Before I give you 3 powerful texts to get your ex-boyfriend back, let’s set the stage.
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In my best-seller, How to Get Your Ex Back Fast, you learn how to send a powerful letter to your ex, wait a few days and then send a slip-in/slip-out text.
These 3 powerful texts to get your ex-boyfriend back are written to fit right into that scene.
Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back Text #1: The “I’m Moving On” Text
You want to send this text about four or five days after he receives your good-bye letter.
If you’ve already read the book, you know that your goal is to get your ex-boyfriend back indirectly, through things like the letter and breaking the no-contact rule, as you’re about to do!
Your friends, and your gut, are telling you that you should be texting him all of your angry emotions, making sure he knows every. single. thing. he’s done wrong, but I am here to tell you that won’t work.
IF he reads a text like that, he will roll his eyes and go back to what he was doing. He will also probably ignore your future communications.
This is not what you want him to do!
Instead of whining, begging and blaming, you are saying, “Okay buddy. You wanna break up? I’m good with that.” You’ve begun this process by sending him the good-bye letter.
Now, we’re delivering a second gut punch with this text.
He will be confused and intrigued.
Remember, this breakup was his idea. He wanted his freedom or an ex or some other intangible he thought he would gain by setting you aside.
He was sure you would sit there, crying into your big bowl of ice cream, waiting for him to grace you with his presence in your life again.
Your letter and these texts tell him otherwise!
By the time you’re done with him, he will no longer be thinking of you as his fall-back girl. He will be hoping like heck you’re still available and that you still want to date him!
The messages he receives from you don’t say, “I’m angry, bitter and binge-eating”.
They say, “I’m moving on, pal”.
He will begin to question whether or not breaking up with you was such a good idea after all.
The Moving On Text:
“Hey Jeff. I’m going surfing next month and I need my board. Please stick it on the porch so I can grab it. Thanks!”
This text works because you’ve now got him wondering who you’re going surfing with. Is it another guy?
“But that was our thing!” is running through his head, along with “Why isn’t she all torn and sad about me leaving her?”
The language of that text is important.
You are telling him you are picking up your board. You’re not asking.
This is the behavior of a confident woman who knows what she wants!
The behavior of a low-confidence woman goes more like this:
“Please! I miss you!!! Maybe we can grab a drink soon??”
The text also doesn’t set a day or time. You’re not giving him the opportunity to ‘happen to be home’ when you stop by. In other words, you’re saying “I’ll come get it when I feel like it, and I’m not coming to see you!”
To use this text, all you need to do is fit a favorite activity from your relationship into the text.
“Hi Joe! What was the name of that apple orchard we visited last year? I’m going in a couple weeks and I can’t remember”
“What was the name of that hotel in Aruba? I am getting ready to plan another trip there and I can’t seem to recall”
These texts all accomplish the same thing – a swift punch in the gut.
Texts to Get Him Back #2: The “Remember” Text
You’ll want to save this text for a little later in your breakup.
This comes after you’ve sent the good-bye letter and the slip-in/slip-out text from above.
You’ve allowed two or three weeks to go by and he has not contacted you, or he’s been less than excited to talk or reconcile.
For this text, you’re going to leverage something very powerful – positive memories. I like to call these pennies in the jar. If you loved one another and did things together, there are probably quite a few pennies in your jar!
Pennies come from vacations you took together or small outings, like trips to the orchard, pumpkin farm or to cut down a Christmas tree.
They come from great date-nights or weekend getaways. They can even come from a trip to the home improvement store to choose paint for the kitchen if you had fun doing it.
This text is meant to give him a jolt of endorphins by reminding him of one of those great things you did together.
“Gregg! It’s apple season again! I stopped by Lind’s Farm yesterday and picked up some cider for my Mom. It brought a smile to my face and a laugh!”
This works because the timing is spot on!
Two or three weeks out is the perfect time to send this text. He’s had enough time to miss you but you haven’t been so far out of his thoughts that he’s forgotten about you yet.
He’s had some time to be single and test out those greener pastures. The reality he is facing is that those greener pastures are full of piles of…well you know.
If he is a player, he wants to remain single but you’re a confident woman who doesn’t date players and you certainly wouldn’t chase one back into your life!
This text puts a pit in his stomach!
Tossing one of those shiny pennies back at him at this point in the breakup hits him hard. He’s been thinking about you and you just hit him, out of the blue, with one of your treasured memories together.
Job well done!
Text Your Ex Back #3: The “Help Me” Text
This is a text you use later, perhaps as long as three months after your breakup. Don’t worry, it will still work!
One key to understanding men is to realize that the thing we like to do most is to fix stuff. In fact, we like to fix things in other people’s lives better than we like to fix them in our own lives!
It’s one of the ways a man shows you he loves you, in fact.
Knowing this, it’s easy to understand why fixing something for you will be an intriguing idea for him. In fact, it will have him rethinking the idea of breaking up with you in the first place! POWERFUL!
This is something your ex knows he can do right. He might be thinking he’s screwed up everything else in your relationship, but if he’s able to do what you ask, he’s willing and ready!
“Justin, Long time, huh? Question. I’m trying to hook up a new printer and I have no clue how to connect my laptop with the router thing. You are good with this kinda’ thing. Can I call you with a few questions?”
This text works because he may be feeling guilty about how things have gone. He feels guilty for breaking up.
Asking him to help you with something gives him the chance to ‘fix things’.
If he can fix whatever you ask him to, he most likely will.
This can be the opening he needs to warm to the idea of reconciling and coming back.
This type of text creates challenge.
Not in what you said, but in what you didn’t say.
You didn’t say “Oh Justin, I miss you so much!”
You didn’t say, “Hey Justin, let’s get together”
You didn’t say, “Can you come over and fix it for me?”
You just asked him for the information on how you could fix it and you move on.
Conclusion: Texts to Get your Ex Boyfriend Back
Timing is everything! Your good-bye letter was timed just right.
Your slip-in/slip-out text was timed just a few days later.
The other texts are also timed out, just right.
In between the messages you’re sending your ex, you’re working on yourself. You’re looking at what happened in the relationship through true lenses and rebuilding your confidence.
You will never be that clingy girlfriend again!
Without making positive changes in your life, any reconciliation will end with the same result – another breakup. That’s not what you want!
You have what you need to get started! 3 powerful texts to get your ex-boyfriend back! Right here in black and white!
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