choose paint for the kitchen if you had fun doing it.
This text gives him a jolt of endorphins because it reminds him of one of those great memories.
“Gregg! It’s apple season again! I stopped by Lind’s Farm yesterday and picked up some cider for my Mom. It brought a smile to my face and a laugh!”
This works because the timing is spot on!
Two or three weeks out is the perfect time to send this text. He’s had enough time to miss you but you haven’t been so far out of his thoughts that he’s forgotten about you.
He’s tested the single waters and investigated those greener pastures. The reality he’s facing is that those greener pastures are full of piles of…well you know.
If he is a player, he wants to remain single, but you’re a confident woman who doesn’t date players and you certainly wouldn’t chase one back into your life!
This text puts a pit in his stomach!
Tossing one of those shiny pennies back at him at this point in the breakup hits him hard. He’s thinking about you and you just hit him, out of the blue, with one of your treasured memories together.
Job well done!
Text Your Ex Back #3: The “Help Me” Text
This is a text you use later, perhaps as many as three months after the breakup. Don’t worry, it will still work!
One key to understanding men is to realize that the thing they like to do most is fix stuff. In fact, they like to fix things in other people’s lives better than they like to fix them in their own lives!
It’s one of the ways a man shows you he loves you.
Therefore, it’s easy to understand why fixing something for you is an intriguing idea for him. In fact, he will rethink breaking up with you in the first place! POWERFUL!
This is something your ex knows he can do right. He thinks he’s screwed up everything else in your relationship, but if he can do what you ask, he’s willing and ready!
“Justin, Long time, huh? A quick question. I’m trying to hook up a new printer and I have no clue how to connect my laptop with the router thing. You are good with this kinda’ thing. Can I call you with a few questions?”
This text works because he’s feeling guilty over breaking up with you.
Men Show Love by Fixing Things for You
Asking him to help you with something gives him the chance to fix things. If he can fix whatever you ask him to, he most likely will.
This is the opening he needs to warm to the idea of reconciling and coming back.
This type of text creates challenge.
Not in what you said, but in what you didn’t say.
You didn’t say “Oh Justin, I miss you so much!”
You didn’t say, “Hey Justin, let’s get together”
You didn’t say, “Can you come over and fix it for me?”
You just asked him for the information on how you could fix it and you move on.
Conclusion: Texts to Get your Ex Boyfriend Back
Timing is everything! Your good-bye letter delivered the first punch in the gut. The timing of the slip in/slip out text was exactly as it needed to be. You finish the sequence with the third powerful text.
Without making positive changes in your life, any reconciliation will end with the same result – another breakup. That’s not what you want!You have what you need to do the work! Three powerful texts to get your ex-boyfriend back! Right here in black and white!
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Do You Want Your Ex Back? Try These Five Proven Steps!
Do you want to get your ex back?
Check out this proven Five Step Process to Get Him Back! Work your way through these five steps and:
- Feel less emotional
- Figure out what happened to end the relationship
- Rebuild your confidence
- Toy with his psyche
- Plan your meeting with him
As you’re reading, many men come back months later. Taking these five steps helps guarantee that your new relationship will be a success!