Men like to make decisions without consulting with others – they want to get to the bottom line.
Bridge the Gap
Men think women ask too many questions. They prefer to make decisions by thinking them through, not by asking others. When a man hears a question, he interprets this as a request for a plan of action, which he then sets out to supply. His objective is to get to the finish line – solve the problem.
When a woman is trying to reach a decision, she begins by asking questions with the ultimate purpose of building a concensus. Women are in no hurry to solve the problem. They feel that taking time to solve the problem is essential, so when a man provides an immediate solution, she can feel frustrated.
When she asks a man a question, since he sees this as a request for a plan of action, he will provide one, but he will be upset when the woman continues to ask questions. This causes him to feel rejected. He will be frustrated because the woman continues asking questions. She will feel frustrated because he has rushed to a decision, in her mind, without gathering all of the necessary information.
The bridge, then, is to gather your data before having a discussion with your man. If you need to go on a fact-finding mission, do it before you ask your man for his decision. He is going to come to a decision much more quickly than you will and if you keep asking questions after he has done so, he’s going to feel rejected.