Starting a Text Conversation with a Guy

Starting a Text Conversation with a Guy

You just met a new guy, and you need some text conversation starters that won’t send him running.

“How are you?” just ain’t gonna fly.

A great text conversation with a guy begins when you first meet him. What is he in in to? Sixty-seven Mustangs? His German Shepard dog named Moe?

Maybe he is studying for a test he must take next week. These are the homerun texts that will get you responses. If you can’t remember squat, then secretly browse his social media pages.

You want to hit him with personal, pithy texts that only he could answer. Do this and he will want to answer even if he hasn’t been sold on your awesomeness yet. Remember, you probably just met so these texts need to keep him hooked.

Keep your texts short and fun. Ask some questions. Questions yield responses.

“Jim! This is Megan from Saturday night. You in the garage working on that blue ’67?”

“Hey, I’m walking my dog Larry – I think Moe and Larry would love to meet!”  

“Johnny! How the heck are you? How did your realtors test go on Monday?”

Notice I used his name. People love hearing their name so use it.


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Confident Texts

These texts exude confidence. They show a man that you like him, but you only will like him as much as he likes you.

“Gregg! Hitting the gym after work, you up for joining me? I’ll teach you the right way to do crunches!”

This text has it all. It’s a question. It states his name. And it issues a challenge. Men love challenges and this one is a good one. This text also tells Gregg that you are going to the gym with or without him.

Notice what is not in this text. There are no ‘maybes’, or ‘if you have the time’ types of low confident words.

Starting a Text Conversation With a Guy: Timing Texts

Timing and spacing of your texts is critical too. Texting a guy you just met last night will sound a bit desperate if you text him later that night or first thing in the morning. Wait a day or two, but not three days.

Text him only as much as he texts you – actually, text him less. This keeps him chasing. Your goal is to get him off the phone and on a date, chit-chatting all day long on the phone.

Once he responds, delay an hour or so. This is a nice balance. Gone are the days of getting back days later. People won’t wait that long.

Obviously, there are exceptions. If he has tickets to a sports event that night, you need to respond quickly.

Never Double Text

If he doesn’t respond, then you are done. He needs to make the next move, or he is not interested. Repeating your text twenty minutes later will not get him to respond. You could try one more time two weeks later, but that is the last resort.


Why Is He Texting Me If He’s Not Interested

More Great Conversation Starting Texts

“You and I killed it at Sunday karaoke! Where did you get that voice?”

Compliment your guy on his singing passion while you include yourself. He combines his passion with you and BINGO…he is drawn to you.

“What do think of this sixty-three split window ‘vette?”

OK, you cheated on this text. You knew he is a car lover, so you did a little bit of studying and you sent a pic. Later, you can admit to this, and he will be just as impressed, but for now let the text ride!

“Jimbo! I was thinking about getting a dog, what breed would you recommend that won’t chew on my neighbors leg?”

Funny. Short. You gave him a fun nickname which only close friends normally do, and you asked a question. Very nice.

“Lare Bare! (His name is Larry) Come join my friends and me at Ricco’s tonight! They have a great band, and I would love to see your smiling face again.”

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life! That’s all I have so let’s get crazy and get a pepperoni pizza at five. You in?”

This text is just silly and dumb. Guys like silly and dumb. It tells him that you are a unique character, which you are! Grab another phrase and start your text with something that strikes you.

“I woke up, looked in the mirror and I looked fantastic! I can’t wait for tomorrow 😊 You around for dinner on Tuesday? My treat.”

Again, this is just silly. But it’s very confident and he will pickup on this. You’re calling yourself pretty – which you are and then you pivoted and asked him out in a cool, casual way. If it’s me, I’m scratching my head wondering who the heck is this woman and craving to get to dinner.

“Peter, this is Beth just checking in to see if you can repeat your incredible performance last night. If I don’t hear from you, I will take that as a no and I will look elsewhere for a boyfriend 😊”

This one is cocky but it’s great. He gets a compliment; you tease him about becoming your boyfriend, but you mellow it out with an emoji.

Conversation Starting Texts Summary

These text conversation starters are so powerful! I can go on forever with examples, but you get my point.

  • Think outside the box
  • Make your opener something that no one else would say
  • Risk it!

If this guy can’t laugh and jump in with his own funny response, lose his ass and move on! These texts become a test to see if he is worthy of you. If he can’t engage, you’ve saved yourself time and energy.

If you have read my stuff, I know you have multiple options of guys to date. Don’t let your text game be your weak link.

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Dry Texting-What is He Really Saying with His One-Word Texts?

Dry Texting-What is He Really Saying with His One-Word Texts?

What the heck is dry texting? It’s when you put together the perfect text, check it twice, and hit send. Two days later you get – “lol.”

I know how much that irritates you because I’m the one who gets the emails asking what the heck is going on!

The sad (for you) truth is that guys do not like to text paragraphs, but if you are getting one word answers while waiting two days, it’s time to dump him for good.

I’m serious. There is no excuse for dry texting. It means one thing – he doesn’t care about you.

But you’ll probably make excuses for him, won’t you? He was at work. We had a great first date…blah, blah. Let’s see if you’re right.

Dry Texting Exceptions

You were Texting Back and Forth, and He Just Quit Replying

This happens. In my best seller Text Him This Not That, you learn how men text their male friends – in short bursts that are to-the-point. Never paragraphs.

Guys get sick of reading paragraphs of texts. They just won’t do it. If I were to text my buddy John a 100 word novel, he would dry text back, “WTF!?”

Texting is just the new way of talking and men are not great communicators for the most part. They communicate best in person, with actions and body language!

So, if he is engaging in long texting conversations, and suddenly dry texts, his male DNA (I just realized I hate communicating with women) might have kicked in! Consider yourself lucky and back off your texting.

Your Guy is Old

Let’s face it, some old guys never got the memo that texting is cool! Yes, they’re out there. I have 65+ readers that are dating men that refuse to have smart phones. There are older guys that have smart phones but have no idea how to use them let alone text properly.

Therefore, women might be getting one word answers because that’s all these guys can muster without throwing the phone into the swimming pool!

He’s Busy

If I’m driving or I’m at work, I rarely reply to texts unless I see they’re really important (someone is ill, injured, etc.) But, I will still text back later, if I care. People do have lives and texting can be an annoyance during the day. In fact, I have a no texting policy for the guys who work for my construction company.

Dry Texting as a Test

For confident women, dry texting is a godsend! It shows you immediately through his actions if he likes you. Use it to your advantage.

Once he gives you a few one-word texts, stop texting completely. You could even give him some shit back before you dump him by texting, “YTSFO” and see what he says, if anything.

When he dry texts back, “?”, you say “Your texting sucks, f**k off!”

It may just put a smile on your face!

But Don’t Shy Guys Dry Text?

In my experience working with shy guys, no. In fact, many shy guys are good texters. Texting becomes a good conduit for them to get around their shyness.

In fact, shy guys are the type that will read an endless text. So if can not help yourself and you are determined to text novels, you might consider putting a shy guy at the top of your dating list.

Dry Texting Summary

I can’t think of a better test at the beginning of a relationship to judge how much a man likes you than dry texting. If you send him, “I have some great news to tell you,” and he responds the next day with a question mark, he doesn’t care to be in a relationship with you.

The reason doesn’t matter because he doesn’t even know you. Therefore, it is not about you, it’s about him so why waste your time?

The key is to date several men, even more than one at a time, so you have choices and options. If you are dating one guy, you may tend to go all in too quickly and allow him to get away with this crap. But if you are able to date multiple men (not sleep with but date), you don’t care as much if one of them dry texts you.

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How to Build Attraction with Text Towards a Guy You Like

How to Build Attraction with Text Towards a Guy You Like

How to Build Attraction with Text that Keeps Him Hooked

There are rules when texting guys. Learn a guys texting behavior and mindset, and you get the upper hand! Even later in the relationship, you can still learn how to build attraction with text if you follow along with me below.

Destroy Boredom, Shatter All Things Conventional!

You: So, what’s going on with you these days?

Him: Not a lot. Just working, going to school.

I’m going to stop here. I could make that a long text conversation, but I felt repulsed by where it was going. You do know where it’s going right? To the relationship graveyard! It’s going nowhere. There’s nothing in that first comment that did anything to build mystery, challenge or attraction into the relationship

There are two huge mistakes in this short conversation. First, mystery and challenge are simply not created by asking general questions. How was your day? What are you doing right now? What’s the weather like? These types of statements are not attraction makers, they’re attraction killers.

Guess what I’m thinking? Meet us at Ocean Prime Saturday or else!

These are much better. You could even text him a great compliment but then back off. The way you handled yourself with that disabled woman was amazing. This brings out his hero instinct and draws him to you.

Learn a Guys Texting Behavior!

Your goal, when texting a man, is to keep things fun and fresh by using some of the techniques we’re discussing. You can’t do anything fun or fresh with “What are you doing right now?” If a man even bothers to answer this, it’s a cursory response and he rolled his eyes as he was typing. In other words, he responded to be nice, not because he’s actually interested in the conversation.

The second problem with this exchange is that nobody wants to answer a question like that in a text. Even if you have the most easy-to-use handheld on the planet, you’re going to get sick of typing out a response the size of Moby Dick pretty quickly. Keep it simple and stick with precise questions that he can answer without too much trouble.

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How to Build Attraction with Text – Challenge Him

You want short, fun and challenging interactions. You want to be bold, quirky, funny and direct! Forget the boring stuff and show him your flirty side. There are rules when texting guys. You have time to create a great response. Delaying keeps him chasing.

You: How was traffic into Boston this morning? Still woozy from the CO2 fumes?

Him: Haha! Yep. Sucked in fumes for 2 hours.

There we go! This text is focused and you added in a bit of cheekiness as well. Then, you don’t text him back for period. This shows him how super confident you are!

Stick with the Mysterious, Avoid the Vague!

When it comes to building attraction with text in relationships, staying mysterious is always good. The more you can make him wonder what you’re doing, the better. Mystery is invoked by staying partly aloof. You want him to think you’re busy doing lots of fun things, or maybe seeing other interesting people!

Him: What are we doing this weekend darling?

You: Dance class on Friday night. Wine tasting with Jennifer Sat. Crazy busy! Maybe Sunday, I’ll let you know.

Do you see what happened? This text creates mystery by avoiding some boring comment like “Not sure, what are you doing?” You’re obviously busy, and by the sound of it you’re meeting people who are not him at your dance class. Trust me, he’s going to see you as a serious challenge, adding to the attraction.

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There are Rules When Texting Guys that Most Women Don’t Know

Responses like these, however, are completely unacceptable:

“Waiting to hear from you.”

“I’m up for anything, what do you want to do?”

“Kind of tired, long week. What’s up?”

Texting responses like these kill your momentum. They make a guy want to go silent instead of engaging. Guys texting behavior is simple to grasp!

Inspire A Man To Chase You With Your Texting!

Men are wired to chase women but one quick way women kill this inclination is with their texting. Men and women communicate very differently. This probably isn’t a newsflash for you. Women text like they talk – in long, descriptive bursts. Men text like they talk – few words, little to no emotion and in their own time, not yours.

Text Him This, Not That clears of a lot of the mystery behind texting men! It will help you not only inspire him to keep chasing you, but it will often get him to respond faster!

Similarly, keep ugly vague words out of your texts. Maybe, kind of, perhaps, sort of – they’re all too vague! Stick to texting language that’s alive and bold, and you’ll become a master in no time. Remember these rules when texting guys and you’ll keep him fixated on you and not other women.

Try these texting strategies to build attraction with text to a guy you like and get results!

Texting Pros and Cons for Women

Texting Pros and Cons for Women

Today, I’d like to share texting pros and cons for women. Every day, readers email me about getting back into the dating scene, and texting a man intimidates them. And it should because texting has become our primary way of communicating. The problem is that men and women share differently; most women make mistakes without realizing it.

Below are a few of the texting pros and cons for women.

Pros of Texting in a Relationship

When you text, you aren’t required to be fast on your feet with responses; your wittiness can shine because you have time to respond. In contrast, you are left face-to-face with a dry conversation if you can’t find anything witty to say.

Texts don’t show nervousness, so sweaty palms, shaky hands, and a quivering voice go unnoticed when you text.

When you practice ‘texting similarity’ with a guy, he perceives you as being in sync, and your relationship is harmonious. Additionally, you can be flirtatious between dates, keeping things a little hot.

A quick “I love you” or “Just thinking about you” text during the day can remind someone you care about them. Additionally, texting can be a quick response if you can’t talk to someone at that moment.

When distance separates you, texting can be an inexpensive and quick way to stay in touch.

And finally, women use texting to apologize, work out, or bring up issues. It’s often easier than apologizing or bringing up something negative face-to-face.

Cons of Texting in Relationships

You might find yourself in relationship texting maintenance mode; when you send more texts, he expects more. This heavy texting is associated with feeling dissatisfied with their relationship.

Often, you can’t decipher the mood of a text, so misunderstandings occur quickly and lead to arguments.

It’s also easy to overanalyze the texts you send and receive. This happens when you put weight on using capital letters, using exclamation points, capital letters, etc.

Your texting behavior can label you; you’re too needy, quick, or slow to respond, you can’t spell, your language skills are lacking, and so on.

Texting is not a good way to deepen a relationship. That requires face-to-face time where you can build intimacy.

Too much texting can make you look needy or clingy – stalkerish even.

You can edit texts and therefore modify them from the original thought. In contrast, a phone call is out there, and you can’t take your words back, so texts can be ‘false’ messages, not genuine from the heart.

You don’t get to know the ‘real’ person but the version of themselves that they want to send via text. For example, someone can be funnier and seem more relaxed than they are in person.

Using Texting When You Shouldn’t

While there are texting pros and cons for women, there are also times when texting is just the wrong way to communicate.

Texting can replace face-to-face contact if it is more comfortable, resulting in a lack of time spent together. Sometimes, couples find chemistry in texting that does not exist in person. 

On the other hand, you don’t have the advantage of using body language to accentuate your message. You can convey many messages through body language, which is a significant loss.

Today’s overuse of technology makes people unable to express emotions. They spend all their time in emotionless texts and emails instead of one-on-one communications. In face-to-face communication, you can see the outcome of what you say or do to someone.

Texting feels safe. You can remain at a level of casualness in a relationship where it neither declines nor advances. You’re alleviated from the challenge of taking things further and free of the anxiety of relationship failure.

On the other hand, relationships that rely heavily on texting can be easier to end. There is a lack of intimacy you only gain by spending time together in person.

Men use texting to distance themselves in a relationship or disengage from deeper intimacy. You’ll see them use texting to avoid hurting your feelings or growing closer if they’re afraid.

Beware that texting is a written form of communication that can be recalled later, including in legal battles. You may think you’re deleting texts, but experts can always dig them back up.

Texting Pros and Cons for Women

At the core of every fantastic relationship and great text is a conversation built out of challenging the other person. In your case, the guy you like. Your relationship will thrive if you use texting wisely and sprinkle in the right amount of face-to-face time.

Power Texting Men is a great book to help you get your texting mojo on! It provides you with tips on keeping things steamy between dates and getting him to respond to you sooner. You’ll also learn how to eliminate your texting blunders and learn the importance of timing, structure, and intent. Additionally, you’ll learn why less is more and what you can say that he’s never heard from any other woman. This book is a must-read for all women!

How to Text a Guy You Like

How to Text a Guy You Like

Learning how to text a guy you like is critical in attracting and keeping a great guy. Women and men communicate very differently, and the chances are good that you’re making texting mistakes without even realizing it. You’re also probably sending texts that you think are enticing him, but they’re falling flat. Below are some great tips on how to text a guy you like.

Dry Texting | What is He Really Saying with His One-Word Texts?

Texting Pros and Cons for Women

How to Text a Guy You Like | Build Tension and Attraction

Women often text guys with stuff like, “Hey, how’s it going?” While you think this is a way to engage him in conversation, it isn’t. Instead, he reads it and quickly dismisses it as something that doesn’t require his attention, at least not now. Instead, try building some sexual tension and attraction with your texts.

Lack of Sexual Tension in Your Relationship? Bring it Back

Pay Attention to His Texting Habits

Communication works best when we communicate with someone in the language they best understand. I’m not talking about English versus French. Knowing how to text a guy you like means observing how he texts you.

Few men will text back right away, but if you find yourself one, your job is to reciprocate. You’re more likely to see a guy who replies anywhere from twenty minutes to two hours later.

This is normal male texting behavior. If you’re texting a guy like this, you do the same. Wait a similar amount of time to reply, and maybe just a touch longer.

No, he isn’t sitting there waiting for you to reply. He’s already moved on to something else. Get a handle on what type of texter your guy is, and then text him in kind.

How to Start a Text Conversation with a Guy

Keep Him Wanting More

When you first meet someone new, there’s excitement and chemistry, and knowing how to text a guy helps build them. It’s human nature to sell your best qualities to this person to keep them interested. This comes in the form of oversharing.

While this is very common on online dating sites, it still happens or continues in person.

You get excited and want to share every wonderful thing you’ve ever done to show this guy what a great woman you are.

The problem with this is that he soon knows everything about you, and there’s no mystery. Don’t text a guy your life story. Don’t email it or share it on your first date, either.

Instead, share one great story and let him digest it. Your life is a collection of stories, and he does want to hear them all, but not all at once.


Him: “Hey, there’s a great Monet exhibit opening this weekend. Want to go?”

You: “Sure, I’d love to. I haven’t seen anything Monet since my trip to Paris last year.”

What Just Happened?

You tossed a hint of something exciting you did. A trip to Paris intrigued him, and he was curious to know more. When did you go? Who did you go with (he’s hoping it wasn’t another guy!)?

If he asks for more information in the text, don’t provide too much. Instead, you can say something like, “Maybe someday I’ll show you some of my lacy souvenirs.”

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How to Text a Guy You Like | The Thrill of the Chase is Good, Except…

Men love to chase things like promotions, better cars, and nicer apartments or homes. They also love to chase women, but I’m not insinuating that all men only want to chase women.

There are players, who are only in it for the chase, and there are great men who enjoy chasing you because they’re interested in you.

The best way to get and keep him in chase mode is to avoid being available whenever he asks. At the same time, don’t dismiss his invitations every time, or he’ll think you’re not interested.


Him: Hey, are you free for dinner tonight? I was thinking the new Fusian place on State

You: Sorry, I can’t tonight. Yoga class starts in twenty. How about Tuesday?

What Just Happened?

Two things happened. First, you still showed interest, but you let him know you’re not his beck-and-call girl. He can’t just text you at the last minute and expect you to be available.

You probably think that’s a bad thing, but it isn’t. He knows now that you’re a busy woman, and he needs to work harder to get on your schedule. If he’s genuinely interested, he’ll do just that. If he dumps you, he wasn’t very interested.

And that’s the second thing that happened. You showed him you’re a busy woman. The risk of you smothering him is lower. It’s all in knowing how to text a guy you like!

Show Your Edgy Side

This lesson in how to text a guy you like could also be called, use your inner bitch. Now, I’m not talking about behaving in a mean or rude way, but in a playful way that shows your confidence and edginess.

Much like women are attracted to bad boys, men are attracted to women who show a little edginess. There’s no fun or challenge in someone who is agreeable and pleasant all the time. Strike a balance between being flirty and edgy.


Him: Heading out to The Pub tonight with some friends. Feel free to join

You: You’re lying. You don’t have friends 😅

Him: I bought a few last weekend. Hopefully, I got a good deal

What Just Happened?

You’re being playful and challenging him a bit. You’re showing an edgy side without coming across as a total bitch. Of course, you need to know if your guy can handle a comment like this, but you already did that when you observed his texting style.

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Keep it Short

Women text in books. Men text very few words and don’t want to read books in a text. Instead, focus on keeping your texts short and, when appropriate, flirty.

When you understand how to text a guy you like, you know that interactions that are a bit challenging are more likely to get a response. General texts like, “How was your day today?” probably won’t even get a reply.


You: How did your big presentation go today? Get anyone fired?

Him: Nailed it! My boss should be looking for a new job by next week 

What Just Happened?

First, you showed interest in something important to him. It shows you’re paying attention to what he shares and aren’t just absorbed in your life.

Second, you asked a specific question instead of the generic how was your day text. You were short and to the point.

No guy wants to read this:

Hey, I know you had your big presentation today, and I was just wondering how it went? If you don’t want to talk about it right now, it’s okay. I understand…and on and on.

Give Him Something to Work With

Men aren’t great verbal communicators. As young boys, they spend a lot of time grunting at one another. As we age, we grunt and slap each other on the back.

But, you can tease some words out of him with the right challenging texts. Knowing how to text a guy you like is all about learning how to challenge him without coming off as disinterested or aloof.


You: I enjoyed meeting your family last night. Your dad is a good-looking guy! Is he available?

Him: If you wait twenty-five years, I’ll introduce you to his twin. Meanwhile, you’re stuck with me.

You: Shoot! I hate waiting!

What Just Happened?

He should find this exchange funny. You’re just poking the bear, so to speak. He knows you aren’t interested in his dad, and you delivered a compliment without outright saying it.

I’ve said it before in this lesson on how to text a guy you like, but it’s true. Keeping things playful, mysterious, or challenging will always get you a better response than being boring as milk toast.

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How to Text a Guy You Like | Set Boundaries and Command Respect


Boundaries are essential to any relationship, whether with a guy, a best friend, or your family. Yet, many people feel that setting boundaries makes them difficult or unfriendly.

Let’s look at what boundaries are, then maybe you’ll feel better about setting them.

A boundary is a line you place between you and how you will allow someone to treat you.

For example, your guy said he would pick you up at seven for dinner, but it’s seven-thirty, and he hasn’t arrived. The next step is clear if you have a boundary about being on time.

You change into your comfy clothes and put something on Netflix. If he shows up, you explain that you assumed the date was canceled since he was so late. And no, you don’t run down the hall and change.

Yes, he can stay and binge-watch Outlander with you, but the planned date isn’t going to happen.

How do you do this in a text?

Him: Hey, I’ve got an itch to see that new thriller that just came out. When can you be ready?

You: Aw, I’d love to, but that’s really short notice. Can we do it Saturday?

Him: Yeah, sorry, sure we can! We’ll check movie times on Saturday

You don’t need to be inconsiderate when setting boundaries. Just let him know he wiggled across yours and offer a solution.

Men respect boundaries, and they’ll respect you more for having them. It shows you have self-worth, and that’s a big deal.

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Respect comes with time, but having boundaries immediately sets up an environment of respect if he’s a great guy worth having. When you learn how to text a guy you like, you’re also learning how to command respect.

Boundaries and respect can be naturally built for you if you develop and maintain a healthy and vibrant life outside your dating. Activities keep you busy and help you write that great story he wants to hear.

Think about revisiting or discovering a new hobby. Get involved in something about which you have a lot of passion, like animals or the Special Olympics. Join groups that share your interests.

All these things challenge you, and he sees that. Your desire for personal growth makes you mysterious and challenging. He respects your desire to better yourself.

How to Text a Guy You Like | Sex, Boundaries, and Respect

Yes, a guy wants to have sex with you on the first date, but this doesn’t mean he expects to. One of the first boundaries you should set for yourself relates to sex.

If you want a man to respect you, do not have sex with him on the first few dates. Only you hold power to say when you will have sex with a man.

I once coached a beautiful Russian woman who couldn’t understand why her great guy wasn’t replying to her texts. I asked her to show me what she was texting him, and she sent me very revealing and sexually charged texts.

They had only known one another for a couple of weeks, and her texts were too racy. He was even begging her to stop, but she wouldn’t. She couldn’t understand why these texts weren’t making him more interested in her. They were doing the opposite.

Sadly, I never got through to her. I suspect he finally just quit replying to her. She was raised to believe her worth was in her sex appeal, and I couldn’t get her to understand that it wasn’t. She was intelligent and articulate but felt her only value in what she could sexually offer a man.

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Avoid Seeking Approval

When you aren’t very confident, instead of wanting to entice a man with your intellect and story, you try to win his approval. This is where many of these inappropriate texts come from – a place of insecurity.

A loser or user won’t see it for that, but a great guy will drop you like a hot potato.

Avoid sending anyone nude photos of yourself. When breakups occur, those end up plastered all over the Internet. Some sites offer men and women a venue to revenge post such images.

If your guy wants to see you without clothing, tell him he must wait until you see him in person and only if you’ve been dating long enough to know he deserves you.

Am I Pushing Him Away with My Insecurities?

Confidence is the Key

Throughout this entire article, the one thing that means more than anything else is your confidence. You’ll be afraid to try the racy and edgy texts without confidence. Without confidence, you won’t set or maintain your boundaries. Without confidence, you won’t command respect.

Confident women are women who:

  • Allow a guy to have sex only after he’s proven his value in her life and not one moment sooner
  • Have and maintain boundaries, with no exceptions
  • Command respect because they respect themselves and are constantly working to improve themselves
  • Aren’t needy
  • Don’t get jealous
  • Stay busy, even after there is a great guy in their lives
  • Aren’t afraid to be a little edgy and playful
  • Have a great story and are still writing

If you don’t feel confident enough right now to pull off the advice above, start with Comfortable in Your Own Shoes, linked below. I’ve also linked my two texting books if you think you can handle it. They will help you immensely in your quest to learn how to text a guy you like.

How to Be More Confident Around Guys You Like

How's your confidence these days? More specifically, how's your dating confidence? The answer to both is easy. They're probably lower than you'd like. Confidence is sexy. It draws great men like bees to a honey pot. The bonus is that the players also sense your confidence and they steer clear of you. Double bonus!

But how does a woman rebuild her confidence? That's easy! Start with this best-seller, Comfortable in Your Own Shoes. It's the definitive confidence-building book written just for women like you. Women who need to rebuild their confidence after one life event after another have left you feeling a little down. This book will walk you through the easy but methodial steps of regaining your swagger and confidence! Great men will be falling all over themselves to date you. Read more about the book here or click one of the buttons below to buy the book now.

Without knowing it, you're making big texting mistakes when you text men. Lucky for you, I have the solution! Text Him This, Not That takes care of all these blunders and helps you text a guy in a way that makes him want to text you back sooner!

You'll learn the importance of less is more, how to invite a guy to hang out without really inviting him and tons more! Read more about this great book here or buy it today by clicking one of the links below!

dating advice for women books

Texting men can be challenging. How do you get him to reply faster? What do you say so you don’t screw up the entire relationship? These questions and more are answered in this best-seller! Full of example texts, this book helps you know what to text and when.

You’ll quickly learn how to say what you want to say in a way that intrigues him, instead of putting him off or causing him to give up all together.

Without knowing it, women make dozens of texting blunders all the time. Fix yours now and gain an upper hand over your competition!

Top 10 Texting Blunders Women Make

Top 10 Texting Blunders Women Make

Texting mistakes that turn guys off are not always obvious to women. That’s because women text guys like they text other women and don’t understand how the male “texting mind” works. These texting blunders can be fixed with a few simple tips.

In my dating advice, like that given in my best seller, Power Texting Men, texting men is all about flirting, building excitement and getting a guy to the next date. But many women treat it as much more and that is not a good thing! I have compiled my top 10 texting blunders below.

Texting Mistakes that Turn Guys Off: You don’t change up when you text

Don’t text him every morning at 9 and each night before bed at 11. That shouts, “I lead a boring, scheduled life.” Keep him on his toes by texting him at different times of day.

Drunk texting

Need I say more? We have all done it – and regretted it. Shut down your phone, give it to your girlfriend or leave it inside your car. He doesn’t need to be told “I love you” 14 times.

Texting like he is your girlfriend

Ah, no. Don’t contact him and tell him about your day at the mall. He does not want to know how much money you saved by buying 10 pairs of shoes instead of 5. Victoria’s Secret? That’s a different text all together!

Texting Mistakes that Turn Guys Off

Texting like a 10 year old

“SRSLY! BTW, wut u doin 2nite?” Please! You are going to make me puke. Yes, it was cute when we were both were 10, but not now. Do this now and we are on to greener texting pastures.


Yet another bad idea. Sites are popping up all over the place that long for these naked pics so men can get even with their ex’s. Don’t do it. If you must, then no head shots. Maybe show a little cleavage or low panty lines – this gets guys even more horny.

Texting that leads nowhere

Don’t text him something like, “Wow, a just saw a cool car go by.” I’m thinking, who cares? How am I supposed to respond to that? And yet, I must. Again, texting is for flirting, getting to a date or building excitement between dates – and that’s it!

Texting Blunders: You went too heavy!

No. No! And NO! Never tell a man serious crap by texting. “Where are we headed in this relationship” or “I love you more than ever today” is not for texting. In fact, it should never happen anyway but do it in a text and you will be buying my book, How to Get Your Ex Back Fast!

The apology text

This is similar to the last one, but it stands alone because it is so awful! Never apologize to man, and this includes JK (just kidding), unless you run over his dog in his driveway.

Learn how to start a text conversation with a guy

Double and triple texting

Not good. This makes you look desperate. If you ask him a question and he doesn’t respond, don’t ask again or say, “Did you get my text?” Of course he got your text. Be a high-value woman and shut it down until he texts you. This a common texting mistake that turns a guy off.

Chat room texting

Don’t rapid text like you are Skyping or IM’ing. Texting is a slow process, or it should be on your end. Slow it down and text back minutes, hours, days or even weeks later.

Avoid these 10 texting blunders and watch the men on the opposite end of your text start making these 10 mistakes!!! This is a good thing.

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