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Journaling Techniques That Work!

Whether it’s a personal or couples journal, starting a journal is like starting a new workout – you need great journaling techniques! Otherwise, it’s great at first but fizzles out fast and before you know it, the excitement and consistency wane into more of a meh kind of feeling.

Well, there are too many benefits to both journaling and exercise to give up so quickly, so today I have some journaling techniques to keep you on track.

Journaling Techniques: Don’t Make Your Journal Too Large

You’ll see why this is such a big deal in a minute. Your first journal doesn’t need to be a full-size notebook. The pages are larger to fill, and it takes up more space.

Instead, go for a smaller journal. Most discount and drug stores carry notebooks in a variety of sizes. Go for one that’s big enough to write in but not so big that it feels intimidating.

Keep Your Journal with You

Now you see why I suggested a small journal. A small journal is easy to stuff into your handbag, bookbag or even a back pocket. You can easily carry it with you wherever you go, and I strongly recommend doing so.

You never know when a moment will pass by that you would like to remember. Writing about it in your journal can help you recall the memory.

Don’t Create Too Many Rules for Yourself

If you’re one who likes to make rules, pay attention to these journaling tips:

I will write in it every morning as soon as I wake up
I will write two pages every day
I won’t write negative things
I will only write about personal stuff, not work

The problem with ‘rules’ like these is that once you break the rules you established, you’ll be less likely to continue.

It’s like eating a big piece of chocolate cake while you’re dieting. As soon as you’ve broken your no sugar rule, you figure the whole thing is a huge waste of time anyway and you give up.

Write in your journal when it fits each day. One day, it might be first thing while another day might be a lunchtime entry.

Setting a rule about how many pages to write can be a good thing, but it can also force you to give up if you feel you don’t have anything to say that day. Whatever length of journal entry you choose for that day is fine.

Journaling Techniques: Review Your Journal Entries

Of all the journaling techniques here, this is one of my favorites.

Go over your entries at the end of the week and look for repeating words or themes. For example, if you find yourself writing a lot about being tired, you can look back on the week and see what may have happened to make you feel so tired. Perhaps there’s something you can fix.

You may find yourself using negative self-talk in a journal. This is something to observe and fix as soon as possible. If you’re writing it down, it’s also banging around in your head. Turning your negative self-talk into positive self-talk is key to mental health.

Important Journaling Techniques Include Creating a Journaling Space

You can really write in your journal anywhere, but if possible, set aside a place where you can tune out the noises around you and focus on your thoughts. This is a great journaling technique for those who live in a busy household!

I had a friend who used her oversized closet for her journaling and meditation spot. She cleared out a corner and put a comfy chair inside. She was able to use the light already in the closet and made this space all about peaceful thoughtfulness.

If you prefer to be outdoors, find a spot where you can feel calm and peaceful. Wherever you decide to write is fine, as long as it’s a spot that is as isolated from distractions as possible.

Alternatively, you can journal at a time of day where you experience fewer distractions like first thing in the morning or after everyone else has gone to bed.

Redefine Journal to Fit Your Needs

This is an important journaling technique for people who struggle for topics! Your journal doesn’t need to be the same thing, day after day.

Use it as a brain dump space. Write lists of things you want to do. Write your goals or dreams. Today is my grandmother’s birthday, so when I wrote in my journal, I wrote about my fond memories of her.

There are truly no rules about journaling. Nobody needs to read what you write so write for you and you alone. Put down whatever is weighing on your mind at that moment.

Don’t Make It a Negativity Space

Of all the journaling techniques here, this one is probably the most important!

It’s fine to write about something bad that happens in a day, but your journal should not be a daily dose of what’s wrong with my life.

If you find yourself in this mode, shift gears and write some statements of gratitude. What can you be grateful for today?

Gratitude is very powerful for positive mental health. It helps you focus on the good things that are happening in your life. Even if you’re grateful for a box of tissues or a roll of toilet paper, be grateful!

There are days when your entries will be about something bad that happened and that’s fine, all I ask is that this journal doesn’t become a place to wallow in self-pity or complain continuously about everything that’s wrong in your life.

Find Writing Prompts

Pinterest is full of journal writing prompts for all types of occasions. It won’t take but a minute or two to find lists of 30 or more prompts you can use. I like to list them in my journal at the beginning of the month and then go through them, writing about a new one each day.

This not only helps me dig into topics I might otherwise avoid, but it also helps me avoid the plague of the blank page.

Make it a Judgment-Free Zone: Journaling Techniques for Building Confidence

Your journal should be something you are free to write, draw or be creative in. You can make an entire entry by drawing a picture or writing and then painting over it with gesso.

Whatever you do in your journal, though, don’t sit back and judge it after. No, “I never should have written that about Julie’s boyfriend. He’s not so bad.”

If it’s a thought you had and it was important enough to write it down, leave it and don’t sweat it. It’s not like your friend will read the entry.

Key Journaling Techniques: Allow Your Thoughts to Go Where They Go

Sometimes, we try to avoid unpleasant thoughts, but if you start writing in a journal, your mind might just take off on a tangent. This mother of all journaling techniques is about letting your thoughts wander wherever they go without slamming on the brakes because it gets uncomfortable.

Something might be eating away at you and if you start writing, it just might pop out. It can be very freeing to write about things like that – things that are bothering you.

Sometimes, you don’t even know what is bothering you until you start writing and then, there it is, big as you please, staring back at you on the page.

That’s the point at which you just kind of say, “Well hmm. So that’s where that is coming from!”

For Those Who Don’t Like Mistakes: Use a Pen

It’s easy to erase things you wish you hadn’t written, but the truth is that if they came out while journaling, they needed to be said.

Therefore, use a pen or marker to write in your journal. Again, if you get on Pinterest, you will find tons of examples of journal pages done in a multitude of color.

This isn’t necessary, but if it helps you, go for it. Some people are more visual than others and they enjoy this type of thing.

Me? I’m a guy. Just give me a pen that writes and I’m all set.

How Can You Make a Habit with These Journaling Techniques?

You’ve got a few journaling tips under your belt so now let’s look at how you can make this a habit!

It can take up to two months or even a little longer to make something into a habit so how can you make a habit out of journaling?

Decorate the Cover

This is a great journaling technique for those who are creative – and even those who aren’t for that matter.

Make the journal fit you. Grab some decorative paper at the hobby store or some of that washi tape stuff (what the heck is washi tape anyway?) and decorate your journal. If it’s a plain cover, draw on it or glue pictures on it.

Whatever you do, make it something you like to look at. Make it feel more like it belongs to you.

One caution, however, would be to make sure your embellishments won’t get damaged when you carry your journal around.

Try to use these Journaling Techniques at The Same Time Every Day

I know in the journaling techniques above, I said no rules and I don’t want you to make this a rule. It’s more about fitting journaling into your routine. Is this something you could wake up fifteen minutes early for? Is it something you can do as soon as you get to work, before everyone else gets there?

Try to figure out where in your daily routine journaling fits so it’s not so hard to make it part of your day.

Schedule an Appointment with Your Journal

Once you know where it fits into your daily routine, set an appointment on your phone calendar so you get a daily reminder.

If nothing else, it will be annoying enough to at least give it some consideration. After it becomes part of your daily routine, you won’t need the appointment any longer and you can delete it.

Give It Priority in Your Life

All the journaling techniques in the world won’t make a whit of difference if journaling isn’t a priority in your life, so make it a priority.

Know why you want to do it and what value it has to you. If this isn’t something that is important to you, you won’t do it. Know the why for you.

Make It for You

Don’t do this for anyone else but you. If you are journaling because someone told you to or because someone urged you for some reason or another, you won’t make it a week before you toss it aside.

Make this something you do for you – a form of self-care. If there is nothing else you do in your day for yourself, do this for you.

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Bucket List Journal and Why You Need One!

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Can a Bucket List Journal Change Your Life?

Can a bucket list journal really change your life?

The movie The Bucket List introduced the idea of making a list of things you want to experience before you die or kick the bucket. In the movie, Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson play hospital roomies, both terminal. Nicholson’s very wealthy character decides he needs a bucket list and, with time, the much poorer (financially) Freeman secretly creates his own list.

The two break out of hospital and begin their adventure of ticking items off their lists. But, the items on their bucket lists aren’t the items many people put on their own lists today. Here’s a sampling of the bucket lists from the movie:

Witness something truly majestic
Help a complete stranger
Laugh until I cry
Kiss the most beautiful girl in the world
Drive a Shelby Mustang
Get a tattoo
Go skydiving
Visit Stonehenge
Find the joy in your life
Drive a motorcycle on the Great Wall of China

There were a few others, but this is most of the list. I show you this not to brag about some movie knowledge – heck I had to google this stuff. Instead, I show you this because several of the items on this list are truly remarkable experiences most of us won’t think to include.

Should You Create a Bucket List?

If you’re really asking me my opinion, then yes, I believe you should create a bucket list. However, having said that, I believe you should carefully consider what you put on your bucket list journal.

Creating a bucket list is another way of saying you are setting goals for yourself and this is never a bad thing. When you set goals as an individual, you build your confidence and also give your life purpose and direction.

When you set goals as a couple, you build lasting memories and intimacy. But, there are other reasons to use a bucket list journal:

You begin to examine what you really want out of life
It helps you determine where you are today and where you want to be in the future
You become energized by the possibilities that lie before you
It allows you to look past your comfort zone and think outside your safe zone
You develop a sense of accomplishment as you tick off the items you’ve completed
It keeps you from becoming idle – there’s always something to work toward
You’re more interesting

What Should be on Your Bucket List?

What you put on your bucket list is up to you, but I do have a few suggestions. Rather than seeing how many outrageous trips to foreign places you can come up with, envision adventures that will truly add value to your life.

This may be some trips to foreign countries or other states, but it might be things like you saw on the Bucket List movie list – things that are more meaningful and amazing.

Make it Meaningful

If you didn’t see the movie, Jack Nicholson’s character accomplished kissing the most beautiful woman in the world by kissing his long-lost daughter. It wasn’t some celebrity or model. Instead, it was a healed relationship.

When you set goals, they should be attainable. and the same goes for the items you place in your bucket list journal. Visiting the Louvre or riding a motorcycle on the Great Wall of China are fine if they’re attainable to you in the future.

Goals should be relevant to your life and this is true of your bucket list items as well. If you don’t really like airplanes that much, setting goals to fly all over the world seems like a waste of a dream.

Overcoming your fear of flying is a fine bucket list item, and maybe more relevant to your life, but that can be done at a local airport.

To create your list, imagine you have just weeks to live. Would you want to spend those weeks traveling? If so, go for it! If not, what would you like to do? Repair relationships? Make sure those closest to you know how much you care? Spend time with a loved one you don’t get to see very often?

Our Dream Catcher is your personal bucket list journal. Use it to spark ideas, plan your adventures and even record the results. The journal is large enough to provide plenty of space to record photographs and memories of your adventures. You’ll find dozens of prompts to help you come up with ideas for your list as well.

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Using a Bucket List Journal to Create Your Bucket List

There are as many ways to create a bucket list as there are people making them. My best tips for creating your own bucket list are:

Think about those people who are most important to you – how can you enrich those relationships?
Imagine your future. What do you dream of doing? Is it something you believe you will be able to do?
When you think about the legacy you would like to leave behind, what does that look like?
If you are in a relationship, how can the two of you build your foundation as a couple?
Find ten amazing things to do within an hour or two of your own home and consider doing them with either your partner or best friend or both
Are there relationships you’ve let slide over the years that you would like to rekindle? How can you do that?
Are there financial goals that will make your life easier, like zeroing your debt or building a savings?

Give yourself some time and recognize that a bucket list journal doesn’t form overnight. It will take time and introspection to come up with the list that’s right for you.

Bucket List Journal for Couples

If you’re in a relationship with someone, make your individual lists and make one together – a couples journal. There is no reason to give up on your own dreams just because you’ve got someone special in your life.

In fact, I encourage you to pursue your individual items separately. You can each schedule a week or two away at the same time, pursue one of your bucket list items and then return home to share your experiences!

This is a great way to keep the mystery and challenge in your relationship alive!

For the items you want to do together, prioritize and work together to accomplish those goals. It’s a great relationship-building activity!

Create that Bucket List and Do it!

We humans have become robots. We wake up, go to work, come home and watch reality shows. Then we die.

Tomorrow, I challenge you to kill the routine and brainstorm 100 bucket list items. Then, by the weekend, set goals and do them!

Ultimately, you will be amazed at what a bucket list will do for you!

Dating a Divorced Man? 10 Tips to Make it Work

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Yes, Dating a Divorced Man can Work – Here’s How!

You know the dangers of dating a divorced man from my last article, now let’s give you some tips on dating a divorced guy and making it last.

Some Men Need a Second Round to Get it Right

Some men just don’t get it right the first time around. Therefore, timing is everything for you. Many couples are married too young and believe they’ve met their soulmate when, in fact, they were too young and immature to know what they wanted.

Age and divorce are both great teachers and now, he does know what he wants! So, you need to be there and not with some other version of you, but you in all your glory.

Dating a Divorced Man: Let Him Talk About His Ex

Don’t feel challenged or threatened by his ex. Instead, listen to him. Learn and apply what he says during his rants so you can be a better match for him than his ex was. Of course, make sure your adaptations fit your values.

Stay Incognito

When you’re dating a divorced man, announcing your relationship to everyone might need to wait until his divorce is final. He could have lawyers watching his every move to gain an advantage in custody battles and financials.

Don’t push to meet his children right away. Legal agreements and just plain caution could be preventing him from wanting to introduce you to them. When he’s ready for you to meet them, be open to it, but don’t push him faster than he’s ready.

Appreciate his need for secrecy. It’s all okay if you are on a steady path of growing closer to one another.

Lose the Social Media

We all love to show off our spectacular lives! But consider keeping things private between you by staying off social media until he has completely divorced both legally and emotionally.

Social media can have some unintended consequences. Friends and family might exaggerate the status of your relationship when this is not true.

He might feel like you are pushing him into something that he is not ready for, even though it’s your peers on social media pushing the false narrative.
Post pics of you and your friends having fun instead. He will be watching!

Dating a Divorced Man: Don’t Push Marriage and Kids

He’s been down that road and he might be a bit jaded or apprehensive to try again. Dating a divorced man who feels this way might not be your best choice if you want to get married and have kids right away.

This makes him a better candidate for a domestic partner. Accepting this going into the relationship will help align your expectations and make things successful. I see many successful relationships without the paper contract.

Be clear on your desires to have children before things get too far. Sure, some men are different and will remarry and have more kids, but not all men, and not necessarily right away.

Be Prepared to Meet Her

When dating a divorced man, there’s a great chance you’ll meet his ex. Be ready for it so you’re not caught off guard when it happens.

Try to make this an upbeat and positive experience. The entire relationship will be much better for everyone if you and his ex can see one another without scowling. His complaints against her are between them. There’s no reason why the two of you can’t get along.

Remember, she might have been with your new man for years, so cut her some slack if things get awkward.

Dating a Divorced Man with Kids Complicates Things

Your kids might not accept him. His kids might not accept you. Talk about these things before the meet and greet. Formulate a plan for what to do if things crash and burn.

When kids first meet one another, depending on their ages, things could go smoothly or they could be contentious. Older kids who go to the same school may know of one another and have preconceived opinions. These things take time to work out.

Don’t push the kids to get along. Allow them to continue to be individuals and let them feel their way through building their own relationships. Work in areas in which they all might have common ground, common likes, and so on. Commonalities bring people together.

Both of you may place priorities with your kids so discuss this too.

His Apartment Might Have Some of Her Memories

That’s okay to an extent. You don’t need to be throwing her shit into the trash because you’re jealous. That will only build contempt

It’s normal for men to hold some things dear to them from their past. But, it doesn’t mean they’re still in love with their ex. I still have pics of hiking Zion National Park with my ex. I don’t want to be with her. I simply want to remember the experience in general.

When You’re Dating a Divorced Man, Be You, Not Her

You will learn what he loved about his ex and it could be difficult to handle. You may find that you want to emulate her to please him – don’t! As soon as you try to fill her shoes by acting like her, your relationship will be doomed.

A confident woman never tries to be someone who she isn’t. She never compares herself to anyone and she knows her value. She, not only stands by it, she flaunts it! He chose you because you are different, not because he sees her inside you.

Live in the Moment

Dating a divorced man, or dating anyone for that matter, means living in the moment. Forget reading the tea leaves of where the relationship is headed and live in the power of now! Do this and the memories will start piling up. He will slowly start accepting you more and into his life and will simultaneously start caring less for his ex.

I call these great memories Pennies in the Jar. The sooner you start making them the closer you will become.

Dating a Divorced Man

Most of us have had past relationships and that’s okay. In fact, it’s healthy. Dating a divorced man is no different. Just take your time with him. Slow your roll. Let him replace her with you like ice cubes displace water in a glass and all will be well.

Push marriage, kids or get jealous out of the gate and you are going to have issues.

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Dating a Recently Divorced Man? 4 Things you Should Know

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Dating a Recently Divorced Man Comes with Complications

You finally met a great guy after months of meeting frogs. This man showed up on time, smelled oh so good and holds a decent job. Congratulations! There is one small problem you didn’t know until now – you’re dating a recently divorced man.

You think, “No big deal, he’s over her, he even says so.” But a few dates pile up, and you realize that he mentions her name more often he should if he is over her.

You wonder whether he truly is over her, but you keep dating anyway.

The fact is that recently separated or divorced men can’t recover from their ex so quickly. Even if he hates her, he isn’t in the right frame of mind to see you. So how do you know if he’s ready to date?

Here are four things you need to know about dating a recently divorced man.

He isn’t Looking at You Through the Proper Lens

He doesn’t see you. Instead, he sees his ex and how you’re the same or different from her. He’s still too close to his ex and instead of looking at you for who you are, he’s comparing you to her. That’s not fair to you.

You want him to see you so he can make a fair assessment of your compatibility, just as you’re doing with him. If you’re dating a recently divorced man, you can bet he’s comparing your every move to his ex.

He compares how you measure up to her in bed, eat, and dress and this isn’t fair to you. His head should be clear, so he looks at you without her involved.
Occasionally something will trigger a reaction that relates back to his ex, but hopefully, these instances are few and far between.

When You’re Dating a Recently Divorced Man, You’re Probably His Ex’s Opposite

A recently divorced man most often chooses someone who is the opposite of the last woman he was with. Not because he should, but because he thinks that will fix the issues he experienced in the relationship.

My friend just divorced after twelve years. His wife was a homebody so once he was single, he dated a much wilder woman. He thought she was the answer but she wasn’t. The pendulum swang too far.

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He’s More Likely to Flake on You

I see this repeatedly. You’re dating a recently divorced man and he starts blowing hot and cold. His emotions are all over the place and boom – he’s gone. The woman blames herself for this roller coaster of emotions.

But the problem lies within him. He either misses his ex or despises her and takes it out on the new girl. He might have good days, but the bad days come along a little too often.

You don’t need this. Building a healthy, mature relationship is tough enough without the memories of his ex hanging in the wings.

When You’re Dating a Recently Divorced Man, His Mouth Gets Ahead of His Intentions

Another problem of dating a recently divorced man is that he wants to prove to himself that he isn’t a failure, and that he can love. So, he quickly jumps into the relationship, making promises too soon that he most likely won’t keep.

I want you to meet my kids
Let’s take off to Vegas
I haven’t met a woman like you before
Can I see you tomorrow night too?

You get my point. His mouth moves and he might come through with an action or two, but overall, he is an empty suit who isn’t ready for a relationship.

So, What’s a Girl to do When She Finds Herself Dating a Recently Divorced Man?

Slow Your Roll!

Find out his true situation by asking, in your womanly way of course. Test him:

Does he talk about her too much?
Does he blow hot and cold?
Is his mouth getting ahead of his intentions?

Keep Dating Other Men

The last thing you should do is put all your chips down on this guy. Nope.

Load your life with other men. If this guy flakes, it’s no big deal. I know your gut tells you that if you date other men, he’ll bolt. That’s okay. If he does, he wasn’t really in it to date you long-term anyway.

A great guy will be challenged by the competition of other men in your life and will step up his game and try harder.

Avoid Dating a Recently Divorced Man

This might be the best idea yet. You don’t need this extra layer of crap added to the mix. Tell him to hit you up in six months or so when he is in a better spot.
He’ll fight you on it and say, blah, blah, but don’t buy what he is selling!

Let Him Go if He Asks

I have a friend who was divorced several years ago. A couple years ago, she began dating a man who was still in the process of getting his divorce, which was taking a while.

They got along great, but one day, he came to her and told her he wanted to break things off. It was a friendly split and, as it turned out, they remained in contact.

What happened?

It was time to finalize his divorce and he needed to focus on that.

Several months later, she was scheduled to have surgery. He offered to take her to the surgery and bring her back to his house for the first few days of her recovery.
They’re back together. Why? Because he went, settled stuff with his ex, got over the marriage and was ready to date. He had done much of his getting over the ex before the divorce occurred so once it was over, he was ready to go!

Dating a Recently Divorced Man

Finding a man is hard in today’s dating jungle. You don’t need the added pressure of a man’s ex who’s still in the picture. Stand tall and ask him about his past. Most men will be happy to discuss the breakup especially if it is recent. If his emotions are still tender, run!

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Good Night Messages for Him That will Keep You on His Mind!

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Heartfelt Good Night Messages for Him

You enjoy telling him goodnight, but do you understand the power behind good night messages for him?

Your message could be the most powerful memory of the day for him, so why not make him feel good about himself and tell him how you feel. Guys are more sensitive than women think, and they respond to words of appreciation. Shoot him a good night message every now and then, but don’t overdo it.

Whether you just met, or you have been in love for twenty years, a good night message for him takes away stress and leaves him dreaming about you. Send it to him from the other side of the world or from the next room, but send it. He will love you for it.

Good Night Messages for Him

Today reminded me why I keep you around. Good night sweetie.
Tonight may have changed everything. Sleep tight my love.
What you accomplished today was amazing – you deserve to sleep well tonight.
I look forward to seeing your smile in the morning. Good night sweet darling.
I am blessed to have you in my life. Goodnight sweet baby.
Have you figured it out yet? I have. Sleep tight my prince.
May all your dreams come true tonight. I know mine have. Sleep well.
Rest my love. You deserve it.
I love you. And I will love you forever. Happy dreams!
Lights out my love. Can’t wait to take on the world with you tomorrow!
You had me when you smiled in my direction. Sweet thoughts my love.
Do you know who I want to spend my life with? Yes you! Good night darling 🙂
You still make my knees weak and my heart skip a beat. Good night my love.
Saturday can’t come quick enough. Sweet dreams.
Yeah, you’re kinda cute – but it’s your confidence that makes my heart flutter. See you in the morning!
I had a bad day today. Then, I saw you. Amazing! Good night baby.
A funny thing happened on a date tonight – I fell in love. Night. Night.
Dream about me tonight.
If you can dream it I can do it – as long as I am with you.
Two hearts became one this evening. Sleep well my love.
Lights out until we meet again tomorrow.
Guess what? I’ve decided to keep you. Good night my love.
Everyday my friends say how lucky I am to be with you. They are right. Sweet dreams Punky. (insert nickname)
Who is better than you? No one. Good night my knight.
If you only you knew the impact you have had on my life. I’ll show you firsthand in the morning.
At the end of a grinding day I am so blessed to come home to you. I will never take that for granted. Sweet dreams Mr. Jeff.
My lover and my best friend…forever. Sweet dreams.
You get better looking every day. I can’t wait to see you tomorrow! See you in the mornin’ my love.
I will miss you for these next eight hours 🙂 Good night honey.
I think my dog loves you too! Sleep tight dear.
Sometimes I snuggle on your chest when you are asleep. Your beating heart puts me to sleep.
Did you know we hold hands when you are asleep :)?
You are an amazing father and husband. I am blessed that the stars aligned and placed us together. Goodnight my superhero.
Millions of men are sleeping right now – but only the one reading this message matter to me. Good night.

These Good Night Messages for Him are Simple and Delightful – Try a Few!

I hope this list gives you some ideas that will let him know how you feel. Remember, we overlook the simple things because we’re so busy with our bustling lives. Slow things down at the end of the day and send him a good night message by voice or text.

If you do, he will love you for it!

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Me. You. Forever! Your Personal Couples Journal

Build a Great Relationship, Find Happily Ever After

Surprising Things You Need to Know About Using a Couple’s Journal

A couples journal is one of the best tools you can use to strengthen your relationship. But it doesn’t happen without both of you putting in the time and effort. There are many benefits to journaling and as a couple, you can multiply those benefits by doing some of the activities together.

Since this is a long article, so I’ve provided an easy way for you to navigate the information. Just use the links below to read the different sections of this post!

Benefits of Journaling

Journaling and Men

Things to Include in Your Journal

Building a Solid Relationship Foundation with a Couple’s Journal

10 Ways to Use Your Couple’s Journal to Grow Your Relationship

Final Thoughts on Building a Solid Foundation

The Power of the Memories

Benefits of Journaling

Journaling Improves Intelligence

One way in which clinicians measure overall intelligence is by the size of your vocabulary.

The University of Victoria conducted a study during which the IQ and writing ability of subjects was tested. Each subject was tested before and after performing writing exercises. Following the exercises, the research showed a strong relationship between performing writing exercises and increased intelligence.

It further indicated that people who write have a higher IQ. In other words, writers are smart people. This extends to those who write in journals, not just professionals!

The logic behind these results rests in the use of language. Writing encourages you to explore your language further and enables you to use words you might not use in everyday exchanges.

If you are using a couples journal, you can challenge one another by sneaking in new words or phrases. You can have a word of the day, as well as other fun language-based activities.

Letting Go of Negativity

Writing in a couples journal provides a space to let your pent-up negative emotions flow. I’ve heard of parents and children sharing a private journal where the child can write anything in the journal. The child knows the parent will read it, but the parent can’t apply negative consequences to what is written.

If a child confesses something, it can be up for discussion in a healthy way. The parents agree not to use the information to deliver negative consequences.

Children are often more likely to share truth with their parents in this way. This opens the door for constructive discussions while building a trusting relationship.

In a couples journal, you can work things in much the same way. What is written between the two of you stays between the two of you. Additionally, the door is opened for discussion without negative consequences.

If your partner shares that he’s really put off by something, you can examine your behavior and talk about it. Sometimes initiating these conversations in person can be difficult so this makes it easier.

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Dealing with Anxiety Inside your Love Journal

Anxiety, is thinking into the future and imagining a negative outcome. Writing in a journal helps because you can review thought patterns to see how they flow. Watch the anxious thoughts unfold and see patterns emerge when you aren’t feeling anxious.

Journaling also has a calming effect on your mind. You can let go of the negative thoughts that are banging around in your head. As you journal, you will uncover not only the thought patterns you have during your anxious moments, but also the triggers.

This is one area of using a couples journal where you must be careful and sens