The Old Bait and Switch

Jen: “You are one sexy guy”
Steve: “Really? Thanks!”
Jen’s correct response: “Oops, sorry Steve! You’re one sexy guy too!” effects Steve in this way:

  • Steve’s emotions have just gone from “WOW she’s hot for me!” to “WHAAAAAAAAAaaat?”
  • Steve is wondering who she meant to send that text to and why it wasn’t him to begin with!
  • Steve is mad at himself for not stepping up to be the only guy she would send that text;
  • Steve will be trying harder to get her attention away from this other guy!

It may seem as if Steve would walk away at this point…but he won’t!

Jen: “You are one sexy guy”
Steve: “Really? Thanks!”
Jen’s incorrect response: “Yeah! I think you’re really hot!” effects Steve in this way:

  • This presents no challenge for Steve, AT ALL;
  • Steve may even view this girl as a Rest Stop;
  • Steve will not view is relationship with Jen as serious, and eventually he will stop calling her.