If you think I am going to give you some expanded Stanford study on woman brain vs man brain you would be wrong.
This is a dumbed down version of the REAL differences in our two brains when it comes to dating and relationships, and it comes from a man-brained dating coach. These conclusions aren’t backed up by any science, just personal experience.
Men’s Brains are Small, Think Squirrel or Small Rodent
The woman brain vs the man brain is large and complex, and yet, women treat men as if they have the same large and complex brain as your girlfriends have. That, my friend, is where you go wrong.
Men don’t pick up on subtle cues. They communicate differently, love differently and have out-of-control egos. There’s a great video on YouTube by Mark Gungor, who describes the male brain as containing a bunch of boxes, one of which is an empty box. No box can comingle with another box in the male brain.
Woman Brain vs Man Brain and Flirting
Women come to me saying, “Gregg, I flirt and flirt with men and they ignore me! What am I doing wrong?”
You aren’t doing anything wrong. Men aren’t ignoring you; their brains are too small to realize what’s happening, especially if they’re drinking beer and downing chicken wings while watching sports on TV. Food is one box and cannot be combined with an outside influence like you flirting with them.
The solution, short of grabbing his ass and screaming, “HEY! I like you!” is to double your efforts so he gets the message. Look at him and smile, then look away. Then, a few moments later, look his way again and smile, then look away. Next, walk by him on your way to the restroom or bar and gently brush against him. Do it again a little while later.
In this instance, the woman brain vs the man brain is definitely in play. Use this double-down effort to get his attention and he’ll be more likely to pick up on your cues.
When it comes to woman brain vs man brain, communication is one of the biggest discrepancies. Men text with two to three sentences at the most, more likely it’s two to three words.
Women, however, text paragraphs. A man won’t read these texts because he doesn’t have the patience and he’s not interested in the emotional rant that is probably contained in that paragraph.
Instead, text a man like he texts his friends. Lose all the emotion and extra stuff and get to the point. If you want to meet him for lunch, text him something like 2:00 lunch? That’s all he needs. Don’t give him fifteen choices for where to go. Just get to the point.
Men also communicate more through actions than words. Think about two little boys playing in a sandbox. They aren’t talking. They’re pushing their cars and trucks into the others and saying things like “BAM!” and “Gotcha!” They grunt and throw sand at each other, then try to steal their trucks.
When little girls play, they use tons of language. They use their voices to mimic the voices of their Barbies or baby dolls. They use language to build and maintain relationships.
This is not a dynamic that changes as boys and girls get older, which is why it’s so important for you to understand.
Woman Brain vs Man Brain and Love
This is another area in which there is a huge divide in the quest to understand woman brain vs man brain. Some of the discrepancy goes back to the communication issue you just read. A woman uses words to communicate love while a man uses actions.
So many times, women come to me upset and ask why their guy isn’t telling them that he loves them. They’re upset and think their guy doesn’t really love them. But, when I dig into the story, I find out that the man is showing her how much he loves her through his actions.
Men fix things and solve your problems, all in an attempt to show you how much he loves you. They take out the trash, take your car for an oil change and buy you the desk you need to make your work at home go more smoothly.
If you look at the actions of a man, you will see dozens of signs that he loves you, but if you’re waiting for the words, you might be waiting a while. He’ll say them, but not as often as you’d like to hear them.
For some men, ego plays a large role, so if you learn how to deal with the male ego, you’ll be all set. It doesn’t take much to do this either, in fact, some of it boils down to common courtesy. When he does things for you, be sure to appreciate his effort. Even the smallest things to you, like taking out the trash or doing the dishes after dinner deserve a compliment now and then.
If you really want to stroke his ego, be sure to tell him how much you appreciate him in the bedroom. Most good men want to please you in bed, so let him know he’s hitting the mark, so to speak, even if his performance wasn’t quite up to par.
Woman Brain vs Man Brain and Multi-Tasking
In the world of woman brain vs man brain, multitasking is a big deal. Women can cook dinner, feed a toddler, help an older child with homework and fold laundry all at the same time.
Men aren’t capable of this. Not even close. A man generally can’t do two things at once, and this includes listening to you and driving, listening to you and watching television or really…any two things at once.
It’s evolutionary and don’t get upset with me for saying so. Cavewoman Cathy and Caveman Carl each had their role to play. Cavewoman Cathy was responsible for keeping the cave straightened, cooking the food Caveman Carl killed and taking care of the kids. Caveman Carl had two jobs – procure food for the family, and possibly grow it, and protect his family.
Even though evolution now has woman holding as many, if not more high-power jobs than men, the power of a woman’s ability to multitask still exists and men still can’t do it.
Men Exaggerate Profusely
Men exaggerate, a lot. This goes back to the paragraphs above on ego. While everyone exaggerates to some extent, a man will exaggerate many things at the beginning of a relationship. He’ll suggest he earns more than he does and that he’s a better tennis player.
He’ll say there are few skeletons in his closet when the truth might be that the door is about to bust open from all the skeletons that are actually there.
Woman Brain Vs Man Brain Summary
All kidding aside, when it comes to woman brain vs man brain and relationships, there can be disappointing outcomes. Relationships fail because neither understands how the other’s brain works. Therefore, we all assume that your brain works like mine and that’s a huge mistake.
This isn’t an article about you changing who you are. It’s an article about understanding the differences between men and women so you can modify how you act toward the men in your life. This will help them better understand you and your intentions and it will keep many arguments and disappointments from ever happening.