I have decided to make 2016 the year for taking personal responsibility! Here’s the thing, though. I need you to join me! It’s never fun to do something like this alone. Just so you know how committed I am to dragging you along, let me show you what I did! I wrapped my truck! Can you believe it? I can’t believe the response I’ve gotten! I park at the mall and when I come out, someone is always waiting to talk to me! Of course, my guy friends are giving me all kinds of crap for it, but I can take it! But, I digress… Big things are in store for us in 2016, I hope you are as excited about this New Year as I am! This is your year to stop the insanity! No more excuses! It’s time to find love – find that one great partner! Are you ready? No? Well, get ready because I’m about to get tough! (And I don’t get tough often!) You need to make a decision. Do you want to find love or not? I mean really – you have all the tools. I have twelve of the best books on the market covering almost everything you need to know. So why are you not applying my tactics? Nevermind, I know…

• “Gregg, it’s hard.”
• “I don’t have the time.”
• “Online dating sucks, they are all creeps.”
• “I’m overweight so I never get chosen.”

Excuses! All of them! I have a close friend, Peter, who can’t lose weight. I usually stay out of “Gregg the life coach mode”, with my close friends unless they ask but I stepped in the poo last week. Peter is 40 pounds overweight and complains daily about how the gym sucks. He tried another gym and he said the same thing to me. I couldn’t take it anymore. I said, “Peter, it’s not the gyms – it’s you. The gym is just a big space with weights and machines which just sit there. They have no personality. You need to do something with them. The refrigerator is very similar – a machine that you need to stock with foods which will keep you thin – but you need to stock it with food which will keep you thin!” Yeah, I pissed him off – wasn’t the first time, and it won’t be the last. But do you understand my message? I am holding you accountable this year! I want you to find love, but you need to give it more than just a half-ass effort. Online dating doesn’t suck if you know what you are doing.

• Are you screening multiple guys as I describe in Love is in The Mouse?
• Are you asking the right questions?
• Are you rotating your pics and visiting the site every day so you stay at the top?
• Are you casting your net wide?
• Are you presenting your best side, both with your profile and your pics?
• Did you take my confidence course before you started dating?

If you are doing these things for real then you are tossing out the losers, the couch potatoes and the users! If you are committing to yourself and absorbing my information, then you are having success – you have no choice. The quality guys are there, but they need to see you. You need to rise above the others. One of the biggest issues I’m seeing over and over is women are picking and hanging onto the wrong guy! STOP IT! As a single woman who follows my advice, you are surrounding yourself with several men. This helps you avoid falling into a dangerous trap. When you only date one guy at a time, you can immediately latch onto him, thinking he should return the favor. The problem is, he shouldn’t, and why would he anyway? You don’t know enough about him or vice versa. You don’t know if he is emotionally available, dating and totally getting into someone else, or what’s going on in his life which may make him a wet kitten – all things which make him a wrong guy for you. When a guy isn’t right for you, don’t take it personally, be glad you found out before too much time has passed. Timing is everything. This same thing applies to ex-boyfriends and husbands. If he won’t deal with his alcoholism, hasn’t supported himself for the last 12 years, and/or isn’t divorced yet, lose him! I don’t care if his penis is twelve feet long, you need to lose him and find the man who is right for you. I say these things because I care for you. We need to step up – all of us! This includes me, in fact let’s make a promise to each other to try harder in 2016.  I am setting new goals and I am going to be there for more of you, more often, with the advice and the motivation you need, but you need to do your part. You need to absorb this information and apply it! Deal? Awesome! Hopefully, I am helping you today or maybe, like my friend, Peter, I am pissing you off – that’s your decision to make but my heart is in the right place. Gregg…your Drill Sergeant. P.S. If you see me in my truck in the Boston area, (above) give a shout out and say “Hi!”