Hi — Tiffany here. Do you consider yourself an introvert? If so, you know we introverts aren’t necessarily shy. Many of us have our moments, where we do just fine mingling at a party or other large social setting. But once we get back home, we can finally relax and regroup on our own (insert sigh of relief here). We can deal with crowds and noisy venues if we must, but we prefer quieter, solitary activities and more intimate relationships. We like deep conversations (small talk drives us nuts). We’re analytical. We’re great listeners. We’re also mysterious and passionate about life. Virtue and trust rank high on our list of qualities we look for in a man. And we are selective when it comes to friends (and boyfriends). We don’t share our lives with just anyone.
But in a dating world filled with extroverts saying, “Look at me!” how can we possibly stand out? We have a lot of fine qualities, but still — we are certainly less outspoken, definitely more reserved. You would think being an introvert would be a disadvantage when it comes to dating — but it’s not! Guys love introverted women for so many reasons! According to best-selling author and dating coach Gregg Michaelsen, “Introverts are not wed to a life of being single.” Yes, we introverts can stand on our own. But we don’t have to!
It’s time to use our unique traits to our advantage in the dating world. We can compete with extroverts without sacrificing or changing who we are! In Be Quiet and Date Me: Dating for Introverts in a World That Never Stops Talking, Gregg gives us the tools to navigate the dating world as an introvert, and gives the confidence we need to truly feel like a woman of value. Here are five dating advantages to being an introvert.
#1 Introverts have the ability to build strong interpersonal relationships
We have a greater need for intimacy, and we develop strong bonds within our small circle. We care about the people in our lives and take the time to learn about who they really are as a person. Extroverts probably have lots more friends than we do, but likely not as many close friends. Our ability to build strong interpersonal relationships with our friends can be a real asset when it comes to finding a soul mate to live happily ever after with.
#2 Introverts really listen
Extroverts talk loudly over people to get their point across, and quickly move from subject to subject. We are careful listeners and deep thinkers — attractive qualities to the opposite sex. We process the information we hear, and wait our turn. We never interrupt a conversation. But when we do talk, people WANT to listen in the same way we do, because they know what we say will be worthwhile. We may not always be the life of the party, but we are masters at real conversation. Gregg is right, being an introvert is a true gift!
#3 Introverts truly care
We introverts are great at remembering important dates like birthdays and anniversaries. We care about others more than we care about ourselves. Being thoughtful is a great trait to have, and keeps us out of trouble. How many times have you gotten upset with a guy for being selfish and forgetful? Introverts are also quick to sense feelings. We know when someone is upset and we care enough do something about it. We are also adept at thinking outside the box — our unorthodox creativity helps us navigate through the tough times in a relationship.
#4 Introverts act carefully
Introverts think situations through before we act or speak…. always. Instead of going on a gut instinct and or saying something impulsive that we regret later, we make decisions slowly and more carefully and take the time to formulate our words. And when we do mess up, we can admit we are wrong! Now that’s the key to a successful relationship!
#5 Introverts prefer quality over quantity
We may not be the most popular girl at the party, but we are truly loved within our small, close-knit circle of friends. Because of our caring nature and good attributes, we are well suited to focus on one guy, and really take the time and effort to build a quality relationship that will stand the test of time. And that’s what matters most on the path to love!
Kind of makes you wonder if we would all be better off being more introverted? Just another deep thought for us to ponder….Share