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The Top 5 First Date Do’s and Don’ts for 2016

The Top 5 First Date Do’s and Don’ts

It’s the start of a new year, and the perfect time to talk about first dates. Going out with a totally new guy can be both exciting and nerve wracking at the same time! You can’t wait to hang out with him one-on-one, but all the while, your mind is full of what-ifs and worry.

I’m here to help you stop stressing with the top five first date do’s and don’ts for 2016!

DO: Be Yourself

The best way to ensure a second date, and possibly a successful relationship in the future, is to be real. Trying to be something you are not, in the way you act AND in the way you present yourself, will only backfire and lead to disaster.

Don’t wear a fancy dress and heels if you’re a jeans and boots kind of girl, and don’t say you love skydiving if you’re not prepared to jump out of a plane. It’s as simple as that. If he doesn’t like you for who you are, he’s not the right guy for you.

DO: Be On Time

There’s no such thing as fashionably late. If you are meeting him at 8PM, it does not mean leave the house at 8PM. It means be there at 8PM, or slightly earlier. After 30 minutes, he will probably think you’re a no-show and take off.

If he does wait for you, at the least, you’ve been just plain inconsiderate. If it normally takes you two hours to do your hair and get ready, plan accordingly.

DO: Keep Comfort in Mind

On a first date, or any subsequent date for that matter, you want to be able to focus on the conversation, and spend your time enjoying his company and getting to know him better. You don’t want to be distracted by shoes that pinch your feet, no matter how sexy they are.

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Avoid worrying about things popping out that shouldn’t by choosing your wardrobe wisely. You can look great and still be somewhat comfortable. Remember, you need to be able to walk, talk and breathe.

DON’T: Be Wishy-Washy

If he asks you what you want to do, be decisive and involved. Don’t say. “I don’t know, whatever you want to do is fine.” You may just end up at some freaky movie that scares the crap out of you and eating sushi when you’re allergic to fish.

You’ll both end up feeling bad about how the date went if you let him make all the decisions and things go awry. How long can you really keep up appearances? Wishy-washy can get old real fast for everyone involved. Guys tend to like a girl who speaks up.

DON’T: Starve

If he orders steak and you want steak, order steak. If you love pasta, order pasta. Don’t just poke around a side salad and pretend that’s all you need. Guys will tell you there’s nothing more uncomfortable than a girl who won’t eat on a date.

Besides, you may end up “hangry” (hungry/angry) if you starve yourself, and that’s probably not the best way to make a good first impression. If you’re worried about a goodnight kiss, keep some gum or mints in your pocket for later.

DON’T: Overshare

Some of us tend to talk a lot when we’re nervous. Let him get to know you, but don’t over share or monopolize the conversation. He does not need to know every last messy detail about your life on a first date.

Ask him questions about his job, his friends and family, his hobbies, and favorite bands or TV shows to keep the conversation naturally flowing back and forth between the two of you. Don’t interrupt what he is saying, even if something awesome and relatable pops in your head, it can wait until he’s done.

More First Date Do’s and Don’ts

DO: Put your phone away — status updates can wait
DON’T: Run to the bathroom every five minutes to check your hair and makeup
DO: Pay attention and be a good listener
DON’T: Mention other guys
DO: Offer To Pay or Split the Bill. If he declines, at least leave the tip or pay for the popcorn. If he accepts, be prepared to actually pay
DON’T: Drink too much
DO: Send a quick and casual, “Had a great time, thanks again!” text afterwards
DON’T: Send him a long and intense, “I had the best time, you are the perfect guy for me, I can’t wait to see you again and introduce you to my family and BFFs, how does tomorrow sound XOXOX?” text afterwards and stalk him until he responds

Here’s To A Happy (and Romantic) New Year!

5 Little Hints to Help Him Take Valentine’s Day Seriously

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Subtly coaxing him to do what you want on this special day is ALWAYS preferable to nagging.

I know, I know, you wish your guy would just take Valentine’s Day seriously WITHOUT you having to remind him. And God help him if he forgets about it entirely…oh man, he’s in for it!

What if you could get him to take Valentine’s Day seriously without saying a word? Well, if you follow the advice in this blog, it’s definitely possible! These little tips will have him thinking about Valentine’s Day without you saying a word.

Tip #1: Ask your friends what they’re doing for Valentine’s Day over the phone and within hearing distance of your man

For even greater effect, pick up the phone, walk away into the bedroom as if you’re having a private conversation and then start a long conversation about what your friend and her boyfriend are doing. “Oh, he’s taking you out to the Ritz Carlton! All weekend? Holy cow you’re going to have a lot of fun!”

Trust me, he’ll hear this conversation, get really annoyed that you’re jealous of your friend and get to work planning something for you guys too. Unless, of course, he’s extremely lazy, in which case proceed to Tip #2.

Tip #2: “Accidentally” leave some Valentine’s Day-inspired lingerie for him to find

Tell him you’re going out shopping with friends, making sure you come home with a handful of bags from different stores. Set it all on the bed and subtly let your Victoria’s Secret bag fall to its side and inconspicuously show some of that red and white lace.

Set it up as if you just threw the bags down on the bed and one of the bags just happened to “oops” spill its contents. Let it sit there until you know he’s gone in and out of the room. Unless he is a complete idiot, he’ll make the connection to Valentine’s Day and get to work on a plan.

Tip #3: Tell him you have a surprise for him, but do not mention Valentine’s Day

The words Valentine’s Day should not come out of your mouth. Nothing about the date or anything related to it! Just say you have a surprise for him and you’re excited about it. This will either be you in your Valentine’s Day lingerie which he already saw or another gift you have in mind.

Remember, not a word about the day. If he asks you when, be coy about it and tell him soon. If he asks what the occasion is, say “no occasion” and let it slide. If he calls you out on it and mention’s Valentine’s Day, just smile and say “maybe.”

Tip #4: Play the jealousy card

No, I don’t mean go out with other guys for real. Instead, you’ll want to say you’re going out to dinner with a good friend and her friends. Don’t even specify what “her friends” means. If it’s a single friend your guy knows, even better. The goal is to get him thinking about you going out with other people. This will, in turn, get his mind churning over ways to win you over again. He’ll quickly target Valentine’s Day as the perfect time to surprise you with something awesome.

Tip #5: Keep some Valentine’s Day gift ideas up on a minimized internet window on your computer

Ideally this is a computer or tablet that he uses too. You want him to log on, open up the internet browser, and see something like “gift ideas for guys on Valentine’s Day.” If he hasn’t gotten you anything yet, he’ll feel so guilty for not doing so that he’ll buy you something the next day.

Final thoughts

Trust me, men literally shut down when a woman brings up the dreaded V-Day. It makes us feel obligated to buy some flowers and chocolates—something that we think is boring and you won’t care about anyway. But if you’re subtle about it and avoid any mention of it, you can still manage to get his manly jealousy aroused and engaged in trying to woo you. He WILL make your Valentine’s Day a special occasion.