Hi ladies, Gregg here. I want to give you a tip to help you get what you want from a man by communicating in a way that motivates him.
This is a dating advice tip but also can be used in your everyday life.
Let’s face it, all day long we are dealing with other people and usually we want to get something from another person. If you are married, you might be looking for affection. If you are single, you may be looking for a phone call. If you are employed, you may be looking for a raise. If you have kids, you want them to behave.
So why can’t most of us get what we want? The answer is because we never “ask” from the other person’s point of view. We just come out and state our own needs. We say, “Can you please mow the lawn today, the kids are having a tent party and you have put it off for 2 weeks.”
This is criticizing and almost insulting. I have a better way. Always think in terms of the other person’s point of view. Maybe your husband has been very busy with work or maybe it’s been raining when he wanted to cut the grass. Try this instead:
“Honey, the lawn needs to be mowed. If I help you write up your work proposal tonight, will that free up some time for you to cut it tomorrow?”
See the difference? You provided something that helps him. Now your hubby is much more likely to get the lawn cut because you thought of his needs too. The bonus? You start working together as a team on his project and he will love you for it.
This is powerful stuff! In order to execute this, we need to address the other persons needs and not just care about our own.
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