Below is an article that my friend Wendy Dressler from the Blog Frog sent over for you today.
Social media has become the primary way we meet people, for dating and otherwise. There’s been an explosion of dating apps which cater to every desire, preference, and kink.
Simultaneously, our profiles have turned into a portfolio that deems us worthy of romance.
So, what happens when you’re dating after 30, ready to settle, but you find yourself in this scenario? How do you navigate this new playing field? Let’s examine the situation and share some useful tips.
A Double-Edged Sword
On the one hand, you could see this social media explosion as a facilitator for dating after 30. After all, every interaction is an opportunity. Online dating enthusiasts have options for finding a match.
The first comes in the form of dating apps. Everybody’s on the same page from the get-go, making it much smoother.
If you’re not on an explicit hunt for a new partner, your regular social networks can also become a way to put yourself out there. Instagram and Facebook are the obvious choices, but there’s a way to build connections even on less interaction-based platforms. Can you use TikTok for dating? Absolutely.
On the other hand, you might be apprehensive about the whole idea. The entire flirty social media presence can be intimidating. Counterintuitively, dating apps are your best bet.
Steering Clear of Hookups
Of course, this rule only applies if you’re not interested in hookups. There’s nothing wrong with some fun, casual meetups between consenting adults. There might be trouble if you’re in it for something more commitment-based, though.
Many people join dating apps for sex only. Luckily, they’re easy to spot.
- They’ll want to meet you in real life as soon as possible.
- They’ll suggest late-night dates that might include alcohol or drugs.
- They won’t ask too many questions about your hobbies or interests.
- They might date other people while talking to you.
Unfortunately, some people are more subtle about their intentions. If you end up on a date and later realize it wasn’t leading anywhere but to their bedroom, don’t beat yourself up. We all fall for such traps sometimes.
Confidence is Key
Showing yourself for who you are is vital. That way, you don’t have to put on a facade – people already liked you when they saw you on the app.
When it comes to visual representation, choose pictures that you feel suit you. Also, don’t be afraid to use tools to make your self-representation more flattering. A TikTok video editor or a face app that enhances your best features will make you feel better in your skin. Don’t go overboard, though, and end up with a result that looks nothing like you.
Then, consider the traits you like most about yourself. Perhaps you enjoy debating people, or you’re a good listener, or you love cracking jokes. Focus on your number one characteristic while coming up with a bio and own it.
At this point, your match pool should already consist of people you’d like to date. It’s time for honesty about your intentions.
Discuss what you’re looking for in your new relationship. For example, instead of letting the other side pressure you into a sudden romance, openly disclaim that you’re looking to build a friendship first.
Another way to rid yourself of losers is by choosing the location of the first date. Whatever you want from the relationship later, start by going to a public place in the daytime. Choose a spot you enjoy so you can determine how well you click in that area, too.
Dating After 30 | Define Your Search Criteria
Finally, let’s discuss dating app technicalities. Depending on the platform, you can determine:
- Profession and hobbies
- The amount of information on profiles
- What they’re looking for
You won’t swipe right only because somebody’s attractive. So, implementing these criteria helps you see only people that meet other standards, too.
It Takes Patience
Overall, you’ll have to take your time. Set yourself up for a positive outcome by using the right apps, being truthful and confident.
After that, you’ll still meet many people before you run into a person you like. Once you do, though, it’ll be worth the trouble.