3 Tips to Find a Man of Your Dreams

3 Tips to Find a Man of Your Dreams

Today is Groundhog Day, and that got me thinking about how sometimes women act like groundhogs when trying to find a man of their dreams.

How can I be so insulting? We only hear about groundhogs once a year when they pop their heads out to find their shadow or not. Some women do the same thing in their pursuit of a man.

You can’t find a man of your dreams if you only try once in a while! You need to get out there often and create opportunities for finding love.

Yeah, you tell me you just can’t find him, and yet when I ask how many hours the past week you dedicated yourself to trying, I get, “Ah, well, I went grocery shopping and saw a cute guy. Does that count?”

No, because you went out to get Cheerios and not to find a man of your dreams.

Instead of thinking about finding a great guy as drudgery, think of it as an adventure. It’s a way to have fun with your friends. The bonus is the great guy! 

Here are three tips to find a man of your dreams.

Take Advantage of All the Opportunities Life Gives You

If you see a cute guy getting on the elevator, follow him to his floor! Have a line ready, like “I’m lost. Can you help me find the cafeteria?” and “Are you hungry?” If you are at a local fair and see a couple of guys eating cotton candy, get some cotton candy!

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Find a Man of Your Dreams | Mix up Your Routine

Are most of your days like the movie Groundhog Day where every day is exactly the same as the last? I bet you drive through the same coffee place, eat at the same place for lunch, and work out at the same gym at the same time every day.

I get it. People develop habits that can be suitable for some areas of their life. But breaking habits can be good too. It provides exposure to different people, and it keeps your mind sharp. Think about it. How many times a week do you need to drive by your home after leaving to make sure you put the garage door down when you left? It’s so automatic that when you stop to wonder, you don’t know whether it’s down or not.

Then, you get a new car or a new garage door opener, and you’re forced to think about where the button is. For a few weeks, you don’t wonder because putting the door down was a conscious effort.

Study Comedy

Train yourself to be funny by watching comedians. Watch them on YouTube and make yourself a funny person people will love. Men are attracted to funny women! Study how the pros get people to laugh with their lines and delivery and develop your style. You can be a funny, adorable groundhog!

Furthermore, knowing that you can make a guy laugh will give you the confidence to jump on that elevator and ask him to lunch.

I have roughly twenty set lines in my get them to laugh, arsenal. All I need to do is set up the situation to use them.

For example, I love to eat rare steak.  I have a place near Delray Beach, Florida, where eating alone at an outside bar is standard. Lots of people eat alone. I make it a point to sit down next to someone I want to meet. Then, when my steak arrives, I poke the thing with my fork and say aloud, “A skilled veterinarian could bring this back to life!”

Everyone who has ever heard this has laughed profusely. Suppose a woman said that to me; I would love to talk to her. Try it!

So you see, you are no match for a groundhog when it comes to finding Mr. Right, so pop out of your home more often so guys can see your shadow!

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A Girl Walks into a Bar…How to Navigate the Bar Scene

A Girl Walks into a Bar…How to Navigate the Bar Scene

Tiffany here. Let’s talk about navigating the bar scene. I was never a big fan of the bar scene. There were always too many people crammed into a small, smoky space and the noise made it impossible to have a decent conversation. Any time a guy would approach me, he would be shouting cheesy pick up lines and I would inevitably get squished and bumped as I struggled to keep my drink from spilling. Then, when I’d hit the dance floor, it always ended with me sandwiched between two creeps as I struggled to break free from my “Nightmare” at the Roxbury. I’m probably dating myself here by referencing a silly movie from the 90s, but back then, that was pretty much how it was. If you wanted to meet men, you suffered through the sandwich dancing, the crowds, the noise and the spilled drinks. If you were smart, you kept a fake wedding ring in your pocket for emergencies — sorry, married.

Today’s Bar Scene

Fast forward almost 20 years and boy have times changed! Sure, you’ll find the occasional rowdy dive, but for the most part, bars have grown up. They are stylish and hip with room to breathe, designed with talking and mingling in mind. But, while the atmosphere has changed for the better, guys sadly remain the same. It’s finally time to face the facts ladies. Most guys who frequent bars want one thing, and you know what it is! The worst thing of all is they know how to get it. It’s scary, really — like being in a shark tank where he’s the predator and you’re the prey. You’ve been warned.

Plenty of (Good) Fish

What’s a single girl to do? Well, there are plenty of good fish in the sea – swimming around with those sharks. Bars are a great place to meet new people, but how do you avoid the sharks and find that good guy that’s worth dating? If you’ve read any of Gregg Michaelsen’s best dating books, you have learned how to be in charge. You are a confident, quality woman who can have her pick of men so choose wisely. Learn to identify the real men from the predators and just keep swimming! Sharks are masters of conversation. They are confident. They come right up to you and ask you a lot of questions to make you believe they are interested in you as a person. They are charming and exciting and turn your brain to mush. They do everything right — but they are not authentic. They are pros.

Navigate the Bar Scene Wisely

Think about it. A guy who is that impressive — who knows how to look and act just right — has probably had a lot of practice. On the other hand, the guy who is nervous and stumbles over his words fails to impress because he does not do this often. He’s authentic. Same thing applies to the guy who ignores you. He probably wants to come over but is too afraid. Ditch the shark, and give this guy a chance! Talk to him for a while and see what happens. He might be perfect for you once he’s comfortable and you get to know him better.

Catching Mr. Right

Now that you know how to weed out the sharks, how do you find those good guys that are worth dating? They are out there, but they may not approach you, and they may not be immediately obvious either. Maybe they are playing pool, or sitting at the bar with their buddies, but they notice you. They are just too nervous to approach you. If you notice a guy who catches your attention and seems authentic watching you from across the room, don’t be afraid to make contact. It could be as simple as getting up and walking past his table, or following him up to the bar. As you pass, throw in a glance and a smile. Make eye contact. Make it easy for him to approach you without fear of being humiliated. Keep this in mind – men don’t always pick up on non-verbal cues so if he’s still not catching on, don’t give up. He is interested, but he may need an extra dose of confidence. Make it easy and make the first move. Approach him and strike up a conversation. If you’re not comfortable with that, just wave him over! Chances are, with encouragement from you, he will come. Now that you know how to tell the good guys from the bad, you should be able to navigate the bar scene. Beat it sharks — it’s only smooth sailing from here in the dating pool!
10 Unusual Places to Find Mr. Right

10 Unusual Places to Find Mr. Right

Where to Find Mr Right

Bars get old fast—and the guys there aren’t exactly keepers. I thought you might enjoy discovering a few new places where to find Mr Right.

It’s a great big world out there. If you’re limiting your options to just the guys you meet at bars, or at work, you’re doing it all wrong! Here’s a great list of places that are far more specific, and have a tendency to bring in A-list guys that are actually worth dating.

#1: Parks

Tug on your snow boots, scarf, hat and parka, grab your dog (or borrow one from somebody) and take a stroll at a park you know has plenty of activity in the late afternoon/early evening. Parks are awesome because you can find guys that are active and take care of themselves. Your borrowed dog makes for a great conversation starter. Catch up to a good lookin’ guy and tell him his shoelace looks loose. Bam! Instant conversation.

#2: Workshops

Not just any workshop mind you, but one that you might actually enjoy. This could be related to dancing, writing, or something active like snowboarding during certain times of the year. Book clubs are also cool—although you’ll need to find one that caters to the age group that interests you.

#3: Tastings

Tastings are awesome venues to meet guys. Your best bet is to go for something like a tequila tasting or whisky tasting that is being run by a charity group or some other organization raising money. Beer tastings work too! Find out where they’re being held, grab a friend (but don’t cling to her!) and get to flirting.

#4 Volunteering

Finding a good volunteer group could land you a great guy. Your best bet is to look for groups organized on college campuses. You can get even more specific by finding a group that is engaged with work that interests you.

#5: Weddings

Weddings don’t come around all the time, but when they do, they’re the perfect place to find an eligible bachelor. The bride and groom probably invited a ton of friends—not just a close circle that you may already know. It’s likely that some of those plus-ones aren’t very attached to the person that brought them.

Weddings can be a great place to meet a guy and make connections

#6: Business Seminars

There’s nothing like a business seminar to locate fellow-minded workaholics. If you’re an ambitious working woman and you want a guy that’s going to share your drive and dedication, why not check out some of the local business seminars going on around town? If it’s slim pickings, try looking at the largest nearby city.. Who knows, with the right seminar, you may have a lot to discuss with someone over drinks after the event.

#7: Museums and Art Galleries

Cultured men aren’t likely to approach you in your jean miniskirt and tube top at the local college pub, but that won’t be the case if you’re downtown checking out new exhibit that just came to town. Don’t know much about art? No problem. Guys are insanely happy when women ask them questions. Keep shooting them his way and he’ll ask you to dinner in no time.

#8: Casinos

More specifically, blackjack tables. A blackjack table is always packed with guys. The churn is fast enough that it feels like speed dating in some cases, and if those reasons aren’t good enough, guys love seeing women hanging out, having a drink, and playing cards. Don’t wait to find a table with cute guys. Grab the first open table you see and watch the men come to you.

#9: Music Festivals and Concerts

You already love the music. Wouldn’t it be great to meet a guy who enjoyed it also? Instant conversation starter right there. And because these events attract a huge number of people, there is a great selection of guys available.

#10: Blood Drives

Blood drives are always going on, and they tend to attract people that aren’t entirely self-centered. If you get lucky you’ll find yourself sitting by a good looking fella. If not—don’t worry. Blood drives always have a snack bar nearby where people hang around before heading out. Bump into someone on accident and tell them “must have been the blood loss. I’m feeling a bit dizzy!”

In what types of unique places have you stumbled upon men?

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