Getting What You Want From a Man

How to Get What You Want From a Man

Gregg here. I want to give you a couple of tips to help you get what you want from a man by communicating in a way that motivates him.

This is a dating advice tip but also can be used in your everyday life. It works with all people.

Let’s face it, all day long we are dealing with other people and usually we want to get something from another person. If you are married, you might be looking for affection. If you are single, you may be looking for a phone call. If you are employed, you may be looking for a raise. If you have kids, you want them to behave.

How to Get What You Want From a Man | Example #1

So why can’t most of us get what we want? The answer is because we never “ask” from the other person’s point of view. We just come out and state our own needs. A woman might say, “Can you please mow the lawn today, the kids are having a tent party and you have put it off for 2 weeks.”

This is criticizing and almost insulting. I have a better way. Always think in terms of the other person’s point of view. Maybe your husband has been very busy with work or maybe it’s been raining when he wanted to cut the grass.

Try this instead:

“Honey, the lawn needs to be mowed. If I help you write up your work proposal tonight, will that free up some time for you to cut it tomorrow?”

See the difference? You provided something that helps him. Now your hubby is much more likely to get the lawn cut because you thought of his needs too. The bonus? You start working together as a team on his project and he will love you for it.

How to Get What You Want From a Man | Example #2

My next example is about me trying to get what I want from another man but the same principles apply to a woman in the same situation.

Recently, I had my car in the shop twice for the same problem. When I took it in for the third time and I could tell the mechanic was on the defensive.

Instead of yelling at him to fix it right this time, I noticed a picture of his family on his desk so I asked about his kids. “Are these your little ones?” He is all smiles and answers “Yes”. We talk about his little girl playing baseball better than the guys and how proud he his.

When he finished, I casually mentioned my car being fixed and asked if he needed a few extra days to get it done. I acknowledged I might have rushed him last time which may have caused him to overlook something.

He perked up and said he would get right on it, blamed himself, and told me to grab a loaner vehicle. He said he would call me in a few hours. When I got back four hours later, the car was not only fixed, it was washed and waxed for me!

Again, instead of going in guns blazing like I normally would, I decided to take a different tact. I thought of how he felt. Through observation I knew that he had kids and loved his kids so why not talk about them and not my car for ten minutes?

Getting What You Want | Summary

This is powerful stuff! These examples help you get what you want from a man (or woman) by communicating in a way that motivates him. In order to execute this, simply address the other persons needs and not just care about our own.

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